I am an ex Pickup Artist - AMA

Chance The Fapper · 17-11-2014 8:46pm #1

Go ahead. Preferably genuine questions rather than generalisations and insults

Pat Mustard · 19-11-2014 7:34pm

Does your username reflect your past glories as a PUA?

Gordon · 19-11-2014 11:03pm

Why did you stop?

Miss Demeanour · 19-11-2014 11:04pm

What made you become an ex pua?

Tokyo · 19-11-2014 11:49pm

I take it you've read 'The Game' by Neil Strauss then? As far as I remember, he got into it as part of an article, and got sucked into the lifestyle. Why did you decide to become a PUA? Did you take part in any classes or tutelage, or did you just wake up one morning and say "hey, I'm gonna be a pickup artist"?

Chance The Fapper · 20-11-2014 1:00am

The Mustard wrote: »

Does your username reflect your past glories as a PUA?

No, it's a pun on the name Chance The Rapper. (Check him out).

Gordon wrote: »

Why did you stop?

I got myself a girlfriend

Miss Demeanour wrote: »

What made you become an ex pua?

See above

mike_ie wrote: »

I take it you've read 'The Game' by Neil Strauss then? As far as I remember, he got into it as part of an article, and got sucked into the lifestyle. Why did you decide to become a PUA? Did you take part in any classes or tutelage, or did you just wake up one morning and say "hey, I'm gonna be a pickup artist"?

Yes, I read it because I first read his book "Emergency - This book will save your life" and I wanted to check out his other material. The Game really sucked me in and opened my eyes to the possibilities.

I decided to become one because I wanted more women. I didn't take any classes. A friend of mine read the book after I recommended to him, and we read a bit more material and watched some youtube videos, and we said screw it, and went to Dublin during the summer days to chat to women.

Macavity. · 20-11-2014 1:05am

What makes you think you qualify to be called a PUA?

Gordon · 20-11-2014 1:08am

How do you feel about the tactics you used? And what do you think about the recent UK decision to deny a Visa to Julien Blanc? http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-30119100

0byme75341jo28 · 20-11-2014 1:15am

Did you not end up smelling very... fishy..?

Macavity. · 20-11-2014 1:24am

What would you define as a "Pickup Artist"?

Chance The Fapper · 20-11-2014 2:07am

Macavity. wrote: »

What makes you think you qualify to be called a PUA?

I never really call myself one, but I think I fit the bill seeing as I went out to clubs and to Grafton street and similar for the sole purpose of getting girls' numbers and dates

Gordon wrote: »

How do you feel about the tactics you used? And what do you think about the recent UK decision to deny a Visa to Julien Blanc? http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-30119100

I never went deep into the mind games and techniques and stuff, I just went for improving myself generally. So I have no guilt or anything about any potential manipulation or craic like that.

I think he's an idiot with a huge ego, but I don't know if it warrants denying him a visa.

Esperanza Early Stubble wrote: »

Did you not end up smelling very... fishy..?

I shower once a week whether I need it or not.

Macavity. wrote: »

What would you define as a "Pickup Artist"?

Good question. I suppose someone who spends a lot of time chatting up women, getting numbers, dates, and I suppose laid

thefireinside · 20-11-2014 2:26am

Are you tall dark and handsome? Cos that's how I picture a pick up artist. . And lounging erotically at the bar of course; )

Macavity. · 20-11-2014 2:27am

You are approached by a magic donkey. He offers you the chance to have anything in the world you want, but in exchange, you can never see your girlfriend again. What do you do?

Macavity. · 20-11-2014 2:30am

Is being a successful PUA primarily about physical appearance?

Miss Demeanour · 20-11-2014 2:31am

Did you have a particular type of woman that you went for?

Mellor · 20-11-2014 2:34am

Chance The Fapper wrote: »

I never really call myself one, but I think I fit the bill seeing as I went out to clubs and to Grafton street and similar for the sole purpose of getting girls' numbers and dates

That's the sole purpose of most singles guys when they go out.
I think you'd need to be a bit more unique to call yourself a PUA.

