what to do with my life

toblerone_tony

here's a brief of my life at the min

im 34 , broke up with ex in oct after 5 years and 2 gorgeous kids

im overweight , no real friends , all old friends just stay in same pub week in and out and don't venture anywhere else

i've lived with anxiety panic attacks for 18 years to a point it affects where i go , cant go on holidays or take kids away

just had an mri on my back as i think i have sciatica pain down my leg and i can hardly walk at the min

i just feel full of fear and dread about life

Sauve

Hi OP,
Im going to move your thread to the Personal Issues forum, I think you'll get good advice there. Please note that their charter now applies.

Sauve

toblerone_tony

cheers

LegacyUser

Hi OP. I also lived with dreadful anxiety and it really was a hinderence on my life. I went to my doctor and she prescribed anti depressants which have so far helped a lot.

I would definitely advise seeing your doctor who may be able to help with your anxiety, once this has been looked after them you can begin to look at the other issues in your life.

Take care.

greengirl31

OP, you seem to be stuck in a rut and as much as you might not want to hear this, the only one who can get you out of it is yourself.

First of all, I’d go to your GP about the panic attacks … If they’re impacting your life you need to know how to deal and manage them. Your GP may not be able to help directly but they’ll be able to point you in the right direction.

Then, try to do something about your weight as it appears to bother you. Start with changing your diet … I used weight watchers years ago and found them fantastic – you can go to a meeting but I know there is a lot of online options now too. I know at the moment exercise may be limited given the sciatica but If you’ve been referred to a physiotherapist (I’m not sure if this is what would normally happen with sciatica) they may be able to recommend some gentle exercise. The weight loss and exercise will probably benefit your sciatica and it will also help your mental health.

I know none of these things are easy but set yourself little targets and once you start to achieve these, the sense of achievement will motivate you to keep going.

Good luck

shuffle65

Agree with the other posters, go see your GP about your anxiety/panic attacks, and perhaps with your weight issues. I imagine losing weight would help with your back/sciatica problems? But then again I'm no expert, your GP would be best placed to advise you.

toblerone_tony

thanks for the replies

im on anti-depressants etc im looking to get an appointment to st pats out-patient clinic , once a week to do cbt

regarding the weight , im joining slimming world tommorow also

regarding the back pain , i had an mri last week so im waiting to see an orthopedic surgeon in the matter private

shuffle65

Good for you! great to see somebody being proactive, good luck and happy new year

December2012

Just because you can't take your kids away you should still be able to see them, spend time with them and just be around them. Are you getting to see them as much as you would like?

did you want the relationship to end?