Proposing without a ring - is it ok?

funky_dave

I'm planning on asking my girlfriend to marry me on Friday and all going well for us to go looking for a ring over the weekend - have a few appointments booked and what not. The problem is I have no actual ring for the proposal, I had intended to buy a token ring today but literally couldn't find anything that I thought she'd like or wear. She doesn't wear any rings usually at all. Is it ok to propose without having a physical ring there? I was even thinking about buying a necklace as the stand-in as I'd know what she'd like and what she'd wear but is that going over the top?

fits

Totally fine! at least it was for me. Loved trying rings on and we had great fun picking it out together.

newtoboards

What about a haribo ring? A proposal and a snack

ABajaninCork

Absolutely fine! My husband proposed with no ring while we were on holiday in Portugal. Went ring shopping in Hatton Garden when we got back to London.

Good luck - Let us know how it goes!!

Gatica

Great idea, that's what my OH did. I had a beautiful necklace that means the world to me. On our wedding day he got me the matching bracelet and earrings. It's a wonderful memento set for me.

Milly33

Best of luck for Friday

asteroids over berlin

mate of mine done it and then they went and bought one of them silver rings off a stall in London for 50 pound, whilst most materialistic women would frown on such an approach, my mate is happily married for the last 12 years.

superman28

I proposed with a 14 euro ring from Argos,, kind of for a laugh.. then we went into town to shop for the real thing.. in hind sight I am not sure if she actually even put it on her finger,, I just used it for the actual popping of the question..

I would recommend having a nice day planned,, after you look at rings,, go for dinner or stay in a fancy hotel or something,, that's what I did,, it is the only time you get to really both share something together.. and another thing I didn't think of in a million years was my GF then was looking for a place to get her nails done after buying the ring.

One more Tip I would give,, no big deal,, but if possible try and con your GF to getting dressed up a bit, otherwise you will have to go back to your place and get changed before you head out to look at rings.. (this happened me as I asked first thing in the morning)..

Best of luck with it..

eviltwin

funky_dave wrote: »

I'm planning on asking my girlfriend to marry me on Friday and all going well for us to go looking for a ring over the weekend - have a few appointments booked and what not. The problem is I have no actual ring for the proposal, I had intended to buy a token ring today but literally couldn't find anything that I thought she'd like or wear. She doesn't wear any rings usually at all. Is it ok to propose without having a physical ring there? I was even thinking about buying a necklace as the stand-in as I'd know what she'd like and what she'd wear but is that going over the top?

Totally fine especially if she is not a ring wearer. I don't have a ring because I don't wear them. Rings are not all that important despite what some people will lead you to think, if she is not that fussed then something else - or nothing - is just as valid.

Gumbo

I bought a fake ring (Sterling Silver) on adverts. I think you should have something, even if it's a goddess ring from penny's.

We have really enjoyed looking around for the "real" ring and please God will have it by the weekend in NYC.

lazeedaisy

You dont ned a pretend proposal ring for gods sake.

Go with your gut instinct,

But take advice on dressing up, and getting nails done before trying on rings.

Its nt about trying to be something you are not,

She will appreciate the honesty and planning,

Why would you even waste the money on a pretend ring,

I prefer the Haribo suggestion,

More fun

Gumbo

lazeedaisy wrote: »

You dont ned a pretend proposal ring for gods sake.

Go with your gut instinct,

But take advice on dressing up, and getting nails done before trying on rings.

Its nt about trying to be something you are not,

She will appreciate the honesty and planning,

Why would you even waste the money on a pretend ring,

I prefer the Haribo suggestion,

More fun

Horses for courses.

Sam Kade

Did anyone ever ditch the whole engagement ring nonsense?

newtoboards

Sam Kade wrote: »

Did anyone ever ditch the whole engagement ring nonsense?

You could take the Swedish approach and propose with a plain band and then give the diamonds in the wedding day or even if very traditional a second plain band.
Both would be engraved with the days they were given.

eviltwin

Sam Kade wrote: »

Did anyone ever ditch the whole engagement ring nonsense?

I don't have one. He offered but I wasn't interested. Nothing wrong with rings either if that's your thing but its always seen as an essential part of the process when its really not.

Sam Kade

eviltwin wrote: »

I don't have one. He offered but I wasn't interested. Nothing wrong with rings either if that's your thing but its always seen as an essential part of the process when its really not.

The craze only started in the 1930's (not even 100 years old :eek:) by a diamond company that started a very effective advertising campaign.

Toots

My husband proposed with a bunch of roses and we went shopping together to get the ring. I pressed a few of the roses and have them in a frame in my living room.

It seems to be about 50/50 when it comes to proposing with a ring vs without. Years ago it would have been more unusual for a guy to propose without having the ring already, but nowadays it's quite normal. Even if you look at threads on here, a lot of women say they'd prefer to be able to pick their own ring.