Anyone else with a dream/aspiration that they just can't let go of?

Montroseee

All my life I've been football crazy, literally from about 3-4 years of age. During this time I've developed a deep love and obsession with everything Manchester United and always dreamed of playing for the club. I played football quite seriously from about 12 and had a short stint on a LoI squad where unfortunately I had to forgo my football career for education and work. I am now mid-twenties, with a decent full-time job and in reality, have no hope of ever achieving my one, true goal.

Obviously I know it was always incredibly unlikely that I would ever play for UTD. but I would have loved to play the sport professionally. On reflection, there are numerous decisions I made in my youth that in hindsight, likely hindered me. Conor McGregor described his thought process as one of 'tunnel vision' where he was so focused on his goal that it completely took over his life, to summarise, this has been my attitude to football has been like for as long as I can remember. I still play for my club but it's not taken too seriously and it's really hit me this year that IMO things could be different and I feel as if I never truly realised my potential, if that ever would have been good enough is a different story. I still go bed every single night dreaming of what it would be like playing for my favourite club and daydream too to the point where I often think I need professional help . Are there others with unfulfilled dreams and aspirations relating to sport, career, music, acting, relationships etc. etc. ?

jimgoose

I want to be a world SBK champion, despite being very old and fat and scared. Foggy, Foggy, Foggy. Oi, Oi, OI!!

kneemos

Usually killed off by the time we leave secondary school.

Tugboats

Sex with a girl without paying for it

NotCominBack

Tugboats wrote: »

Sex with a girl without paying for it

Just run off when she turns her back

newmug

I feel the same about owning a piece of land. My own little piece of Ireland. Long before there were water charges and stupidly high mortgages, I wanted a few acres of my own and a little house, somewhere near my parents, and just be completely self-sufficient. Whatever job you would have would basically be spare cash to spend. I grew up that way (as did most rural dwellers), but nowadays that dream is just drifting further and further from my grasp.


OP, I know how hurt and disappointed you must feel. You probably mull over the points in life where you should have done something differently, or hold out a hope that someday, a miracle will happen and you'll get a chance to fulfil your dreams. I know how this feels.


What I find helps, is to carry out your dreams on a small scale. This way, you get a taste for what it would really be like, but you can switch off whenever you want to without disrupting your "real" life too much. It also puts into perspective how massively you under-estimated the commitment necessary to carry out your goal, and this sometimes makes me feel a bit better. I think to myself "well I probably wouldn't have been successful at this anyway". I know it sounds defeatist, but it can ease the pangs of longing sometimes.

Sauve

I'm gonna own a cafe by the sea.
I have a fiver, that's a good start :P

Thargor

To be rich, rich enough to travel wherever I like without having to come back to my sh1tty job.

Highflyer13

The dream is to be a pilot. I have wanted to fly since I was about 5 and its all I ever wanted to do since. Started the training and got my PPL but stopped due to finances. I will pick it up in a few years again and finish the training out once I finish a degree im currently doing.

Hold the Cheez Whiz

Writing fiction. It is something that I've been more conscious about making time for recently - I've been working on just writing whatever pops into my head and character sketches, but I'm getting more serious about structure. But I know that this is a road strewn with rejection, and I face enough of that in my day job.

AgileMyth

jimgoose wrote: »

I want to be a world SBK champion, despite being very old and fat and scared. Foggy, Foggy, Foggy. Oi, Oi, OI!!

Moto GP is the pinnacle. SBK is a huge step down. Dream big.

Micky Dolenz

When I grow up I want to be a robot.

Don Kedick

My aim was to have killed one million people at this stage in my plan for World domination. I've only killed 10. Someday I'll acheive my goal.

Sonics2k

Since I was about 8 I wanted to be a pilot more than anything. Now, like all kids I wanted to be many things, but a pilot was always the dream.

But as it turns out, when I was about 18 I found out I had a pretty rare disorder that had an impact on my heart, which at it's worst could cause massive pains in my chest. I swear to god it feels like I'm having a heart attack when they happen.

I did a preliminary test with the RAF and passed virtually every test quite well, but when the final medical was completed before I could start official training they said that due to that health concern I'd never be a pilot. They were very nice about it, but made it quite clear I'd probably never get qualified as a solo pilot and never get a job as one. That always depressed me a bit.

The good news though, is that for my 30th birthday last August, my soon to be wife and my mother got together and paid for me to have a full flying lesson which is booked for next summer, so at least once in my life I'll get to fly a plane for a while!

UCDVet

This will probably sound mad....I never had a specific dream or goal in life. But I always *assumed* I'd just wake up one day and FIND a dream. Naturally, it would be my life's passion and I would end up rich, successful, famous, or whatever.

I went to uni because, well, that's what I was supposed to do. I studied computers because, well, I liked them. I finished school, but I still didn't know what to do. Naturally, I got a job. A respectable, well paying (but boring) office job writing software. I fell in love, married my wife....life was good and all, but I just felt like I was waiting for something to happen. Waiting to find my 'dream' so I could hurry up and be rich, famous, successful and fulfilled.

I bought a house, fixed it up, sold it, made some money. But it didn't fill me with joy or anything.

I went back to school (while working) and got a Masters degree. Did really well, top of my class and all that....and I enjoyed it a bit. Then it ended and I was left going, 'Eh, now what?'

