going part time because I dread going to work??

Hannaho

I'm thinking of going part-time because on several days per month I have to work with a boss who is very difficult, and asks me to do work in quarter of the time of everyone else, which leaves me worrying about the care I am giving. When I started the job first, she had the job marked for someone else, but couldn't overrule the panel system, and she tried her best to have me moved. Now management has sent me on a postgraduate course twice a month, and on the one afternoon a fortnight that I go to college, there is always an issue about me leaving on time, which ends up going to my line manager - my boss is not my line manager in this health care facility. There have also been other issues since I came there - particularly one colleague making nasty remarks about single mothers to me, excluding me from work, not telling me things etc, badmouthing me - most of this has stopped, except the badmouthing, but I just put up with this. The boss favours this colleague and another colleague, so they can get away with a lot, i.e. leaving early, arriving late, doing a smaller amount of work in more time etc. I love my job, it's really interesting, but since I've been them I have had problems with my jaw and neck due to stress, I have also had problems sleeping, and I have become anxious about returning to work, particularly if this boss is going to be on that day - the job I have is known to very stressful one also. My G.P. is aware of the issues. I don't want to go part-time, as I don't think I could afford it, but I dread going to work most days- it's a very pressurising job, with little support. I just psych myself up to go to work, try to be pleasant, but keep my distance - don't do any socialising with the work crowd. Am I mad going part-time? When do you decide a job causing too much pressure. I'm applying for other jobs too?

Penny Tration

Have you spoken to an employment solicitor about this?

you've posted many threads about this one person and tbh, it's pretty much the same story each time, with you seemingly not following the advice given.

if you really cannot handle the work, ask your gp about going on stress leave.

you should be documenting incidents and speaking to a solicitor at this stage.

Hannaho

I should have said that my boss has threatened me and others that if anyone said anything about her, she would sue us, and my line manager is terrified of her, and calls her a 'very difficult woman'.

Penny Tration

Hannaho wrote: »

I should have said that my boss has threatened me and others that if anyone said anything about her, she would sue us, and my line manager is terrified of her, and calls her a 'very difficult woman'.

Go above your line manager. Go to hr.

Stheno

Jingle_Balls wrote: »

Have you spoken to an employment solicitor about this?

you've posted many threads about this one person and tbh, it's pretty much the same story each time, with you seemingly not following the advice given.

if you really cannot handle the work, ask your gp about going on stress leave.

you should be documenting incidents and speaking to a solicitor at this stage.

Jingle_Balls wrote: »

Go above your line manager. Go to hr.

I'd repeat both of the above, tbh at this point it's almost like you are facilitating the behaviour by not doing anything about it, and not doing anyone including yourself any good at all.

Hannaho

Hi! Thanks for the replies. I'm concerned about going to HR as I don't want to be known as a whiner, and in my experience of seeing my colleagues in another health facility, go through something similar, reporting bad bad behaviour only served to get them a reputation as a trouble-maker. Also, when I was the subject of nasty remarks, exclusion, it was the person who made the remarks that was given the support - so not encouraging! Just wondered though would anyone go part-time just to get away from an environment like this, or would you just stick it out?

Stheno

Hannaho wrote: »

Hi! Thanks for the replies. I'm concerned about going to HR as I don't want to be known as a whiner, and in my experience of seeing my colleagues in another health facility, go through something similar, reporting bad bad behaviour only served to get them a reputation as a trouble-maker. Also, when I was the subject of nasty remarks, exclusion, it was the person who made the remarks that was given the support - so not encouraging! Just wondered though would anyone go part-time just to get away from an environment like this, or would you just stick it out?

How is going part time going to resolve this? Will you be on a different team and working with entirely diferent people?

HR have anti harrassment and anti bullying policies to deal with this.

allym

I understand that in a difficult environment it can be hard to stand up yourself, but you really, really need to escalate this.

You've stated that you can't afford to go part-time but are considering it just to get away from them. That's absolutely not ok, and you need to get this sorted. HR policies are in place for a reason.

Hannaho

Thanks for all the replies - my experience of seeing others go through this and having gone through some of this with coleague who has made all the nasty comments, is that managers and HR just view you as a trouble-maker. Re. then comment on focusing on my studies and other things, I am going to try and do this to keep my mind off things. How bad are where I work - a trainee who I was mentoring - a man in his 40s asked me on my last day as I was appraising him, how I continued to work there as the atmosphere was so bad, the way I was spoken to was so disrespectful, and the esclusionary tactics so obvious!

doolox

I hope you have all the incidents recorded in a diary so that you have evidence of continuous harrasment etc.

If not then start doing so now.

Try and get allies who will back you up in any disputes in future.

Keep track of all correspondance emails etc regarding your relationship with the toxic boss and colleagues...do not accept verbal instruction or change of procedures etc without written confirmation of same.

From what you describe you could be suffering from stress and this won't get better by ignoring it or hoping it will go away. Only confrontation and boundary setting will solve this ongoing problem.

Hannaho

Hi! Doolox, thanks for the advice - I have been recording issues, but mentioning anything to management only seems to make everything a lot worse. I've started looking for a new job, so hopefully will get one soon. Apart from that, I'm going to keep as quiet as possible about what's going on to make sure they don't make things worse for me.

lazeedaisy

I can only second ALL the advice you have been given here but choose to ignore.

You are letting the bullying happen and paying it lip service,

Go report it so the next person in the chain has an equal footing.

There are in fact Protected Disclosures in the Irish Health Service ("Whistleblowing) policies which I have worked on that protect individuals.

Do the right thing for everyone.

Help!!!!

buy something like this

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Have it in your pocket recording all day. If it records your boss being mean to you make a copy them go in play it to your boss & tell her you will give it to her bosses if she continues with the harassment......should change her attitude pretty quickly

allroad

You really need to take this on, through HR.
Never mind the potential "trouble maker" reputation, it might even serve as a form of protection in the future.

Help!!!!

allroad wrote: »

You really need to take this on, through HR.
Never mind the potential "trouble maker" reputation, it might even serve as a form of protection in the future.

HR are really not much use, they are company employees who's job is to stop the company getting sued....my wife had similar situation & all they wanted was her to get back to work asap, didn't really do anything to sort out the issues.

allroad

Try the union. If you aren't a member, join now.
Whatever you do, don't allow this to continue. If you have a case then fight it. Bullying only exists because it is permitted by the victims.