can i trust someone i just met

LegacyUser

Hi,
So going unregistered for this one and apologies for the long post

I met a girl two weeks ago on a night about, it was a Monday, she was on holidays here and
staying until the thursday morning. I was off work that week and we spent then the whole time
together. We even went down to Galway the next night. Had a blast and says she didnt feel like
this for anyone for a long time. She went back home and told me she misses me a lot and wants to come back to see me.

Sounds perfect so far but here we go, when i met her she told me she was a 23 yr old french girl.
We kept in touch ever since she left and last week she told me this little confession
She is actually 28 and French Algerian, her mother is French but she grew up in Algeria.
So this was a little bit of a blow as I hate dishonesty in all its forms. So she told me she had a lot
of personal problems in Algeria. Her mother will not give her a French passport as they have alot of problems between them.
On her fathers side of the family is Muslim and she told me they kinda forced her into a marriage when she was 24 and she then divorced him
1.5 years later and then lived in France for a while then spent the last 6 months in New York. Her visa expired there so she had to return home in chance to renew it.
So I was a little taken aback by all of this new information.

I asked why she had lied to me about who she was, she said i was just a stranger when I met her so she couldnt tell all those details as she is embarrassed of it and hates her past
and that when she told me last week it was she wasnt planning on liking me so much so she wanted to be honest about everything in case something happens between us.

Now her plan is to leave home and go back to America, but she told me she wants to maybe come to ireland to date me (we would live in different places we wouldnt be moving in together or anything)
to see if anything happens between us as she really likes me and if it doesnt work out she will just go to America then (has a job in a resturant waiting there for when she gets there)

Is this all crazy or should i go for it, i do like her alot too and was thinking about agreeing with her plan as i am not being put out by it so nothing really to lose.

When she confessed i asked her how i could believe her, what she was telling me, she actually emailed me a scan of her passport, pics from the forced wedding and proof she was divorced so it seems it checks out

sorry for rambling, just confused by it all

ahmeeehead

Hard to say.. Have had a similar experience with a person who was due to do work with me (French Algerian). Sadly, some people are ashamed of where they come from, their family, their history etc. Particularly those born in less prosperous or developed countries. If what she says is true I wouldn't be so hard on her.

As long as she doesn't start requesting marriage or cash from you (I'm assuming she has a French passport) it might be worth considering.

Does seem pretty hasty though! Don't underestimate the enormous cultural differences either. I do have some experience of this.

Good luck.

Tasden

Well no. But she has no reason to trust you either so why would she go telling you her whole (complicated) background upon first meeting you? Now after getting to know you a little she has been honest. And gone above and beyond to prove it to you it would seem.