How much do you spend on your girlfriend

The Diabolical Monocle

How much do YOU spend OP ??

Me - single, a bottle of hand lotion at about 3 euro.


Really though, just interested to see how much men are spending on gifts nights out etc for their lady/ladies/Asian boy these days.

Rough percentage of weekly income if you'd rather not give a number.

20-25% of weekly income, though about 50% of that benefits me, also, so about 10-12.5% directly.

Chance The Fapper

Not sure. I treat her to dinner or a movie or various dates once a week or a fortnight, and then if I see small gifts in the shop I pick them up occasionally. We're in college together so we see either everyday, so I maybe i don't weekend as much as those who only meet when they're going on dates.

eviltwin

Deleted User wrote: »

20-25% of weekly income, though about 50% of that benefits me, also, so about 10-12.5% directly.

Not every week surely?

eviltwin

eviltwin wrote: »

Not every week surely?

On average, I'd say. Probably sounds a lot more worse than it is.


She doesn't charge me as much as other fellas, though.*






*that part was a joke... a joke I tells ya!

Liam McPoyle

Not a lot tbh.

My fiancé and I split pretty much everything 50/50.

She buys dinner, I get the cinema tickets and pop corn, that kinda thing.

Once in a while I will surprise her with flowers or a nice bottle of Chateau de Pape but mostly it's even.

Sauve

[Deleted User] wrote: »

20-25% of weekly income, though about 50% of that benefits me, also, so about 10-12.5% directly.

Mother of god you're generous!
Can I ask what kinda stuff you buy her?!

mackg

My girlfriend and I would be fairly 50/50 as well but I make more than her so I might make up the difference now and again if she is stuck. The odd time then we treat the other to the cinema or whatever.

I don't be taking her out shopping and buying her stuff or anything like that.

We went on holiday recently and I think I spent maybe 100 Euro more than her.

Maybe 30/40 Euro per month to answer your original question op.

Sauve

Sauve wrote: »

Mother of god you're generous!
Can I ask what kinda stuff you buy her?!

Ah, I won't go into detail, but even if you were to look at it this way.

Lets say you buy someone lunch every week day, and it costs you €8 (for argument sake). €8 x 5 = €40. €40 is 20% of €200. Buy a bottle of perfume on top of that (for argument sake we'll price it at €40, again), and that's €80.

€80 is 20% of €400, etc.

So it can quickly add up.


However, I maintain that a fair bit of the stuff I buy would also benefit me (I'll leave that to your imaginations), and in fairness to her, she does the same for me (with regards to spending - it's not all one way.. I'm not a complete fool).


Looking at the figures a little more carefully, I probably do spend less than 25%. Probably closer to 20%, but she'd be similar, and that 20% going each way kinda helps us to get out of the house and enjoy things and go places, etc. on a regular basis, so it's money well spent in my opinion (even if we do fall into the trap of doing the same kinda stuff repeatedly).

Galwayguy35

Single at the moment but it was usually between 20 to 40 quid, most of the women I have dated would go halves, say I pay for one night out and she would pay the next.

designbydan

Deleted User wrote: »

She doesn't charge me as much as other fellas, though.*



*that part was a joke... a joke I tells ya!

So she does charge you the same?

Barely There

I don't really keep track.

My biggest extravagance is probably expensive lingerie for the OH - but that's kind of a treat for me too.

I do not really spend anything on them per se - just what genuine costs are of maintaining our relationship day to day. Periodically perhaps I purchase something for them or make some monetary gesture to my relationship with them.

What I spend most on them is the investment of my time - not my money. And the amount of that I invest - and the forms it take - are both more valuable - and more appreciated by them.

Mister Vain

It varies. It could be anything from a fiver to 50 euro per week. More often than not it would be a fiver though.

vibe666

About €50 for 30 minutes, but she does usually throw in a happy ending for that! :pac:

Wibbs

OK let's dial back the "jokes" please.

FactCheck

If you don't live together and have to pay for travel I can see how it could actually add up to a lot very quickly.

If you're a 30 or 40 minute drive away from each other, you both do that return journey twice a week... as a couple you're spending a fortune!

Mister Vain

FactCheck wrote: »

If you don't live together and have to pay for travel I can see how it could actually add up to a lot very quickly.

If you're a 30 or 40 minute drive away from each other, you both do that return journey twice a week... as a couple you're spending a fortune!

I hadn't thought of the travel expenses. My girlfriend is nearly an hours drive away and she has no car.

