Am I crazy getting involved with a younger guy?

S31

Hi everyone

I'm sure this topic will have been discussed before but I'm wondering what people think of a 32 year old girl seeing a 21 year old guy?

I met this guy while I was on a girl's night out and we hit it off, there was instant attraction even though I did think he was younger than me but not as young as 21. When he told me I was disappointed! He did'nt believe me when I told him I'm 32 and he thought I was making it up to get rid of him! He thought I was 25 and to be honest I thought he was maybe 26 or so but obviously neither of us guess ages too well. I am often told I look about 25 but I sometimes think people say that to be nice, anyway as the night went on and drinks flowed I eventually agreed to give him my number. I have met up with him twice since. I'm not looking for anything serious and neither is he and we both seem to enjoy each other's company, it's mostly a physical relationship... and its fine for now but I can't help but feel like I'm doing something wrong because of the age gap. Am I being stupid?

jopax

No I don't see anything at all wrong with it Yee are both consenting adults, you both know how old the other is.
If you are enjoying yourselves, I say why not.
Life is short, enjoy while you can.

gumbo1

I totally agree with jopax above! I'm 33 now and happily married but when I was 23/24 I was with a woman who had a few years on me, more than you do op, and she was hung up on it! We had great craic and fun times together but she couldn't let go of the age thing and that led to our break up after a few months together!
For what it's worth "age is but a number and a number hangs on a dooor"! Enjoy yourselves and have fun!
You said that neither of you are looking for anything serious at the minute so if there's physical attractions, well your both consenting adults so that says enough bout that! If you think things might go long term and are fearful that he may want different things from his life than you, if you can't come to a compromise then like every other couple you part ways! But for the mean time
YOU GO GIRL, 21 YEAR OLD ON YOUR ARM, BOOM

beks101

If it's really only a casual thing I'd say grand, go for it, (you go girl!)

Anything more and it might become tricky in terms of what you're both looking for and the stages you're at in your respective lives.

When I was 21 I was interested in having fun, travelling loads, working on my career and meeting as many men as possible. Now at 29 it's more about settling with a partner and in life, putting down roots and looking forward to setting up shop and having a family down the line.

Might not be the same for you, but speaking in general terms, you do tend to want different things once you're that bit more mature and - again, in general terms - a 21 year old is going to have different priorities.

S31

thanks so much for the advice and reassurances!
Im defo only looking for a casual thing right now, not long out of a LTR, so
it suits me just fine. And this Aussie guy is here only temporarily to play sport so
it will only ever be a bit of fun. I'm glad the age gap is not seen as something to be worried/embarassed about, thanks everyone!

honey79

Go for it have fun and just see where it takes you - you could meet someone tomorrow of the same age and not have a connecting so why pass it up enjoy x