Haven't cried in 4 years?

masti123

Basically I'm 18, and I haven't cried nor felt the urge in cry in about 4 years. I'm not sure if this is normal or not. I have been through alot of stuff in them years like family members and friends dying etc but I've never felt the urge to cry. Is it bad that i don't cry, can this lead up to serious physiological problems? Or am i just incapable of showing emotion?

Macavity.

Yeah, I'm the same. Can't recall the last time I cried. Not an emotional person at all.

guitarzero

Better out than in.

GerB40

The last time I cried was on hill 16 when Tipp won the All-Ireland in 2010, the only time I cried with delight..

Candy_Girl

Yep you're a freak just like me :pac:

Paramite Pie

People express emotion differently. There could be other factors but some people are more 'practical' than 'emotional'. Crying doesn't do much good, does it?

It's also possible that you may be suppressing or bottling emotion. Do films/songs get to you??

Do you feel detached from the world?

Candy_Girl

guitarzero wrote: »

Better out than in.

Nah better in then out :cool:

How Soon Is Now

I find i dont show any emotion towards really serious or bad things and then could cry at ****ing stupid things.

I wouldnt worry about it to much theres different ways of showing emotions unless u start totally feeling void to all kinds of situations you more then likely show your emotion in other ways sometimes your not even aware of.

In the 28 years ive been around i think and i im not even 100 percent sure he did ive seen me da cry once some people just dont show emotion in that way.

WILL NEVER LOG OFF

i might cry once every 6 months or so, and people say i'm cold.

4 years seems excessive , but sure if you're happy , go with it.

don't go looking for despair.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Yeah I get the whole ice cold thing too but really I'm anything but, I'm just careful. I used to never cry. Then last year some really bad things happened and I cried pretty much constantly. I'm getting better at keeping the tears in, I cried about a month ago, and before that was probably a few months.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

masti123 wrote: »

Basically I'm 18, and I haven't cried nor felt the urge in cry in about 4 years. I'm not sure if this is normal or not. I have been through alot of stuff in them years like family members and friends dying etc but I've never felt the urge to cry. Is it bad that i don't cry, can this lead up to serious physiological problems? Or am i just incapable of showing emotion?

My councillor says to me all the time that when something so horrific happens to you, that in order to protect you, your body shuts off from feeling the full extent of it at the time. I think it's like fight or flight mode.

Maybe one day it'll all just bubble up and you'll be upset over nothing, and everything. Or maybe you've the right attitude, and won't ever let something make you feel so terrible. Kind of like numb to life.

Ficheall

Stand on an up-turned plug in your bare feet.

wandatowell

I get my weekly crys when I watch that show "Long Lost Family" or something like that.

Its good to get them out. (the tears)

dd972

Those two lumps which have grown below your belt,..they're the reason!

Lalealea

masti123 wrote: »

Basically I'm 18, and I haven't cried nor felt the urge in cry in about 4 years. I'm not sure if this is normal or not. I have been through alot of stuff in them years like family members and friends dying etc but I've never felt the urge to cry. Is it bad that i don't cry, can this lead up to serious physiological problems? Or am i just incapable of showing emotion?

There is a hormone that does it. It doesn't mean you don't feel. Your body just does it differently. It is a response to the stress experienced by the sympathetic nervous system.

I don't think it means you feel less.

I cry personally I don't think it means you feel less than me. Just differently.

Esel

masti123 wrote: »

I've never felt the urge to cry.

You won't feel an urge to cry. It will just happen. When it does, just go with the flow.

osarusan

Every time I see Kramer versus Kramer.

Son Of A Vidic

dd972 wrote: »

Those two lumps which have grown below your belt,..they're the reason!

Inguinal hernia's are the reason?

Other than 2 funerals I haven't cried in about 16 years. When sober.