Lalealea

The Diabolical Monocle wrote: »

How much do YOU spend OP ??

Me - single, a bottle of hand lotion at about 3 euro.

You deserve better. A manicure every now and again would it kill you ? Would it? Think of all the times that beautiful hand has been there for you.

During the slow times and the fast times. No one knows you quite like that hand. No one knows quite how you like it like that hand. No one has the downward action quite down like that hand. No one gives you their all.No one pushes and releases like mr lefty.

That hand deserves a manicure. Feck no ...that hand deserves a ring. Wife it. And a cock ring too while your at it.

When you find love it's precious.

Lalealea

Wibbs wrote: »

OK let's dial back the "jokes" please.

Oops sorry ...won't happen again.

Lalealea

By the way OP does your hand give lessons?

audi12

Deleted User wrote: »

20-25% of weekly income, though about 50% of that benefits me, also, so about 10-12.5% directly.

I can see your crap with money spending that on a woman each week ask her for it back when your broke see what she says

audi12

audi12 wrote: »

I can see your crap with money spending that on a woman each week ask her for it back when your broke see what she says

Deleted User wrote: »

she does the same for me (with regards to spending - it's not all one way.. I'm not a complete fool).

Read the whole thread..

smurfjed

Friend of mine used to give close to 50% of his available salary to his girlfriend, considering that he earned a tax free salary and got a US military pension, this was a substantial amount of money. Now he has retired and moved back to the USA, he has married the girl and brought her with him and is intending to finance her as she goes through a hotel management training course.

Quite possibly the 40 year age gap has a lot to do with his state of mind

skallywag

I give the OH nothing really on a regular basis (we have a joint a/c into which we bought pay money to cover bills etc). That said though I do go a bit mad from time to time, I actually gave her 400 euro this very weekend for no particular reason at all (I was quite p!ssed mind you), and also bought her a laptop on a whim last year. I'll also pay for join expenses such a groceries etc quite often out of my own pocket instead of using the joint a/c.

The Wild Bunch

We live together - she's a student who doesn;t work and I earn a very decent wage so I pay for everything including rent, bills, food, nights out etc

Gandalph

I'm still in the courting phase so I try to pay for most things but she won't let me, sometimes sneaks off to the bathroom to pay the bill or just surprises me with theatre/concert tickets and the like. I'm currently just finished college/unemployed and she is working but still, I think I'm onto a keeper!

Liam McPoyle

The Wild Bunch wrote: »

We live together - she's a student who doesn;t work and I earn a very decent wage so I pay for everything including rent, bills, food, nights out etc

Circumstances like that are different in fairness. A friend of mine (female) did the same when her o/h was finishing his PHD.

Wompa1

I've been giving her zilch so far but she's now planning on going back to college in the US to do medicine...which is a long term commitment. It's also the cost of a house! She'll need some support throughout it. I'll likely be helping her with that

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

We're even enough. We have date nights once or twice a week. It's usually the cinema and dinner. He'll pay into the movie, ill get the drinks and sweets and stuff. He'll pay for dinner this week, ill get takeaway another night.

He will buy me random stuff that he might remember I was looking at online, or whatever. But I buy him random stuff too because he has no dress sense so when I'm shopping I usually pick him up little bits too.

He buys me better/more expensive things but he doesn't seem to mind.

skallywag

I also once supported a girlfriend while she was studying, paying her rent, bills, nights out, holidays, etc. Things didn't work out in the end and she went off with someone else once she finished studying and got a job in a place that she really wanted to work. Can't say I'm bitter at all about it really, that's just the way it goes. We stayed in touch from time to time over FB, the very odd short message to give congrats on the birth of a child, etc. I happened to notice then one day that she had de-friended me, so I asked her straight out why she had done that. She replied saying that she was having a cleanup of her friends list, and was removing people who were 'not good at sharing'. I didn't respond, but it brought a wry smile to my face!

