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Relationship run its course?

  • 17-11-2014 8:06pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,
    I love my girlfriend to bits I really do. I can't imagine life without her. I would be thoroughly heart broken if we broke up.It would probably be very hard. but I feel I can never reach my full potential if I stay in this relationship. Maybe for her too. But it is a safe bet for both of us.. 'What should I do? Are these feelings normal considering I love my girlfriend?


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  • #2
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    Why can't you reach your potential?


  • #3
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    Your post is pretty vague so it's hard to know what to advise. Could you come back and give us more details. Like an answer to why you feel both of you might not reach your potential if you stay together. It'd also be useful to know how old you are, how long you're together, are ye living together, what way the relationship generally works. Perhaps more of an insight into what you're thinking.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Sorry should of left more info. I'm 24 she is 26 . We have been together for 5 years now. Our sex life is vertully nil. She want children I don't at the minute. She has a child from a previous relationship. He is now 5. We live together. I just have a feeling that our relationship has run it's course and that we would probably have a better life without each other as we have kinda hidden away from the world. We don't go out at all. Nobody calls. I have lost al my friends as I put all my time into her and likewise with her.


  • #5
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    Don't know what to do wrote: »
    Sorry should have left more info. I'm 24 she is 26 . We have been together for 5 years now. Our sex life is virtually nil. She want children I don't at the minute. She has a child from a previous relationship. He is now 5. We live together. I just have a feeling that our relationship has run it's course and that we would probably have a better life without each other as we have kinda hidden away from the world. We don't go out at all. Nobody calls. I have lost all my friends as I put all my time into her and likewise with her.

    I suppose the first question to ask is do you want to save the relationship? Have you spoken to your girlfriend about the issues you've outlined? Do you know what her thoughts about it are? In theory some of these are solvable e.g. the lack of a sex life and the fact that neither of you have a social life these days. The children issue's trickier because your "I don't want (them) at the minute" could turn out to be "I don't want them ever".
    The lack of sex is something you'd need to watch though if you decide not to break up. It could be a medical issue, a psychological issue or something else. A few months ago there was a rash of threads here from married men whose marriages were miserable and sexless. When asked, quite a few of them said their wives hadn't been all that keen on sex before they'd tied the knot and things had just gone downhill in the years since.

    In the end though, what you need to listen to is your gut. If you feel in your heart of hearts that this relationship's not right for you any more then breaking up would be the wisest course of action. Now is a good time to do it, before you bring any children into this world either by accident or by design.


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