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STI query

  • 05-11-2014 4:45pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So, I’ve gotten test results back for STIs and I have Chlamydia. I’m sooo annoyed at myself and know how stupid I’ve been.
    Majority of my sexual life I’ve been rigorous about condoms and had a “no glove, no love” policy. I had a **** buddy thing going on for about 3 years and the guy hated condoms. After the first time we had sex without them, it seemed pointless to push the issue after that (I know! I know!!) Such stupidity!
    Anyway, it was always in the back of my mind to get tested, but I just kept putting it on the long finger. Finally got round to it.
    I was kind of spurred as I recently hooked up with a friend and while we used condoms, at one point we got carried away and there was some intercourse which didn’t include a condom.
    Now, this guy is a bit of a man wh*re and has previously hooked up with 2 friends of mine (1 I know for sure he slept with, the other I’m not sure they had sex). So, the girl I know he slept with – who I’m quite friendly with – do I tell her and suggest she get tested? Or do I leave it to him to do???

    There is a chance that he is the one who passed on the Chlamydia to me, but I’m guessing I picked it up from the other guy.
    If I’m the carrier then there’s little chance that my friend would have it as she slept with him long before me.

    I guess I should maybe just tell him and let him take it from there…. If he tests negative then there’d be no need for him to be telling anyone…
    Ugh, I feel like such a wh*re… :( I’m so angry at myself and ashamed and confused about what to do….


Comments

  • #2
    Tokyo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,656 ✭✭✭✭Tokyo


    You're far from being a whore, so please stop entertaining that thought. You slept with two guys at two different times in your life, and unfortunately not using protection caught up with you in this instance - thankfully it's a common STI that's easily cured with antibiotics, and is nothing to be ashamed of. Think of it as a lesson learnt.

    Realistically you have no guaranteed way of telling which guy passed it on to you, so the smartest thing would be to tell both guys in question that due to the results of your recent test, that they should get an STD test too. I wouldn't say anything to the friend just yet, as right now there's nothing really to tell - let the guys in question get tested, and based on their results, encourage them to tell other partners if they have anything to worry about. If the second guy does test positive, and decides NOT to tell your friend down the line, then might be the time to reconsider your course of action.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for your response. Yeah, I have already told the 1st guy.
    That was my gut feeling alright regarding telling my friend. I will tell the second guy today. I'm going to be a chicken and just text him as I can't face telling him in person.

    Thanks for the help. I guess I just wanted to be sure I was handling this properly.
    Lesson learned for sure! This def WONT be happening again.


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