How Soon Is Now

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

I find i dont show any emotion towards really serious or bad things and then could cry at ****ing stupid things

I'm the very same. I can handle massive stuff without getting emotional, but I can also cry at the drop of a hat at
smaller stuff. There's probably some logic to it.

smash

Rub some Vicks under your eyes op

Tail Docker

Take out a Visa card and go wild with it for the first few weeks. After a bit, they'll send you a bill. That ought to do the trick. I know it often does for me anyway.

whiskeyman

Do you eat onions whole??

caustic 1

I am hopeless, only need to see someone else shed a few tears to set me off.

zetalambda

masti123 wrote: »

Basically I'm 18, and I haven't cried nor felt the urge in cry in about 4 years. I'm not sure if this is normal or not. I have been through alot of stuff in them years like family members and friends dying etc but I've never felt the urge to cry. Is it bad that i don't cry, can this lead up to serious physiological problems? Or am i just incapable of showing emotion?

Yes, I'm afraid this is the first phase of becoming a serial killer. Lack of empathy. Next will be a phase of chronic masturbation and dressing up in women's clothes.

jaffusmax

I would be more worried if you never Laugh or Smile even to yourself!!!!

zetalambda wrote: »

Next will be a phase of chronic masturbation and dressing up in women's clothes.

Define Chronic for me!!!! Now I am worried!

daheff

Boo hoo poor you

daheff

Maybe you are dehydrated??

thomas anderson.

I cry on the inside like a winner

Penny Tration

LexieOnRale wrote: »

My councillor says to me all the time that when something so horrific happens to you, that in order to protect you, your body shuts off from feeling the full extent of it at the time. I think it's like fight or flight mode.

Maybe one day it'll all just bubble up and you'll be upset over nothing, and everything. Or maybe you've the right attitude, and won't ever let something make you feel so terrible. Kind of like numb to life.

Your counsellor is bang on the money.

If our mind cannot cope with traumatic incidents, it can shut off emotions somewhat, and can even make you completely forget things (one year of my life, I have basically zero memories!). It's a defence mechanism, until you're ready to deal with and cope with the issues.

petes

Candy_Girl wrote: »

Yep you're a freak just like me :pac:

I was going to say that..great minds and all that!!

You snooze you lose!!

Jake Rugby Walrus666

I was cycling in through sandymount last week - against a very strong wind.

Sunnyisland

In fact, three types of tears exist, all with different purposes. Basal tears are omnipresent in our eyes. These constant tears are what keep our eyes from drying out completely. The human body produces an average of 5 to 10 ounces of basal tears each day. They drain through the nasal cavity, which is the reason so many of us develop runny noses after a good sobfest.

The second type is reflex tears, which serve to protect the human eye from harsh irritants such as smoke, onions or even a very strong, dusty wind. To accomplish this feat, the sensory nerves in your cornea communicate this irritation to your brain stem, which in turn sends hormones to the glands in the eyelids. These hormones cause the eyes to produce tears, effectively ridding them of the irritating substance.

The third type of tears is emotional tears. It all starts in the cerebrum where sadness is registered. The endocrine system is then triggered to release hormones to the ocular area, which then causes tears to form. Emotional tears are common among people who see Bambi's mother die or who suffer personal losses.

The phrase "having a good cry" suggests that crying can actually make you feel physically and emotionally better, which many people believe. Some scientists agree with this theory, asserting that chemicals build up in the body during times of elevated stress. These researchers believe that emotional crying is the body's way of ridding itself of these toxins and waste products.

One study collected both reflex tears and emotional tears (after peeling an onion and watching a sad movie, respectively). When scientists analyzed the content of the tears, they found each type was very different. Reflex tears are generally found to be about 98 percent water, whereas several chemicals are commonly present in emotional tears [Source: The Daily Journal. First is a protein called prolactin, which is also known to control breast milk production. Adrenocorticotropic hormones are also common and indicate high stress levels. The other chemical found in emotional tears is leucine-enkephalin, an endorphin that reduces pain and works to improve mood. Of course, many scientists point out that research in this area is very limited and should be further studied before any conclusion can be made.

