When did you cut your family off??

Jeremyr

Current situation


Mother died years ago

Father is also dead


I have other family members ,uncles,grandmother etc


They weren't really around much when i was younger,have nothing in common etc


I'm in the process of buying a place and thinking about cutting them off completely


Just wondering have many of you done the same?? Also at what point did you decide to cut them off

Jeremyr

Anyone?

Saralee4

do you have a reason to cut them off?

I know you don't have much in common with them but sometimes at different times in our lives we get closer to family. If you don't have a reason to cut them off then I would just distance myself if that's what you want but still keep in touch to an extent.

woodchuck

What would 'cutting them off' involve exactly and why would you want to do this? If you're not that close and you don't have much in common, then it's normal that you might naturally have less contact and drift apart over the years. But I don't see why you would make a conscious decision to 'cut them off' if there isn't a reason?

Rubberchikken

It depends what you actually mean. Is it stop exchanging christmas/birthday cards or, if they're in your locality, just basically ignoring them?

I can understand that you might be feeling hurt that they haven't really involved themselves in your life but maybe there are reasons you're not aware of.

HalloweenJack

What does cutting them off involve? Do you have much contact with them at present?

I ask because if the answer to the second question is no then you can just let it die naturally by not responding to them. Cutting them off sounds a lot more dramatic if that's the case.

endacl

Relationships are a two way street, OP. What have you done to cultivate them?

bjork

It seems very dramatic thing to do and the only reasoning for doing it that I can see from your post is because you are in the process of buying your own house?


Unless there is more to it, it smacks of "I'm all independent and grown up now don't need no family no more"


Are you even going to cut the relative off that is letting you stay in their house for cheap rent atm?

FluffyAngel

Maybe this is what you need to do for you right now ,but (theres allways a but) leave the door open in your heart to reengageing with your familly at some point ..

its a bit like leaving home for the first time and not contacting for weeks
your now standing on your own and can do it without support

Stavro Mueller

bjork wrote: »

Are you even going to cut the relative off that is letting you stay in their house for cheap rent atm?

Good point. Because this relative has been good enough to put you up so cheaply, it has saved you from paying Dublin rent and enabled you to accumulate a bigger savings pot. While I get the impression from your other thread that you're not totally happy where you're living, is that really a reason to cut them off?

FurBabyMomma

From this and your other thread it sounds like you're using your family and then dumping them. Sounds like they didn't cut you off in your time of need so at 25 I'd be holding off on cutting them off - you've many years left and family might become important in your life again when you're older. Unless they've been abusive to you it won't hurt to maintain even casual contact.