How often do you see your friends, as you get older?

ThinkAboutIt

I'm afraid work and kids are getting "in the way" here, hard to find a day that suits everyone in the group! About once a month if we're lucky we meet up! What about you?

RoboRat

It happens, I used to see them all the time in my 20's, then less frequently in my early 30's... now I see them maybe once or twice a year :-(

I don't live near them anymore so that makes it hard, plus I only go out maybe 5 or 6 times a year. Life moves on, if you have good mates they will be there for life, regardless of how often you see them.

pueblo

ThinkAboutIt wrote: »

I'm afraid work and kids are getting "in the way" here, hard to find a day that suits everyone in the group! About once a month if we're lucky we meet up! What about you?

Once a month is good going...

ThinkAboutIt

Glad once a month is good!

hardCopy

I'm 30 now and we're mainly down to about once a month/six weeks and even that takes effort. We usually only get the whole group out a couple of times a year. We all still live in Dublin but a lot of the lads work shifts so it's very hard to line everyone up on the same night.

We have a whatsapp group that generally keeps everyone in contact.

Meathlass

We probably all get together only once a year around Christmas when everyone is back in their home town. I find the best way is to meet each other individually when available as it's almost impossible to get 10 people living on 3 continents with 5 children to all meet up regularly.

I'm single and I tend to hang out with my single friends every few weeks and won't see the married ones for months at a time.

It takes effort to sustain friendships.

Mesrine65

Weekly

HamsterFace

Orange

Buona Fortuna

RoboRat wrote: »

It happens, I used to see them all the time in my 20's, then less frequently in my early 30's... now I see them maybe once or twice a year :-(

I don't live near them anymore so that makes it hard, plus I only go out maybe 5 or 6 times a year. Life moves on, if you have good mates they will be there for life, regardless of how often you see them.

Yes

As you get even older it gets even more infrequent . You'll find something else getting in the way too - Health.

Our best friends - at one time we all lived together, holidays together - we haven't seen them for 5 years now, but distance and life gets in the way. Still keep in touch with e-mail, etc.

Hopefully 2015 is the year

Duggy747

Rarely, last time I saw any mates was 2 months ago and before that was probably back in May. Everyone is either in other parts of the country or abroad.

I don't get to talk to many people beyond work, the GF and..........eh..........me pets. :pac:

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

At over 70 years of age I have naturally fewer friends left and we see each other less than years ago. There are 3 that I make a point of meeting up with once a fortnight.

Tilly

We all bought houses near enough to each other and all do the same TRX\bootcamp classes or go for walks during the week then usually some of us meet up at the weekends. Not much has changed really, even with the addition of kids and husbands.

Stojkovic

Too often.

Especially the ones who want something.

Buona Fortuna

A little while back one of my mates e-mailed to say that a friend of ours was shortly to leave the firm that we all used to work for.

I e-mailed him and wished him good luck, and attached a couple of pix of the chickens and ducks "for the kids".

He e-mailed back to thank me and to point out that the youngesst of the kids had just finished uni :eek:.

Its funny (to me at least) but I always imagine places that I left, houses, firms, people to have stayed the same since I left them . I remember his twins being born. They were premature and it was quite touch and go for a little while.

Have made very good friends with people at work so see them everyday.

Would be meeting up with different people in my main group of friends since school fairly regularly, probably twice a month anyway and then lots during Christmas, when things are happening during the summer etc.

AnonoBoy

Mesrine65 wrote: »

Weekly

Weekly? Bah! You're not old!

What are you doing on this thread young 'un?

Don't you have a tamagotchi to be playing with or some ecstasy joints to be smoking?

*shakes walking stick*

ronjo

I dont live in Ireland anymore and get over maybe twice a year.

Have 6 good mates I always meet up with. Sometimes some of them may not have actually seen each other since I was last back.

Gonna meet another good friend for a few beers that I havent seen in 7 years this Christmas as we are never back at the same time so am looking forward to that but unfortunately have to be up a 5am the next morning for the flight.

Venus In Furs

Every week or two weeks - but not all of them together every time obviously, and very rarely the ones who've moved away (not even that far) or with children.
It's the latter who are always the most dying to go out.

Sky King

One problem is that facebook is considered a substitute.

Arnold Layne

Once a year, around Christmas if lucky. All have kids like myself. It's hard to organise a good night out with all.

AnonoBoy

Arnold Layne wrote: »

Once a year, around Christmas if lucky. All have kids like myself. It's hard to organise a good night out with all.

You get around!!!!

Eh? Eh? Eh?

looking_around

what are friends? ):




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I've only formed friendships now that I've gotten older...so how often? more than before.................

Jamsiek

You should see your friends regularly no matter where you live in the world.
I'm in Canada and lived in the UK for 8 years and made great friends along the way. I'm going back to Ireland for Christmas and will meet my friends I grew up with then.
It depends on what friends the OP is referring to

CruelCoin

I have a small cadre of 4 good friends.

One I see once a year as he lives in England.

The others i used to see every second week, but that has dropped off to once every 2 months when i went back to college part-time.
Work, fiancee, college....I just couldn't do it.

College finished in january then its FREEDOMMM once more.

anncoates

Less than before because most of us are married/settled with kids plus two of them live away now.

We're still in close contact though (plus WhatsApp and FB) though and would have pints about once a month to 6 weeks on average. A few of them support the same football club as me which is great too as we would go to games together and even go abroad together if we get into Europe.

TheBeardedLady

My friends from home, twice a year but some of them only once a year (Christmas) as half of us live away from home. I'd see my friends here every other weekend or so and one I'd see most weekends.

I cut down on drink there a year or so ago and don't go out very often anymore in the evenings (hangovers were getting unbearable, even after a few drinks), which means we meet less but I meet up with them during the day. 3 of them are doing a PhD and one a masters and I've just started back in uni myself, so we don't have as much free time anymore.


Having a brunch now at a friends in an hour or so and another one with more friends tomorrow and I'll meet another friend later for a drink or two.

I think you have to make more of an effort with friends when you live fargnin as they'd be less forgiving than old friends if you keep cancelling.

A few of my very close friends left Madrid this year, which has been tough. Not diggin' this transient lifestyle as much as I used to as it's harder to make good mates as you get older.

FTA69

TheBeardedLady wrote: »

A few of my very close friends left Madrid this year, which has been tough. Not diggin' this transient lifestyle as much as I used to as it's harder to make good mates as you get older.

Fact. I'm younger than you by a few years but already I'm finding that a lot of my very good friends here are looking for an exit strategy back to Ireland. One of the biggest problems with being mates with other Irish people is they often only stay a year, two years or five years. Similarly, in the very big cities like London and Madrid etc, people only tend to stay for a while and are constantly looking to move out as they get older, get married or have kids.