Help! - Seriously Confused

confused89

Not really too sure where to start with this story but here goes.
Have been going out my current boyfriend for 3 months now but we have been in contact with about 6. From the very start we hit it off and everything was going great. We have so much in common, get on great and we both get on really well with the others friends and family.
Things seemed to only be getting better with each other and had even got so far as to having discussed the possibility of moving in together in the near future. Things took a turn for the worst in the last few days when he confessed to me that after a night out with his friends he had kissed another girl.
I am willing to forgive and forget, maybe I'm crazy but in my eyes it would have been a lot worse if he had slept with someone. We met up to have a chat about what had happened and he told me he honestly doesn't know why he done it. He said he has never been as happy with anyone before and still wanted to be with me but needed some time to get his head around what he had done as it was completely out of character for him.
I agreed to give him some space and for him to contact me when he had had some time to think about things. The only problem is i have noticed on his Snapchat that his top friend is his ex girlfriend who has treated him like crap in the past and sent him awfully abusive text messages. I asked him about this and he assured me that he is not in contact with her at all and as he has a very old phone the Snapchat on there wont let him block her and its her sending him all the snaps.
I suffer with a mild form of anxiety anyways but this has just thrown it through the roof! I would greatly appreciate if any of you could just share your opinion or give some advice on this because i am seriously confused!
Rant over :P

LLMMML

It's impossible to know what the situation with his ex is, or why he kissed that girl, but I find the face that HE needed space after cheating to be incredibly odd. Maybe he's genuine but he sounds a bit of a headwrecker.

CaraMay

Why are you willing to forgive him cheating? Because it could have been worse?!?!??? Op you aren't with him a wet week and he is cheating. Dump and run

mountsky

I really don't mean to sound harsh but he sounds like an absolute pxxs taker,avoid like the plague,I'd say he's a dose,if he's 'with' others at this early stage of the relationship what in gods name would he be like in say just 2/3 years.
The Snapchat thing with the ex,cmon he's a player, get rid,you're too good for his BS

R.D. aka MR.D

Speaking from experience here, just cut ties with him now.

He doesn't respect you. He's shown you that by kissing someone. He also said he couldn't block his ex? I don't know much about snapchat but that sounds unusual.

You deserve to be with some one who respects you and treats you well.

pookie82

confused89 wrote: »

Not really too sure where to start with this story but here goes.
Have been going out my current boyfriend for 3 months now but we have been in contact with about 6. From the very start we hit it off and everything was going great. We have so much in common, get on great and we both get on really well with the others friends and family.
Things seemed to only be getting better with each other and had even got so far as to having discussed the possibility of moving in together in the near future. Things took a turn for the worst in the last few days when he confessed to me that after a night out with his friends he had kissed another girl.
I am willing to forgive and forget, maybe I'm crazy but in my eyes it would have been a lot worse if he had slept with someone. We met up to have a chat about what had happened and he told me he honestly doesn't know why he done it. He said he has never been as happy with anyone before and still wanted to be with me but needed some time to get his head around what he had done as it was completely out of character for him.
I agreed to give him some space and for him to contact me when he had had some time to think about things. The only problem is i have noticed on his Snapchat that his top friend is his ex girlfriend who has treated him like crap in the past and sent him awfully abusive text messages. I asked him about this and he assured me that he is not in contact with her at all and as he has a very old phone the Snapchat on there wont let him block her and its her sending him all the snaps.
I suffer with a mild form of anxiety anyways but this has just thrown it through the roof! I would greatly appreciate if any of you could just share your opinion or give some advice on this because i am seriously confused!
Rant over :P

On a technical note, HE has to be sending HER snapchats too for her to show up on his list. A person won't show you in your snap top 3 unless the snaps are travelling BOTH ways, so he's bare faced lying to you when he says that they're just because of her snap chatting him. If she sent him 100 in a row she wouldn't show on his list unless he sent her some back.

As someone pointed out, he could block her if he wanted, but there's clearly some form of communication going on both ways between them on it. That in itself isn't a red flag, but his lies about it are.

This information is easily obtainable with a quick google, I don't know how he expected you to swallow that.