LoganRice

If I had a girlfriend, I would probably spend about 10 euros on her per week because I'm sure she would be quite self-reliant in terms of money management so she wouldn't need help. If there was a special occasion then I'm sure I'd pay +100 euros for a particular present or holiday

one way to look at it is that if you're single you're probably, if you drink going to be going out at least one night a week when, depending on how mad that could go, could cost €80/100 or more. you probably don't do that as much when a couple so bringing her out for dinner, gifts etc can be the same as being single. these days, most girls will have their own job / career so they shouldn't be expecting the guy to pay for everything unless there is a "transaction" going on - e.g. a 50 yo guy going out with a 25 yo girl

The Wild Bunch

skallywag wrote: »

I also once supported a girlfriend while she was studying, paying her rent, bills, nights out, holidays, etc. Things didn't work out in the end and she went off with someone else once she finished studying and got a job in a place that she really wanted to work. Can't say I'm bitter at all about it really, that's just the way it goes. We stayed in touch from time to time over FB, the very odd short message to give congrats on the birth of a child, etc. I happened to notice then one day that she had de-friended me, so I asked her straight out why she had done that. She replied saying that she was having a cleanup of her friends list, and was removing people who were 'not good at sharing'. I didn't respond, but it brought a wry smile to my face!

Hope that doesnt to happen to me!

skallywag

The Wild Bunch wrote: »

Hope that doesnt to happen to me!

Nor do I!

To be fair I was probably quite bitter about it at the time, but looking back she genuinely had little or no money while studying, while I had a decent salary, and I was more than happy to spend my money on her.

I'm much meaner now though by the way

skallywag

skallywag wrote: »

I also once supported a girlfriend while she was studying, paying her rent, bills, nights out, holidays, etc.

Pretty much been doing that with one of my girlfriends for awhile now. I am full time employed - one is freelance and gets decent enough money - and the youngest is in Law. She is now a doctorate or phd or whatever in law but is still a bit in academia for another while yet. It means she is pulling in more money from lecturing and other things than before - while she polishes off the edges of her educational goals.

But before this she was basically earning her own nights out and holidays money with side jobs while studying. But all the expenses of actual day to day life - rent food bills - fell to me and my other Girlfriend.

Did not bother us one iota then - or now - and we are under no illusions whatsoever that in the next year or two she will be the bigger earner in our relationship. So we expect it all back so I can only imagine the slap in the face of having someone up and leave at the end of such an arrangement.

Respect for the self control and wry humour response at her "not sharing" comment though - there are many people indeed who would not have been so self controlled and calm - and would have given that comment the loud and angry response many would say it well deserved. Many years of self improvement - meditation - and study and I reckon I am only now in my life reaching a point where I am the kind of person I want to be with the level of personal enlightenment where my ego would allow a comment like that go untouched. The reaction of the ten years ago me to something like that in my life would have been - regrettable

Deleted User

Deleted User wrote: »

Pretty much been doing that with one of my girlfriends for awhile now. I am full time employed - one is freelance and gets decent enough money - and the youngest is in Law. She is now a doctorate or phd or whatever in law but is still a bit in academia for another while yet. It means she is pulling in more money from lecturing and other things than before - while she polishes off the edges of her educational goals.

But before this she was basically earning her own nights out and holidays money with side jobs while studying. But all the expenses of actual day to day life - rent food bills - fell to me and my other Girlfriend.

Did not bother us one iota then - or now - and we are under no illusions whatsoever that in the next year or two she will be the bigger earner in our relationship. So we expect it all back so I can only imagine the slap in the face of having someone up and leave at the end of such an arrangement.

how many concurrent girlfriends have you got?! how does that work?

Two and it works quite well thanks. Money wise - it means that we have a lot more disposable income to spend on each other. As I said earlier in the thread I do not really spend anything on them per se - just what genuine costs are of maintaining our relationship day to day. Periodically perhaps I purchase something for them or make some monetary gesture to my relationship with them. But they do the same so it balances out really. In the end I probably buy things for them that they would have for themselves anyway - and they do the same - so really when it comes to "how much money do I spend on them" the answer is technically nothing - because I would have spent that money on myself anyway and ended up with the same things.

Chance The Fapper

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Two and it works quite well thanks. Money wise - it means that we have a lot more disposable income to spend on each other. As I said earlier in the thread I do not really spend anything on them per se - just what genuine costs are of maintaining our relationship day to day. Periodically perhaps I purchase something for them or make some monetary gesture to my relationship with them. But they do the same so it balances out really. In the end I probably buy things for them that they would have for themselves anyway - and they do the same - so really when it comes to "how much money do I spend on them" the answer is technically nothing - because I would have spent that money on myself anyway and ended up with the same things.

Can you please make a thread where people ask you questions?

D'Agger

glasso wrote: »

how many concurrent girlfriends have you got?! how does that work?

