So you turn down an offer to escape

Sclosages

And then, when you really want and need to escape, because you've been stupid previously, the offer to escape is withdrawn.
You have £10 in your pocket now. Nowhere to stay, nowhere to go.
What do you do now?

OP is this an actual issue for you or a hypothetical question?

Sclosages

bluewolf wrote: »

OP is this an actual issue for you or a hypothetical question?

An issue.

Tokyo

Sclosages wrote: »

And then, when you really want and need to escape, because you've been stupid previously, the offer to escape is withdrawn.
You have £10 in your pocket now. Nowhere to stay, nowhere to go.
What do you do now?

To be fair OP, if you are not willing to provide details, then there isn't much that posters in PI can do for you. As it stands, we have no idea why you need to leave, what your personal circumstances are, if you have family/friends/a partner to turn to, etc. Trying to advise you would be akin to a guessing game, and we could very well give you the wrong advice.

If you can't provide more information then we really have no choice but to treat this as a general question rather than a PI, and close the thread.

Sclosages

Since you want to know. Threat of assault. Nowhere to go.

Rubberchikken

Threat of assault from whom?
Could you speak to the gardai?

It's worrying you, so if you think it's a serious threat something should be done.

Tokyo

Without knowing the details of who is threatening you, my immediate recommendation would be to go to your nearest police station to report it. If the person threatening you is in your home, do you have any friends to turn to, and perhaps stay with while you are deciding what steps to take?

Neyite

OP, if you are female, and its someone (anyone) in your family who are a threat to you then contact Womens Aid and they will provide urgent help for you and for any children you may have.

I've been helped by them on a non-urgent basis some years ago and they were wonderful.

Don Kedick

When's the next day you receive money? How long will the 10 euro have to last you?

Sclosages

Homeless as of tomorrow.

Don Kedick

Sclosages wrote: »

Homeless as of tomorrow.

People can't help until you give more info. What area of the country are you? You have family near by? How old are you? Loads more questions but will you answer?

Sclosages

I will possibly die of cold. I've asthma . Anyway. I guess, I made my bed, now I lie on the ground. Yes I'm petrified.

Sclosages

Don Kedick wrote: »

People can't help until you give more info. What area of the country are you? You have family near by? How old are you? Loads more questions but will you answer?

I'm in London. My 'boyfriend' battered me almost to death on a few occassions. He left me with massive debts in my name in Ireland. So I moved to England with him. I'm aware that awards me the thickest thick in the thick award. Anyway.

Tokyo

OP, you have my sympathies because this is obviously something that is deeply affecting you, but it is very hard to provide advice when we only have a glimpse of what might be going on. To repeat what Neyite mentioned above - have you considered contacting Womans Aid as soon as possible - they will be able to help you figure out the next steps to take...

edit: I see that you posted an explanation while I was posting too.

My sympathies for your situation - but please bear in mind that this is NOT your fault, and has nothing to do with being the 'thickest of the thick' - you ended up loving somebody who is an abuser, and this can happen to anybody, in all walks of life, as sadly, the many threads relating to it in this forum highlights. And you are doing the right thing in taking steps to get away from that situation ASAP.

I would definitely recommend calling Womens Aid for help - there is a UK equivalent, also called Womans Aid, and they have a free phone 24 hr helpline that you can call - the number is 0808 2000 247. They also have a website here. They will be able to help you arrange shelter, and will also be able to help you report this person to the police for the abuse he has dished out to you.

Don Kedick

Sclosages wrote: »

I'm in London. My 'boyfriend' battered me almost to death on a few occassions. He left me with massive debts in my name in Ireland. So I moved to England with him. I'm aware that awards me the thickest thick in the thick award. Anyway.

Contact the London Irish Centre, you can find them in Camden Square or call them on 020 7916 2222. Their email is info@londonirishcentre.org. Tell them your situation, they will help you out.

Dozen Wicked Words

Your local borough will have a housing officer who also might be able to help. If not immediately with accommodation, certainly charitable contacts to help you avoid sleeping rough.

johnnyskeleton

Id repeat the above about the irish centre and uk social services and charities. The salvation army may have some emergemcy accommodation for you:

http://www.salvationarmy.org.uk/london-central

Also if you want to return to ireland there are a number of charities that could help:

http://www.safehomeireland.com

The irish embassy may also be able to get you information as well.

