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Physical Intimacy issues in new relationship

  • 13-10-2014 09:03PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all,

    So I have been seeing a guy for the last two months and we are getting on very well. I really like him and am scared I may be confusing him with my difficulties with physical intimacy. Even though I fancy him I find it very difficult to initiate any physical contact such as kissing or touching. I have always had this problem as I guess I am not a very touchy feely person. In the past I have relied on alcohol to get me to open up physically with guys, and the majority of my sexual experiences would be alcohol fuelled. However, this guy doesn't drink and I know it's really not healthy at all for me to have to have a drink to make myself feel amorous with a man. I haven't had that many relationships.

    I guess I am just looking for some advice on how to overcome this? I really like this guy and I don't want my physical awkwardness to scare him off. I don't know how you can go from talking to someone to kissing them, and I find that I overtalk to delay the kissing as I am so nervous about it. Any advice would be really appreciated.


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  • #2
    tailgunner
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,911 ✭✭✭tailgunner


    You've been seeing him for a couple of months, and you're getting along well, so I think you should be able to talk to him about it. No need to make it a big deal - tell him you really like him, but you're a bit nervous about initiating things. That should clear up any confusion.

    After that, just take things slowly, and keep communicating. No reason he can't initiate things as well by the way :)


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