What would you do....

Help!!!!

.....if you married someone who seems to be paranoid. I mean she says stuff like " your siblings are telling your parents bad things about me " As far as I know my siblings like her but either ways she has no proof of them telling my parents anything. Things are ok mostly, when its just the two of us but once other people are involved sooner or later " they have done something "
She had a hard childhood and says she is protecting herself but surely this is not right.
Its really starting to affect me as she accuses me of doing thing's when I haven't

endacl

I'd take the question to my GP. For advice, assessment and possible referral.

As should you.

Help!!!!

endacl wrote: »

I'd take the question to my GP. For advice, assessment and possible referral.

As should you.

yeah was thinking about that
She did part of a psychology course and now thinks she can read people's facial expressions and movements.
I mean she is a lovely caring person most of the time but its hard to be around her sometimes.
A couple of Saturday's ago we had my family round for dinner, everything was fine afterwards she said she enjoyed it, by Monday my sister had been aggressive to her, us men in the family are trying to make the women fight, my mum was looking at her funny. So now to get peace I've said we wont see them until Christmas.

LegacyUser

Help!!!! wrote: »

So now to get peace I've said we wont see them until Christmas.

I don't think that's a good idea. If she actually has some basis for it then a solution needs to be found which doesn't involve affecting your family relationships and addresses their behaviour.
If, as you say, she is being paranoid, then you're giving in to irrational fears and assumptions, which shows you can be manipulated and will probably justify and entrench her behaviour, shuttinng them out becomes evidence of their guilt in her narrative. What will you do if she tells you friends are now gossiping about her, or colleagues, or people in the corner shop? What will you do if she makes unfounded acccusations about your behaviour which you can't disprove rationally?
Start on a solution now, not avoidance, because you won't find a solution down the road if it goes unchecked, whether the solution lies in addressing her state of mind or your family's behaviour.

Mathrew

If she accuses you doing things that you aren't, explain to her well that you haven't done anything wrong, and tell her you love her( i just hope it helps ).