Friend seriously ill

LegacyUser

Hi, a close friend is really seriously ill with cancer, treatment hasn't worked and it's spread to multiple organs. I've been crying the all day and all night, about the prospect of loosing them. Her life is only beginning in the adult sense, they major adult milestones are all ahead of her. She's a lifelong friend who might no longer be there to share my milestone's with. In a purely platonic sense, I love her so much, and been crying all day and all night, about the prospect of her no longer being there. She's a great deal stronger than me, it's strange, I'm not the one with the cancer. But it's affected me profoundly......

allybhoy

Sigh, Ive been through this before myself afraid.. very close friend of mine died from a long cancer battle when he was just 29. Only advice I can give you is one you have probably heard a million times before but you really need to stay strong for your friend...and be that, be a friend. Dont throw pity or be upset \ sad in her presence as no doubt every other person around her is, try and stay upbeat and cheery as much as you may be hurting inside. Your friend is being strong for you, and you need to be strong for her.

If it is terminal and really hope its not, there will be plenty of time to mourn and grieve when she is gone you might also need grief counselling but for now you really need to cherish the small remaining time you have together and make it as enjoyable and as memorable for both of you as you can. I wish i could offer more advice and encouragement than that, but I cant, You have a long painful road ahead of you and I wish you all the best...

Oryx

Added to the above, when possible, treat your friend as just your friend and not 'my friend with cancer'. For her sake, ignore the disease when you can, and just have fun as mates. Her whole life right now is consumed with illness and a bit of normality might be very welcome.