3 months - is it over?

isitover

Going out with a lovely girl for about three months. All seemed well until a few weeks back.

I emailed her the link to a restaurant and asked would she like to go some night and got no reply, fair 'nuff

We went for a walk one evening later that week and also to the shops to get Christmas wrapping paper. We arranged to meet up that weekend and all seemed great.

That weekend I texted to confirm the time and was texted back hey sorry can't meet. There was no explanation and no offer for another time. I just replied no problem we can meet the following weekend. Asked by text on the Thursday did she want to meet up and got no reply, she went home for Christmas so it's about two weeks now without talking.

I can't ask a 4th time! I have no closure here, no idea what I did wrong, should I just move on and forget about it? I know you'll say pick up the phone but we communicated by text just fine before. Anytime in the past when I called she would never answer, would just text me later. Just move on so and forget about it?

Tokyo

Yes, unfortunately - it does look that way.

Raminahobbin

Looks like it OP, sorry
Absolutely lousy of her to just cut contact like that, but it's not exceptionally unusual and a couple of my friends have been where you are.
Good riddance to her- once you're over the confusion of it, you'll see that she's a coward and you're better off without someone who thinks it's okay to treat people like that. Try not to let this affect your own sense of self-worth; it's likely she just wasn't feeling it and chose to be a dick over doing the honourable thing and having the conversation.

honey79

isitover wrote: »

Going out with a lovely girl for about three months. All seemed well until a few weeks back.

I emailed her the link to a restaurant and asked would she like to go some night and got no reply, fair 'nuff

We went for a walk one evening later that week and also to the shops to get Christmas wrapping paper. We arranged to meet up that weekend and all seemed great.

That weekend I texted to confirm the time and was texted back hey sorry can't meet. There was no explanation and no offer for another time. I just replied no problem we can meet the following weekend. Asked by text on the Thursday did she want to meet up and got no reply, she went home for Christmas so it's about two weeks now without talking.

I can't ask a 4th time! I have no closure here, no idea what I did wrong, should I just move on and forget about it? I know you'll say pick up the phone but we communicated by text just fine before. Anytime in the past when I called she would never answer, would just text me later. Just move on so and forget about it?

Looks that way OP , It won't feel like it now but if she is the type of person that can't even be straight with you imagine the future you would have together nobody needs mind games sounds like a lucky escape

LegacyUser

Some people just can't end relationships properly.

They either act in a way that makes the other person end it or they just ignore the other person until there is no more contact from them. It sounds like this girl is one of these people.

Don't contact her again OP. If for some unthinkable reason she did not receive your email or multiple texts she knows where to find you.

LegacyUser

Hi OP,

Don't contact her, you'll only give her the chance to ignore you again and feel worse!

I'm in the same boat, I was seeing a guy for three months and now that I'm at home for Christmas he has not bothered to call and say hello for a week even though he said he would. There's not a snowball's chance in hell of me contacting him.

I was half expecting this as it's so common to end short/casual relationships this way, especially when an opportunity like Christmas (with the going home, not seeing each other, being justifiably busy) presents itself.

Don't fret, but don't contact her. If she comes into your head, just think of everything you didn't like about her, starting with her obvious rudeness.

(I'm thinking about the fact that an overweight forty-year-old who should be delighted with himself is still so sad as to disappear instead of being honest. Some people never grow out of this! I'm also having a giggle at a few other things I remember about him but I'll keep them under my hat.)

Chin up! Go out tonight or tomorrow night, put a smile on your face, move on.

amdublin

Shocking really that someone could behave that way. Very inconsiderate.

There's a part of me that is thinking why make it so easy for her by just not contacting again...

But I think best you save your dignity and just move on from this type of person who does not consider your feelings and does not even have the decency to tell you that they don't want to see you in the romantic sense again, not nice to hear but at least you'd know.