Worried that I might have HIV

LegacyUser

A few months ago I was reading a newspaper article on HIV which prompted me into reading up on the internet as to what HIV actually is and all that. I read up on something called seroconversion - an early stage of HIV where after infection some people display flu like symptoms.

This had me casting my mind to three years previous to this where I met someone new. Around 5 days after sleeping with him, I became ill and I remember it somewhat OK but time has passed so memory is clouded. I remember it was Friday and at lunch time I went out from work for lunch to a coffee. Towards the end of my meal, I began to feel very full and nauseous. Back at work around 2 hours later, I was in the bathroom with tummy cramps, feeling faint and vomiting. I also had a slight temperature when I checked at home that night. I can't remember how long I was ill for. A day or two perhaps with tiredness following. I put that down to food poisoning.

Now I'm worried I have HIV. We used condoms for sexual intercourse. He also stuck his penis into my mouth but a blowjob was only brief (like a minute if that before he withdrew). That was without a condom. He also fingered me. I have so much scenarios running through my head like what if he had a cut on his fingers.

After our time together, he ditched me keeping me on the back burner so it was only sex he was after from me. I also learned after this that he was a man wh0re.

My worries have been on and off for the past few months. I never had an STI test done before and then there is the waiting for the results and what if results come back and I'm HIV positive.

Something else to add to this, I went back to the same coffee shop at some stage after that and I ate there again and experienced an unwell feeling again but I don't think there was any vomiting. I then went in for a coffee last year and ordered a dessert to go with that and the dairy in the dessert was off. So maybe it was food poisoning after all. I rarely get sick though and I eat out a lot without having any problems.

Tokyo

Hi OP,

I'm going to close this thread, because really the only advice anybody can give you here is to tell you to see a medical professional. However, to put your mind at ease somewhat, "flu like symptoms" can be attributed to many different things, including the flu of course, and going from what you have said about your sexual history with this person and the fact that you always took precautions for penetrative sex, the odds are extremely low that you have anything to worry about.

Having said that, regular STI tests should be a part of any sexually active person's routine, so to put your mind at ease more than anything else, arrange an appointment with your local clinic as soon as possible.