Inviting work colleagues to your wedding

retro:electro

Would you invite your work colleagues to your wedding? I say this because today at work I received an invitation to the afters of some guys wedding who I've spoken to maybe four times. Initially I thought it was a mistake and that I had received another Anna's invite, but apparently most people in the office got an invite. It got me thinking, if and when I ever do get married I don't think I would invite anyone I work with, looking at their faces in the crowd would just remind me of the misery I feel when I'm at work! I would feel obligated to invite two or three of the girls but if push came to shove I probably wouldn't bother. I work in a place where we all get along just enough to make the day pass as swiftly as possible, then when five o clock comes it's "ya that's a great story Mary see ya later thanks". Anyone else here think the same?

Fuhrer

The afters is for people you dont like that much but you want them to know you spent money on the wedding.

endacl

I'd invite Facebook 'friends' first. If I was on facebook...

dee_mc

I've worked in a number of schools and whenever someone got married in Ireland, all staff were invited to afters. One afters invitation pinned to the notice board was the usual method used. I never went, very few others took up the offer either - I think the general feeling was if you went you had to bring a gift, and if you went to one you'd have to go to all of them.

The mean oul' git is only chancing his arm for a present you know. I suggest a bag of coal plus an envelope stuffed with photocopied £20 notes.

corner of hells

Go with a pillow stuffed up your top and drunkenly tell every one who asks that you're the grooms ex and the t you're sure he'll be a great father.

Fuhrer

Rule of thumb:

If you're invited to the wedding, only go to the afters.

If you're invited to the afters, dont go at all

Menas

You should only invite friends and family to your wedding...if a work colleague falls into one of these two then OK to invite.
This rule does not hold true for Indian weddings however where everyone you ever met gets invited.

The One Doctor

Never invite coworkers. Coworkers are by default all arseholes, lazy or incompetent, no matter what the job.

Red Pepper

Bear in mind that most people would prefer a letter from revenue to a wedding invite.

Antar Bolaeisk

Inviting someone to the afters is really only a formality, you know that you don't want them at the event and they know that you don't want them at the event but not inviting them at all is a serious faux pas.

stinkle

I only invited two people Im friends with outside of work. One had left by the time the wedding rolled around. Didnt invite two others as we really dont get on. I didnt care if that seemed rude, we were tight on numbers and the thought of excluding family/friends or stressing over where to sit these people just to save face in work made me realise that they weren't worth it.

Robsweezie

after party = after thought