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Gay dating dublin

  • 11-11-2014 8:36pm
    #1
    curry_person
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 212 ✭✭


    Where do most people go to find dates?
    the scene in dublin is just people looking for sex and same with grindr etc!


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  • #2
    Ash885
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 639 ✭✭✭Ash885


    If you're going to label everyone who goes out on the scene as just wanting sex then you're going to remain very lonely indeed. Not everyone is out for that one thing; surely there are some and that's really their business, but in my view no more or no less than the standard nightclub found in Ireland.

    A lot of dates can happen organically, and if you're not up for going out to the gay bars etc. (and it's not for everyone), maybe pursue a hobby or interest and you'll come across people on a similiar wavelength. There's a lot of groups out there which can help even expand your gay friend circle without having to go to any place you don't want to.


  • #3
    playedalive
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭playedalive


    Hi OP! I'm not going to judge you on your comment where you said 'everybody on the scene/grindr is looking for sex'. A huge assumption on your part but you can feel this way in those 'spaces' and it's easy to come to that conclusion. You're entitled to make that point, however slightly erroneous it may be.

    On the surface, especially if you are new to expressing your sexuality, you're going to be, very generally speaking, hit by so much 'textspeak' (bravado, want sex now, let me swall..........) that you're gonna become disappointed. There are good people beneath all that, it really does take time and you have to learn to deal with bulls**t. I've tried the scene but only find it fun for a nightout with friends. And if something happens, so be it. It has rarely happened and it was usually because I knew the person beforehand. Same with grindr, out of male curiousity, I became a bit more open minded to NSA but was deep down a little bit disappointed. I knew it was going to amount to nothing other than that, but it's better to regret the thing you did rather than what you didn't do. I am not telling you to do that btw. It can be extremely self destructive if you keep doing it and are not 100 per cent into it.

    If there is anything I can add, I think what you want is something that is not too serious but genuine. Really I think you're better off getting involved in gay themed societies. You need to put the effort in to meet people.There are gay men choirs and meet ups on meetup.com. Also wet and wild (not a euphemism, btw) is geared towards watersports and you can add their group on facebook, e-mail. I'm sure another boardsie can finish that sentence.

    Best of luck.


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