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  • 08-01-2015 5:27pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm going unregistered for this. I have a child with a foreign man. Said man bullied me by text and phone call regarding something he needed from me for three months until we went to court and I got put on the order that he was to text me about nothing other than our child. No he is bombarding me with texts again on the same issue and just won't listen no matter how many times I say no. I don't want to say what it is he's looking for but it puts me in an uncomfortable position. I know many of you will say block him or change your number but it's not as easy as that. I have to stay contactable because of our child. Any advice?


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  • #2
    Tokyo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,656 ✭✭✭✭Tokyo


    If he's still bullying you via text messages after you've had your day in court, then he's in breach of the order to only contact you on matters relating to your child. The obvious course of action here would be to (a) report these text messages to the authorities - if he's in the country then they can have words with him over it, and if he's not, it's still important to report these things and have them on record, and (b) ignore all text messages that aren't specifically about your child and his role in raising that child.


  • #3
    JillyQ
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,382 ✭✭✭JillyQ


    Report him to the Gardai he is in breach of a court order.


  • #4
    ABajaninCork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,411 ✭✭✭ABajaninCork


    OP - Didn't you post about this issue in the Legal forum before??

    If it's what I think he's texting you for, then I'd get in touch with the Gards at once. Tell them he's breaking the order (and more besides IYKWIM). Show the relevant parties the texts too.


  • #5
    Shrap
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,163 ✭✭✭Shrap


    Something I learned with time is that you don't have to stay contactable unless the other parent has the child. Of course, arrangements have to be made if there is access to be arranged, but it's safe to say that you genuinely are in charge of when he contacts you and about what. You don't have to answer the phone.

    Clearly, he's ignoring that you have an order telling him this already, and I don't know what kind of danger you're in if any, but perhaps letting him know that there will be a designated evening between x and y hours where he can contact you about your child, and that all irrelevant subject matter will be ignored? You could even have another phone just to answer him on the subject of your child, at the specific time only so he didn't bother you the rest of the week.

    But I'd get advice from whatever authorities you could go to about his breach of the order. It sounds like a hard time you're having hon. Hang tough, as they say.


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