What to do- at a crossroads

Shelga

Hi boardsies, just posting as I'm feeling quite down at the moment. I'm a 27 year old woman, been living in the UK for the last 3.5 years, since getting a good job over here after college.

My problem is I'm really stuck in a rut, with no idea what to do next or where to go. I found out yesterday that I didn't get the job I interviewed for with another company, which has left me feeling crushingly disappointed. I really needed a change in my life. It's the second role in six months that I've been rejected for- obviously I am screwing up my interviews somehow, which makes me feel worse.

The company I work for now is doing amazingly well and there will be plenty of opportunities- however, I don't like the location and sort of feel that if I do not leave now, I will end up here forever. I am quite good at my job and get on well with my colleagues, I just so badly need a change of scene.

I broke up with a horrible guy at the start of the year and have felt adrift since then. Considering maybe now is the time to return home. Has anyone else felt this way? I just think as an emigrant (I know it's only England, but still!) it is so hard to feel settled somewhere, which is what I want in my life now. And yet there are many positive aspects to being here, and a far more diverse variety of jobs in my field (manufacturing). If I moved home, I would have to do a sidestep into a different area of manufacturing, as we all know it is very pharma-centric in that industry in Ireland.

I just feel so confused, and lost. I feel like I have so many choices I can't pick one. Anyone been in similar frame of mind and have any advice? Tired of muddling along here, feeling like I'm not really making any progress in my personal life.

CaraMay

I think when you can't see the wood fyim the trees you take a break. Give yourself 6 months of not thinking and not doing anything about it. Take the pressure off otherwise you might make a bad decision. Good luck op

sashafierce

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Rubberchikken

I agree ^^don't make any rash decisions.
Definitely be job hunting but be choosey and think thinga through first.

Let things rest over christmas and new year and see how you feel in a couple of months.
Good luck

zoobizoo

Get feedback on the two positions that you applied for.

Then do an interview preparation course - worth the money.

When you put your eggs in one basket and are dependent on that egg, it will be a bigger blow to us if it doesn't happen ("if I get this job, everything will be better").. .

Don Kedick

If you feel confident of getting a job even in a role you wouldn't be crazy about, I'd say you should come home. Not as a permanent move but I feel there might be an element of home sickness with you even after 3.5 years. Don't set a timescale for yourself but see how you like living in your home place again. It's easier to make important decisions in comfortable surroundings.
You could really like it and decide you want to stay, then you have to look at work options and find something you'd really like doing if it's available here. Alternatively you could hate living in your hometown and remember why you left in the first place, you'll then have to look at your options further afield.
Whatever you do don't make any rash decisions as others have said. Enjoy your Christmas and then see how you feel.