should i go

eoinruane555

I am 40 years old,my house is worth half of what I paid for it,I am a chef still doing split shifts, my wife is Australian and wants to return home,.my kids are happy here though, and we have a closer family circle here than in oz.
I always said we'd go back but I wonder have we left it too late,but Jesus it doesn't stop raining here ,please help?

MagicMarker

It's not raining now, is it?

Are you asking us whether you should run away from your responsibilities?

sashafierce

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Paulownia

With regard to the value of your house, that issue may resolve itself soon with rising prices. I'd say the issue is more whether you would be happier there than here and whether it is worth taking yourself away with all the disruption for the children etc. not knowing whether life and job prospects will be better there. Sometimes life is easier if we don't have choices

CaraMay

There is a serious shortage if chefs so surely you can find a new job? Are you thinking of just walking away from the house and leaving your debt?

Esel

How old are your children?

How unhappy is your wife (their mother, presumably)?

Family circles these days are not geographically limited.

If you always said "we'd go back", what are you saying now? To you Australian wife, who came here hearing that 'promise'....

Time to choose, maybe. Where would you, your wife, and your children have the best future?

Could you start your own restaurant here, and stop doing split shifts?

Would that solve things (for your wife)?

Could you do that (and be happier) in Oz?

Being 40 years old might mean that you have another half of your life left to live...

Forget the fact that your house is worth half of what you paid for it.

You can, maybe, always split shifts, but you can't forever split your life.

Rubberchikken

it doesn't always rain here, but when a person is feeling down it can feel like that.

have you talked about how you're feeling with your wife? with your kids?

the job you have can be done anywhere, but if you like the jobut not the place you're working, could you look for a new place with better hours?

eoinruane555

My kids are both under 10,my wife is working v long hours.
V nervous to open own place
Thanks for advice

eoinruane555

Thanks for advice

eoinruane555

Thanks for advice,chef hours are always long,would miss family though.
What line are you in

eoinruane555

No ,rent it out till price rises but sounds like fruitless exercise as I would be paying rent down under,