Thank you cards

17larsson

My wife is not originally from this country and didn't know most of the people at our wedding so it was left to me to organise the thank you cards. I've been working mad hours the last few months and I still haven't got around to sending any. Is it too late to send them now, should I just forget about it (it's about 3 months now) or is it really bad form to not send any?

Arbiter of Good Taste

17larsson wrote: »

My wife is not originally from this country and didn't know most of the people at our wedding so it was left to me to organise the thank you cards. I've been working mad hours the last few months and I still haven't got around to sending any. Is it too late to send them now, should I just forget about it (it's about 3 months now) or is it really bad form to not send any?

3-6 months is about the norm, so send them on. Please don't forget about them, it's terribly rude.

Arbiter of Good Taste

Though I'm not sure why it is relevant that your wife didn't know most of the guests. There were plenty of people at my wedding that I didn't know (friends of the in laws, OH's workmates, etc). I still wrote all the thank you cards.

cactusgal

You've got up to a year to send them. Absolutely send them, it's classless not to thank your guests.

Whether or not your wife knows your guests, it's still proper order to thank them and, I'd imagine, share the task of writing them.

amdublin

Not sure about "up to a year".

But in any case better to send them late (whenever!) than never.

DIvide and conquer - half to your wife half to you - all you're writing is thank you for being part of our day and your lovely gift. Not sure why your wife can't help.

indigo twist

Definitely better to send them late than not at all! I wouldn't consider three months to be late, though.

Tarzana2

amdublin wrote: »

Not sure about "up to a year".

Well, I think the etiquette dictates that you can give a wedding gift up to six months after the wedding. (Not sure about this, can someone clarify?) So I guess 'Thank You' etiquette would account for that?

893bet

Didn't send any. And hate to recieve them.

pwurple

I've gotten some two years later... Which was a surprise, but their house got flooded and the original batch of cards floated away.

Do them.

Put them in a pile on the dinner table, or near the tv... Wherever you sit down after work. Do a couple a night, you willbe done in no time.

ABajaninCork

Did ours a month after the wedding. I had an Excel spreadsheet detailing who gave what, so that the cards could be personalised a bit. He & I sat down one night, and went through the list like a dose of salts!

Next day - Divided up the cards into Irish and International. Went to the PO and posted them all off. Done!

17larsson

Yeah cheers for the replies,
I'm just after finishing them all there and will post them tomorrow. Better late than never and feel much better for it as well. It's the decent thing to do even if I'm pretty late doing it

amdublin

You're not! Well done.

Vojera

I got ours out a week before our first anniversary, so you're doing well in comparison to me! It's better to send them late than not to bother.