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Lost in life

  • 12-11-2014 11:11am
    #1
    m@cc@
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,526 ✭✭✭


    Hi All,

    hoping you can shine some light this for me.

    I'm 31 and for the past couple of months, I've been stressing to the point of throwing up about how "behind" I am in life. To give you a background, I took 6 years to complete my degree and then travelled for a couple of years before moving to London. As a result, I have this number in my head that I'm '4 years' behind where I should be in life and I'm regretting effectively messing about and not being more focussed.

    It mostly stems from seeing where all my friends are (I know this is toxic but I can't help it!) - they all are married, having kids or buying houses. I am not in a position to have any of these things and won't be for a few years.

    Last week, I actually accepted a job with another company which is a fantastic position but nothing like the pay range that my friends are in. I know this role will lead to good things but just not as fast as I want them to happen.

    I don't think I have ever really been that concerned with what other people are doing or earning but it feels like turning 31 has made it all real and that I am destined to drift through life behind everyone else.

    I want to divulge just how much this is affecting my happiness to my friends but I'm worried that it will seem like jealousy for what they have achieved and that I'm come across like a pathetic whinger.

    If anyone has any similar experiences or advice it would be much appreciated,

    Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    kjl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,127 ✭✭✭kjl


    Look, you took the scenic route through life. I did it myself. However when I did get into work I worked my butt off and now earn more than my friends.

    Stop looking back and start looking forward.


  • #3
    castaway_lady
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 268 ✭✭castaway_lady


    Stop the lights here! Why are you desperate to undertake a whopping mortgage and little people that you will be responsible for for a long long time? Who says those people don't have regrets about not travelling and the likes? Maybe they are or are not making more money but do they have more money or do they give it to the bank every month for bricks and mortar? They also have much less latitude to change direction or location if they decide to.

    You just got an exciting new job that will take you on a good route. That's super! 31 is so young. Stop the ticking clock and enjoy the present.


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