should i be worried

LegacyUser

i met a girl in a nightclub i have known years. she came back to mines and we had sex. she initiated most of it . afterwards she told she had a boyfriend and that she has cheated on every boyfriend she has ever had. the next day she get in touch on facebook and tells me she wrecked with guilt. she says she was wreck with guilt and she said she was blind drunk. she swears me to secrecy. she didnt seem that drunk to me in fact i was probably more drunk. she left stuff in mines and i post it onto her

should i be worried about this or am i over thinking?

bee06

What is there to be worried about. You did nothing wrong?

LegacyUser

i did nothing wrong but hen she got in touch on facebook she told me she was blind drunk she wasnt blind drunk. she didnt stagger or anything. she probably was drunk but i was drunker. i think im just paranoid. i think she just feels guilty

woodchuck

She's the one who cheated on her boyfriend... what do you have to worry about? You didn't even know until afterwards from the sounds of it!

Stavro Mueller

Hmm. It sounds like her way of abdicating responsibility for her actions is to load the guilt onto other people. I assume you didn't know she had a boyfriend when you brought her home with you? If that's the case, then you've got nothing to feel guilty or worried about. Well, not unless you're expecting her boyfriend to call around and rearrange your face with his fists? Once you send her stuff back to her, you'd be better off greatly reducing or cutting contact with her. She sounds like trouble and you don't need to be dragged into the drama.

Ethel

Tell her its not your problem and cut her loose. She's a cheating head wrecker sucking you into her drama. Her cheating has nothing to do with you.

retro:electro

I hope you used protection op? Also it may be worth your while to get yourself checked since she admittedly makes it her business to sleep with every Tom Dick and Harry.

Tokyo

It sounds like damage control on her part, something may have spooked her into thinking that she'll get found out (possibly someone witnessed you guys leaving together) and is trying to guilt you into keeping quiet. My advice would be to cut her loose and put it behind you - if by her own admission she does this on a regular basis, then she has quite a few issues of her own to work through. And as mentioned above, I hope you used protection. If not, then consider getting an STI test for peace of mind.

LegacyUser

no i didnt know till afterwards

was worried in case she tried to make out she was in no condition to consent

i was actually felt a bit strange at the time the time she got in touch and i had to give advice about it as i was the guy she cheated with

strobe

op...... wrote: »

no i didnt know till afterwards

was worried in case she tried to make out she was in no condition to consent

i was actually felt a bit strange at the time the time she got in touch and i had to give advice about it as i was the guy she cheated with

If she has cheated on every boyfriend she has like she said, then people will know what she's like. I've never once known anyone to carry on like that and it not be well known. You've nothing to worry about. Just forget about it.

Tasden

op...... wrote: »

no i didnt know till afterwards

was worried in case she tried to make out she was in no condition to consent

i was actually felt a bit strange at the time the time she got in touch and i had to give advice about it as i was the guy she cheated with

Are you worried about consent as she is now saying she was drunk at the time?
That if her boyfriend finds out or something she may use this as her excuse and you will then be in trouble?

P. Breathnach

worried...? wrote: »

i met a girl in a nightclub i have known years....

I think that is the issue: if you know her outside the context of the ONS, you probably know other people in her circle. She is on a damage control mission.

LegacyUser

also the next girl i was with i was paranoid the same thing would happen and i even asked if drunk and i was taking advantage of her and i totally under performed

Littlekittylou

If she is the type she could make wild accusations. Who knows there is nothing you can do now except make no further contact.

Be more careful and maybe get to know the person's character a bit next time.

In likely hood she won't very few girls do. But a one night stand is not worth the drama.


Now you know that not all girls are nice you can avoid the nasty ones and wait it out for the nice ones. :-)

B.A._Baracus

Op,
P. Breathnach said it best above with 'damage control' - She is just swearing you to secrecy because she doesnt want it to get out and back to the boyfriend. She has cheated on every boyfriend she has ever had so this is nothing new to her. But I would be willing to wager a large sum that you aren't the only guy who she asked for 'secrecy'

DoYouEvenLift

I'd let the boyfriend know. If it was you you wouldn't like to be getting humiliated by a disgusting cheater like her. I'd also go no contact on her for life, she sounds vile and deserves no respect.


Edit: on second thoughts, your strong emphasis on her trying to claim she was drunker than she was says it all. Forget what I said. Someone else has said similar, but this could easily flip on you and I wouldn't even be surprised if rape claims were thrown around these days. Just go no contact.