Asking to marry without ring

cottager83

Folks do people still use a box with a ring in it when getting engaged nowadays? I want her to pick her own ring after that's if she says yes!if so would you use another ring of hers?sorry just looking for advice!!ðŸ‘👠Cheers

Typer Monkey

I was asked without a ring. I preferred it that way as I wanted to pick my own ring. You could do it without any ring or with a token ring in a box if you prefer the prop. You know your girlfriend best so just go with what you think she'd like. It's a brilliant moment with it without a ring so just go with your gut and enjoy!

gillylilly

I was asked without the ring too, I really didn't mind. And because we got married within 5 months I still don't have one, I never found one I loved in that time, I'd prefer an antique. I'm not too bothered to be honest, I'm very happy wearing just a plain band. I'll keep an eye on the shops time to time just in case mind!!

If you're worried, you could buy a cheapie ring as a stand in to use for the proposal? And then tell her she can go shopping

GaGa21

I was asked without a ring and was delighted to get to help choose my own. I think he might have picked something different left to his own devices but I'm sure I still would have loved it so do what feels right for your relationship. I'd only advise you to get the ring yourself if cost was going to be an issue as that could possibly cause tension/arguments.
Best of luck with the proposal!

AlbionCat

I was asked without a ring on our third date. I never got a ring until our 10th anniversary (and he picked the stone and ring out at a diamond house in Amsterdam). We are still married and approaching our 23rd anniversary.

smcgiff

Don't like the idea of a cheap ring at one of the most critical moments of your life.

It's okay to propose without the ring and choose together later.

Good luck.

ABajaninCork

I never got a ring when my husband proposed. We went shopping for one when we got back to London. Personally, I don't get the token ring thing. Waste of money which could be out towards the real McCoy...

iwillhtfu

I made a ring out of a piece of walnut I had in the work shop took a bit of time to make but looked the job when finished. We were in Switzerland at the time so I had an appointment booked in Tiffanys that afternoon. Worked out well in the end she still has the wooden ring I made and personally I prefer it.

I think it's nice to have something to give instead of so many stories I hear of people walking passed a ring shop and saying "Ah sure while were here may aswell pick up a ring."

Good Luck OP.

smcgiff

iwillhtfu wrote: »

I think it's nice to have something to give instead of so many stories I hear of people walking passed a ring shop and saying "Ah sure while were here may aswell pick up a ring."

That might have more to do with the fiancé suddenly spotting an 80% discount sticker :pac:

Tzardine

I proposed last year. Had a cheap (30€) Argos thingy. Then went for a weekend together to Galway and bought the real one which she picked. I was so glad I did this. She picked a ring I would never had chosen in a million years.

CorkClaire82

I was proposed to without a ring, complete surprise. We were at a festival so got a token ring together from a stall (which I haggled them down on :-P) and then we picked out the real ring together. It was amazing so personally no ring didn't make a blind bit of difference to me, I don't think i would've cried more if there was a ring.

Victor

Take her into town and go for a walk in the park. Sit down on a bench. Propose using a token
(child's plastic ring, ring pull from a can, tap washer, an acorn you pick up in the park ...). Then go shopping for the real one.

Gatica

No ring for me, and no ring for another family member engaged not long before... we both got pretty pearl necklaces as our proposal gifts. Wonderful idea.
Loved shopping for the ring, if only to sit in the shop and try on lots of rings, it's fun! Plus I doubt he'd known to pick what we ended up getting in the end, I still love it and look at it when it sparkles in the sun when I'm driving (sitting at the traffic lights).

spiderdan

got engaged over the w/e, bought a cheap token ring, she loved it - we're going to buy the real ring together. After having a quick look together the chances of picking one she would buy are so slim, I wouldn't risk that kind of money on a chance. Put money into the proposal make a day out of it, dinner, overnight stay etc.