How many nights out would you have in a typical a week, and out of them how often would you get laid?
How many people have you slept with?

enfant terrible · 20-11-2014 2:42am

Mellor wrote: »

That's the sole purpose of most singles guys when they go out.
I think you'd need to be a bit more unique to call yourself a PUA.

How many nights out would you have in a typical a week, and out of them how often would you get laid?
How many people have you slept with?

I think people associate PUA's with chatting up girls outside of pubs and clubs i.e the street, coffee shops, library etc.

Macavity. · 20-11-2014 3:13am

enfant terrible wrote: »

I think people associate PUA's with chatting up girls outside of pubs and clubs i.e the street, coffee shops, library etc.

I've only ever considered PUA's with the internet tbh.

endacl · 20-11-2014 3:16am

Are you good at picking up any other stuff? Can you pick up sticks? Will you pick up the tab?

Chance The Fapper · 20-11-2014 10:16am

thefireinside wrote: »

Are you tall dark and handsome? Cos that's how I picture a pick up artist. . And lounging erotically at the bar of course; )

I'm tall anyway :P

Macavity. wrote: »

You are approached by a magic donkey. He offers you the chance to have anything in the world you want, but in exchange, you can never see your girlfriend again. What do you do?

Kidnap the donkey and beat him until he gives me anything I want while still having my girlfriend.

Macavity. wrote: »

Is being a successful PUA primarily about physical appearance?

Definitely not. Good looks definitely help, and lead to more success in general, but on their own they're close to worthless.

Miss Demeanour wrote: »

Did you have a particular type of woman that you went for?

Not intentionally

Mellor wrote: »

That's the sole purpose of most singles guys when they go out.
I think you'd need to be a bit more unique to call yourself a PUA.

How many nights out would you have in a typical a week, and out of them how often would you get laid?
How many people have you slept with?

I used to approach women actively during the day, chat to them for a few minutes and get their numbers, or sometimes we'd go for coffee straight away.

In the beginning I went out about three times a week, but I found that I enjoyed day game a hell of a lot more, so I stopped going out as much, and approached more women on the street.

I didn't get laid that often from hitting the clubs to be honest,I didn't have my own place, and that held me back a bit.

I'd prefer not to say, but in the year or so that I was actively trying I'd say I got conservatively 300+ numbers, and probably 40 - 50 first dates

pebbles21 · 20-11-2014 10:22am

Since you are an artist..Are you exempt from paying tax ?

Chance The Fapper · 20-11-2014 10:31am

endacl wrote: »

Are you good at picking up any other stuff? Can you pick up sticks? Will you pick up the tab?

Unfortunately no,I don't lift.

pebbles21 wrote: »

Since you are an artist..Are you exempt from paying tax ?

I consider myself exempt from water charges, but that's a whole other thread :P

Orim · 20-11-2014 12:38pm

Chance The Fapper wrote: »

I'd prefer not to say, but in the year or so that I was actively trying I'd say I got conservatively 300+ numbers, and probably 40 - 50 first dates

Can you define why you never felt the need to try to develop a deeper realtionship with any of these woman? A desire to keep playing the game or just no-one clicked? Or would have some woman that you did go on second, third, ongoing dates with?

Connected, but maybe too personal, what was that made you take that extra step with your girlfriend?

Chance The Fapper · 20-11-2014 1:49pm

Orim wrote: »

Can you define why you never felt the need to try to develop a deeper realtionship with any of these woman? A desire to keep playing the game or just no-one clicked? Or would have some woman that you did go on second, third, ongoing dates with?

Connected, but maybe too personal, what was that made you take that extra step with your girlfriend?

I was open to going out with any of the women really. Some clicked more than others so we went on second and third dates. None of them I connected with on a level where I wanted an exclusive relationship with them.

I met my girlfriend through college and she was my best friend before we started going out, so it was deeper from the beginning I suppose