Facebook Chancer

LegacyUser

Hi,

A neighbour has been messaging me on facebook every so often for he last two years. He usually asks to meet up. I've never met up with him or engaged in much conversation with him. Today he wanted to send me 'a pic'. Of course I politely refused.

I suppose you'll just say 'block him' - and after this maybe I will - but up until now I thought he was messing or a bit harmless. I gave out to him before and told him to wise up and stop messaging because there was a girl in his profile photo with him - but he just changed the photo to one of himself. I think he might now be engaged to that poor girl. I don't want to involve myself in his mess by telling her and I'm sure I'm not the only one he's messaging. What a chancer though. I think I just keep him on my friends list in the hope that I'll find out that girl is his sister or something (she's not) and he's still acting like a harmless idiot.

I'm not sure exactly what my issue is but I find myself getting very disillusioned with men (don't mean to generalise) when I see this kind of carry on.

Thoughts?

Tokyo

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I think I just keep him on my friends list in the hope that I'll find out that girl is his sister or something (she's not) and he's still acting like a harmless idiot.

This part baffles me, I have to admit. You say that you hate seeing this kind of carry on, your neighbour is steering the conversation in directions that make you uncomfortable, and yet to a certain degree you are facilitating him - for almost two years now - by keeping communication channels open, even though you suspect that he is engaged?

Block him on Facebook, end of story.

giggle84

I agree with mike_ie.. remove yourself from this situation, unfriend him and forget about it. I'm sure it's nearly fascinating to watch what he'll do next, but it sounds like it's just annoying you! Do you really need that?!

Gongoozler

Do you like the attention or something? If you don't like him doing this, there is absolutely no other reason I could think you would continue contact with him.

It's not some big complicated thing, just block him.

Idle Passerby

You must enjoy the attention to some extent because despite saying it annoys you you are actively encouraging him by responding to him. You are well aware what his intentions are and your apparently not interested yet you continue to engage him. He's either a genuine guy whose socially clueless or someone whose titillated by being suggestive with the neighbour over the internet, either way why bother entertaining it.

skallywag

I'm a bit confused here OP re 'the girl in the profile picture'.

You mention that you think they could be engaged, you then mention there could be a chance that it's his 'sister or something', but then you write 'it's not'.

So which is it? Have you evidence that he is actually involved with this 'poor girl' or not?

Chemical Byrne

In fairness OP i think you are overthinking this in a big way.
This guy is nothing to you, nor is the girl in his picture (gf, sister or otherwise it is none of your business).
Do you know him like or is he just a random neighbour? How did he make it onto your friends list. Either way all you can do is 1. ask him to stop annoying your, then 2. if he persists, defriend and block him and then 3. forget about him and whoever he's with.

Personally, I think people take the facebook friends thing WAAAAYY to seriously. The amount of folks who get in a twist over some perceived slight because someone defriended them or didn't reply to a msg is unreal. But then, I just don't do the FB thing. Just not into it.