Incidentally, in Japan some people have taken the notion of "a good cry" to the next level. They hold organized crying clubs where they watch sad movies and television shows and read tear-inducing books.The reasons for our crying changes as we grow from babies to adults.

Some boo hoo info

http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/crying1.htm

Valmont

Stepmom with Julia Roberts and Susan Sarandon, or that emotionally manipulative film, King Kong with Naomi Watts. Two hours of close-ups of a sad primate would be enough to make Stalin cry.

ghogie91

Last time I cried I was an obese 10 year old and cried when my sister ate my galaxy easter egg

Im not one to hold a grudge... but that was 12 years ago. And it a Galaxy and all

_Kaiser_

I don't cry for "serious" things either - funerals etc. I may be sad alright but never to the point of tears.

There are a few films that get to me though.

DeadHand

zetalambda wrote: »

Yes, I'm afraid this is the first phase of becoming a serial killer. Lack of empathy. Next will be a phase of chronic masturbation and dressing up in women's clothes.

I skipped phase one, went straight to phase two.

What's three?

Cupcake_Crisis

I cried on Wednesday night watching Super vet. I'm an emotional wreck.

razorblunt

Lookup "Futurama Dog" on YouTube then delete this thread.

Fishyfreak

When my Mam died i didn't cry once.

All my family and friends thought I was some sort of freak. I actually felt uncomfortable going to the graveyard/memorial masses etc because i'd be the only one not crying. I felt a bit guilty (even though inside i was hurting as much as anyone over such a loss). A few people thought i was in some form of shock for months.

Luckily i went to bereavement counselling and she assured me i was quite normal. Phew

cookie24

Have you watched Armegeddon? If that doesn't get to you you're a lost cause.

razorblunt

Fishyfreak wrote: »

When my Mam died i didn't cry once.

All my family and friends thought I was some sort of freak. I actually felt uncomfortable going to the graveyard/memorial masses etc because i'd be the only one not crying. I felt a bit guilty (even though inside i was hurting as much as anyone over such a loss). A few people thought i was in some form of shock for months.

Luckily i went to bereavement counselling and she assured me i was quite normal. Phew

Yep, you have to hate the people who perpetuate the "you should act normal at a funeral" i.e. bundles of tissues, wailing, hand on forehead etc etc.

Everyone is entitled to act according to what they feel is right.

Good on you for at least double checking with a counsellor! I just presume what I was doing was normal at the time too!!

GerB40

Fishyfreak wrote: »

When my Mam died i didn't cry once.

All my family and friends thought I was some sort of freak. I actually felt uncomfortable going to the graveyard/memorial masses etc because i'd be the only one not crying. I felt a bit guilty (even though inside i was hurting as much as anyone over such a loss). A few people thought i was in some form of shock for months.

Luckily i went to bereavement counselling and she assured me i was quite normal. Phew

I've always believed there's no "right" way to grieve. Bereavement itself is a very odd thing, we're all aware of the inevitability of death from a very young age but when someone we know and love dies, we don't know how exactly to act..

Mister Vain

I haven't cried since I was a child when someone stole my bike.

mojesius

Have you tried watching 'Marlay and Me'. That should get the waterworks flowing. I haven't watched it because I cry at animal welfare charity ads but people have told me it's tough going!

crazygeryy

A good kick in the bollix and they ll be flowing out of you.

IvyTheTerrible

Fishyfreak wrote: »

When my Mam died i didn't cry once.

All my family and friends thought I was some sort of freak. I actually felt uncomfortable going to the graveyard/memorial masses etc because i'd be the only one not crying. I felt a bit guilty (even though inside i was hurting as much as anyone over such a loss). A few people thought i was in some form of shock for months.

Luckily i went to bereavement counselling and she assured me i was quite normal. Phew

I found that too when my brother died. I cried when I heard he'd died but there's only so much crying I can do, by the time of the funeral I was numb.