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da_shivsta

Hi guys.
I hope this is okay. I'm not looking for advice really or anything. I'm just feeling a bit ****ty.

I have been chatting to this guy online in a purely friendly way (im in a relationship which he knows about). He was looking at my profile online where i had shared something about being bisexual. So he mentioned it this evening as he had only just seen it.

He said "so you think you might be gay" and I was like, "well I'm bisexual"
His response was basically - "yeah I would love to see you and another girl doin some double sided dildo action."

Now, I was in a bad mood already (which he knew) and I was instantly annoyed at this because as I said - we are just friends. I went straight on the defensive because it seemed to me that he misinterpreted 'bisexual' for 'sexually available.' Or something along those lines. Ugh. I can't explain it but I just saw red.:mad:

I replied with - I'm not gonna let myself be objectified. He protested and questioned and I pointed out that lesbian sex is not for male enjoyment, and that just because I like both sides doesn't mean I want them at the same time. He made some argument about sex being entertainment and by this point I just told him to **** off.

I just feel crappy after all this. I'm sure I'm not alone but it feels like it.:(:(

ninty9er

da_shivsta wrote: »

Hi guys.
I hope this is okay. I'm not looking for advice really or anything. I'm just feeling a bit ****ty.

I have been chatting to this guy online in a purely friendly way (im in a relationship which he knows about). He was looking at my profile online where i had shared something about being bisexual. So he mentioned it this evening as he had only just seen it.

He said "so you think you might be gay" and I was like, "well I'm bisexual"
His response was basically - "yeah I would love to see you and another girl doin some double sided dildo action."

Now, I was in a bad mood already (which he knew) and I was instantly annoyed at this because as I said - we are just friends. I went straight on the defensive because it seemed to me that he misinterpreted 'bisexual' for 'sexually available.' Or something along those lines. Ugh. I can't explain it but I just saw red.:mad:

I replied with - I'm not gonna let myself be objectified. He protested and questioned and I pointed out that lesbian sex is not for male enjoyment, and that just because I like both sides doesn't mean I want them at the same time. He made some argument about sex being entertainment and by this point I just told him to **** off.

I just feel crappy after all this. I'm sure I'm not alone but it feels like it.:(:(

It's just life. Block/delete and move on.

Mr.Frame

da_shivsta wrote: »

Hi guys.
I hope this is okay. I'm not looking for advice really or anything. I'm just feeling a bit ****ty.

I have been chatting to this guy online in a purely friendly way (im in a relationship which he knows about). He was looking at my profile online where i had shared something about being bisexual. So he mentioned it this evening as he had only just seen it.

He said "so you think you might be gay" and I was like, "well I'm bisexual"
His response was basically - "yeah I would love to see you and another girl doin some double sided dildo action."

Now, I was in a bad mood already (which he knew) and I was instantly annoyed at this because as I said - we are just friends. I went straight on the defensive because it seemed to me that he misinterpreted 'bisexual' for 'sexually available.' Or something along those lines. Ugh. I can't explain it but I just saw red.:mad:

I replied with - I'm not gonna let myself be objectified. He protested and questioned and I pointed out that lesbian sex is not for male enjoyment, and that just because I like both sides doesn't mean I want them at the same time. He made some argument about sex being entertainment and by this point I just told him to **** off.

I just feel crappy after all this. I'm sure I'm not alone but it feels like it.:(:(

Don't feel crappy .
What you said was correct, you stood up for yourself, explained yourself clearly and did nothing wrong.

da_shivsta

Thanks for you replies. Of course there's nothing to do but ignore him in future and it's not a huge problem really. I just felt angry and upset and I still feel so uneasy about the things he said. I feel that some of the things he said were kind of sexually aggressive and that makes me very uncomfortable to ever talk about my sexuality again!!

ninty9er

Some people are assholes, thankfully they're in a minority. Be yourself