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Should I send it?

  • 13-12-2014 11:13am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi guys,
    Just looking for some opinions on this one. A quick background is that my mother a father split up when I there was an arrangement where we'd go out every second weekend. Relationship was father was always a bit rocky but never too bad. He went on to have a family with his new wife and myself and my sisters were very close. However, during the summer, you may remember me posting here. There was a major falling out with my father and my brother when I wasn't there which resulted in my father trying to strangle my brother. This was obviously fairly destressing on my two sisters who are only very young (two and three) as they had to witness the whole thing, something which, although I wasn't there for and couldn't help it, I feel horrible about. They weren't there when I came to collect my stuff and there hasn't been any communication since.

    My dilemma is what to do about Christmas. I want to send a card to them alone but a) I'm not sure whether they'll get it and b) I don't want to cause any stress or cause them to start questioning things again. At the same time, I don't want them to think they've been forgotten. We were very close and whenever I came back from college, they were both stuck to me like glue for the weekend and then that ended very suddenly, without warning or explanation, with them witnessing that. I don't want to cause any distress to them, so I don't know what to do...


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  • #2
    Tokyo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,656 ✭✭✭✭Tokyo


    Send it.

    Your relationship between you and your sisters is separate to that between you and your father. At their age, all they are going to see is the picture of Santa (or whatever on the front), and the fact that it came from you. You are right, it's possible that your father might chuck it in the bin out of spite, but don't let that stop you from trying. Even if he does, in years to come when they are old enough to think for themselves, you can tell them hand on heart that you did your best to keep in touch with them as children.


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