That's not what's being discussed here & I'd like to keep this thread OT

What I would suggest that Tax respond via PM on this one, should he feel like doing so

Thargor

Deleted User wrote: »

Pretty much been doing that with one of my girlfriends for awhile now. I am full time employed - one is freelance and gets decent enough money - and the youngest is in Law. She is now a doctorate or phd or whatever in law but is still a bit in academia for another while yet. It means she is pulling in more money from lecturing and other things than before - while she polishes off the edges of her educational goals.

But before this she was basically earning her own nights out and holidays money with side jobs while studying. But all the expenses of actual day to day life - rent food bills - fell to me and my other Girlfriend.

Did not bother us one iota then - or now - and we are under no illusions whatsoever that in the next year or two she will be the bigger earner in our relationship. So we expect it all back so I can only imagine the slap in the face of having someone up and leave at the end of such an arrangement.

Respect for the self control and wry humour response at her "not sharing" comment though - there are many people indeed who would not have been so self controlled and calm - and would have given that comment the loud and angry response many would say it well deserved. Many years of self improvement - meditation - and study and I reckon I am only now in my life reaching a point where I am the kind of person I want to be with the level of personal enlightenment where my ego would allow a comment like that go untouched. The reaction of the ten years ago me to something like that in my life would have been - regrettable

Ever notice how many bullsh1tters on Boards use smileys to "soften the blow" when they know they're really pushing it? J C the ultimate warrior of Christ does the same thing when he's trying to argue with scientists in Evolution/atheism threads.

I think that might be the eight or ninth time Ive seen this same conversation where this spanner^ casually mentions "Oh one of my girlfriends does X but the other is more Y..." and someone else comes along and asks "How many girlfriends do you have?..." then he goes on to casually talk about the younger ones quirks compared to the older one with lots of and to show how its all a bit of craic like, complete and utter BS.

Wibbs

Thargor the long standing rule on this site is attack the post not the poster. You just broke it. Do it again and you'll be facing a ban

antodeco

My missus pays the bills and shopping every month. I pay for take away, few drinks, restaurants, little things. Cost of bills and shopping equate to around €400 a month. Take away/etc, about the same.

stateofflux

skallywag wrote: »

I also once supported a girlfriend while she was studying, paying her rent, bills, nights out, holidays, etc. Things didn't work out in the end and she went off with someone else once she finished studying and got a job in a place that she really wanted to work. Can't say I'm bitter at all about it really, that's just the way it goes. We stayed in touch from time to time over FB, the very odd short message to give congrats on the birth of a child, etc. I happened to notice then one day that she had de-friended me, so I asked her straight out why she had done that. She replied saying that she was having a cleanup of her friends list, and was removing people who were 'not good at sharing'. I didn't respond, but it brought a wry smile to my face!

I hope you got some serious ridin'

catallus

How about years of excruciating heartache and after that, the long smoldering remorse at the wasted years invested in the vapid lies and emotional blackmail of the heartless emotionless ice-queen that said she loved you but then went off and married her fucking boyfriend!?

Does that count? :mad:

caffaddict

My gf is studying, so I generally pay for most things. Dinner or a takeaway, and drinks maybe twice a week, so roughly €100-150/week or so. She will occasionally pay for drinks/meals, etc when she has the money though in fairness.

smurfjed

If you think that a girlfriend is expensive, try getting married. At least you guys can say NO... :)

Penny Tration

My boyfriend spends about 60 a month on stuff for me (well, us, things like cinema or drinks).

I'd probably spend 200+ per month, because I earn more than him. About half of that is stuff for us, like drinks, take away, whatever. Other half would be getting him smokes or little things i see in the shops that I think he'd like

RDM_83 again

green_screen wrote: »

My boyfriend spends about 60 a month on stuff for me (well, us, things like cinema or drinks).

I'd probably spend 200+ per month, because I earn more than him. About half of that is stuff for us, like drinks, take away, whatever. Other half would be getting him smokes or little things i see in the shops that I think he'd like

I was thinking this thread is a little strange in that nobody is posting about how they're GF spends more on them, because I would guess that herself probably spends a fair bit more on me than I would on her, we try and keep things equal in terms of rounds and meals etc but realistically she covers more of the rent than me so month in month out she does spend more.

I don't think our situation is that strange among my peers that are couples I would guess that who is the bigger contributer is split evenly and changes depending on who is working at the time. Maybe this situation will change as people hit the 30's and start having kids and possibly have more job security but at the minute it seems to be fairly equal.
Also working in the field I do with fairly low pay and lack of job security there definitely seems to be a tendency for it to be the case that the partner of either gender in more secure employment contributes more in the dry times.