If you have relatives in ireland they can wire you moneg via western union/fexco.

The jmportant thing is not to panic, and if you find it difficult to contact any of the above ring the metropolitan police and theh will help you

hagoonabear

Stay strong things will work out in the end contact London Irish brilliant place

Sclosages

mike_ie wrote: »

OP, you have my sympathies because this is obviously something that is deeply affecting you, but it is very hard to provide advice when we only have a glimpse of what might be going on. To repeat what Neyite mentioned above - have you considered contacting Womans Aid as soon as possible - they will be able to help you figure out the next steps to take...

edit: I see that you posted an explanation while I was posting too.

My sympathies for your situation - but please bear in mind that this is NOT your fault, and has nothing to do with being the 'thickest of the thick' - you ended up loving somebody who is an abuser, and this can happen to anybody, in all walks of life, as sadly, the many threads relating to it in this forum highlights. And you are doing the right thing in taking steps to get away from that situation ASAP.

I would definitely recommend calling Womens Aid for help - there is a UK equivalent, also called Womans Aid, and they have a free phone 24 hr helpline that you can call - the number is 0808 2000 247. They also have a website here. They will be able to help you arrange shelter, and will also be able to help you report this person to the police for the abuse he has dished out to you.

I've left them a voicemail. No-one to get through to out of 9-5

Tokyo

Sclosages wrote: »

I've left them a voicemail. No-one to get through to out of 9-5

Call them first thing in the morning. In the meantime, Womens Aid also have an active support forum which may be able to provide you with more immediate advice.

Sclosages

The reality is this. I have 10 pounds left. I have to vacate this house tomorrow. So, I will have to sleep on a street somewhere.

Sclosages

Or, I kill myself. Saves myself a wee bit of heartship.

Sclosages

As for my family............... apparently, I'm too stupid. So .. off with me.

Tokyo

Hi OP,

It is our policy in Personal Issues to close any threads where a poster expresses suicidal thoughts. This is done to protect you from people who might offer you bad advice, or say something well-intentioned, that upsets you more. We have an online representative turn2me.org who you can contact via PM, and who will reply to you and offer you the help and support that you need.

If you think you are in immediate danger please go directly to your local emergency room or call the emergency services. Otherwise please call to your GP and seek immediate help. In addition, please have a look at the Charter stickied at the top of the Forum, and maybe contact someone from the links below.


We also have the following resources from our charter:

Depression / Mental Health
http://www.irish-counselling.ie/
http://www.dublinsamaritans.ie/
http://www.mentalhealthireland.ie/
http://www.grow.ie/
http://www.aware.ie/
http://www.shineonline.ie/
http://www.recover.ie/ (Schizophrenia Ireland)
http://www.childline.ie/
http://www.teenline.ie/
http://www.pieta.ie/

Suicide
http://www.nosp.ie/ (national suicide prevention)
1Life Suicide Prevention Helpline - 1800 247 100
http://www.pieta.ie/
https://www.turn2me.org/ - registered rep on boards contactable at turn2me.org


I wish you the best OP - regarding your relationship and living situation, please consider the advice given above and contact Womens Aid to help you through this. They have helped many people in situations such as your own, including some of the regular posters in this forum. They are there to help you if you reach out to them.

Regards,
Mike

Tokyo

Introduction to turn2me.org

Hello,

My name is Eoin O'Shea and I am a counselling psychologist working at Turn2me, an online mental health organisation (www.turn2me.org)

A Boards moderator recently brought a post of yours to my attention (as part of a collaborative support arrangement which Turn2me has with Boards.ie). It seems you were quite distressed - I take this very seriously as you must really be suffering quite a bit at the moment.

What I would like to say is that we can provide anonymous support at Turn2me should you wish to (a) avail of our support forums, (b) take part in our Online Support Groups which run every day, or (c) use any of the other features at our site.

As part of a programme called 'Engage' (details of which can be found at www.turn2me.org ), I would be happy to offer you a number of free online counselling sessions which are then combined with at least two of our other services to make sure you get the support and help you deserve - free of charge.

Please let me know if you'd have an interest in this - just so that I can touch base with you and make sure you've received this message - and you can then apply for the Engage programme online by visiting our site.

I wish you the very best and hope to hear from you soon,

Eoin