Each year I get older. I've changed jobs a few times, and it's mostly the same story, I enjoy the work well enough, I keep getting paid more money, I'm quite comfortable, but I'm still waiting to figure out what my dream is.

I'm not even saying I'll be able to achieve it, I'd just like to have one - if that makes any sense.

I had a friend who started playing guitar at the same time I did. We were both terrible. I play a few hours here or there, and I've slowly gotten better. I'm 'okay' - I can play a good number of songs and they sound like they should. I know a little music theory, but I'm nothing special.

My friend, he fell in love with the guitar. He started playing for hours, every day. He stopped doing sports so he'd have more time for guitar. He quit school so he could play guitar. He made demo tapes and lived in a van while doing shows anywhere he could. It was his dream to be a guitar player. He was amazing. He never made it big, he's not rich. He eventually gave up, now he's a local guitar teacher. He still does gigs but he doesn't go on the road. He doesn't have a lot of money...but he found his passion, he gave it his all, and even if he didn't make it on MTV - he had an amazing time. His stories are insane, he was living the dream.

I've never found anything that I'd care enough about to do that. I just always thought I would.

Deathwish4

36 minutes ago I was sure I was about to become a millionaire



Ever Onwards (Wednesday)

Saipanne

Music. When I try to, I can write some very good songs, that get great feedback from friends and strangers, alike. I often wonder what would have happened if I really went for it. I definitely don't lack drive or a strong work ethic, on the contrary, in fact, but I definitely lacked the courage to take the plunge, and instead chose the safer option of a normal career.

It's not a big regret, though. I'm happy with my life.

Oink

I had this great dream when I was a teen, and i've been living it for years now.

I'm kinda screwed now: Being happy and content looks a lot like being a bum with no ambition.

Chucken

Sauve wrote: »

I'm gonna own a cafe by the sea.
I have a fiver, that's a good start :P

That's my dream too
I too have a fiver

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

When I grow up I want to be a robot.

You'd want to make up your mind..
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=92916472&postcount=22

To Elland Back

Football is my passion and I have a recurring dream that I become wealthy enough to bring my local team to a higher level.Everything is worked out in fine detail, even the schedule for painting the fence around the pitch.

Micky Dolenz

Wha? That was last week. I changed my mind.

I'm a nightmare to get Christmas presents for. Already sent my 4th edition letter to Santa.

Chance The Fapper

I've always dreamed of being an entrepreneur (and millionaire) and I think it's still well achievable.

From doing karaoke a few times, I've discovered a real passion for performing and being on stage, trouble is there's not much of a market for rappers with an Irish culchie accent :P

McChubbin

To finish a novel and actually get it published. I always wind up succumbing to 10th/20th chapter fatique and end up abandoning the story but this time around I'm determined to finish a small novella. I have no idea if what I'm currently working on will be 10 or 20 chapters long but I kind of like not knowing and since I started my writing course, I've learned that the "stop and start" technique (IE: Write a limit of 6-8 pages a day and then ignore it for a week to recharge the brain and avoid burnout) works in my favour and for once, I'm really enjoying what I'm doing.
I know that a writing career doesn't exactly pay very well but it is my hope that some day I'll get prolific enough to earn enough money to go travelling and write a journal about my adventures.

Sauve

Chucken wrote: »

That's my dream too
I too have a fiver

We have a tenner! Jackpot!

Matt_Trakker

Chance The Fapper wrote: »

I've always dreamed of being an entrepreneur (and millionaire) and I think it's still well achievable.

From doing karaoke a few times, I've discovered a real passion for performing and being on stage, trouble is there's not much of a market for rappers with an Irish culchie accent :P

Do it!
Scary Eire, Captain Moonlight, bogger rap is deadly in the right hands.

Henlars67

Montroseee wrote: »

All my life I've been football crazy, literally from about 3-4 years of age. During this time I've developed a deep love and obsession with everything Manchester United and always dreamed of playing for the club. I played football quite seriously from about 12 and had a short stint on a LoI squad where unfortunately I had to forgo my football career for education and work. I am now mid-twenties, with a decent full-time job and in reality, have no hope of ever achieving my one, true goal.

Obviously I know it was always incredibly unlikely that I would ever play for UTD. but I would have loved to play the sport professionally. On reflection, there are numerous decisions I made in my youth that in hindsight, likely hindered me. Conor McGregor described his thought process as one of 'tunnel vision' where he was so focused on his goal that it completely took over his life, to summarise, this has been my attitude to football has been like for as long as I can remember. I still play for my club but it's not taken too seriously and it's really hit me this year that IMO things could be different and I feel as if I never truly realised my potential, if that ever would have been good enough is a different story. I still go bed every single night dreaming of what it would be like playing for my favourite club and daydream too to the point where I often think I need professional help . Are there others with unfulfilled dreams and aspirations relating to sport, career, music, acting, relationships etc. etc. ?

Would you not join another club who take their football a bit more seriously?

Do you think you have the ability to play for one of the top League of Ireland clubs?

If you do, then maybe it isn't too late to aim for that. You could play professionally with them for a couple of years.
I'm aware that LOI wages are low, but at least you'd have played professionally, even if it's not with United.