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marriage breakup

  • 10-10-2014 7:44am
    #1
    pinkie123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4 ✭


    hi my name is linda and im so devasted my marriage just after breaking up. I'm heart broken. I've suffered with bad depression for along time, but kept puttng it off thinking it would get better.

    My dad died in 2004 due to cancer aged 55. I got married in 2007, followed by 6 miscarriages. Them my mam died aged 53, would be 3 years ago.

    We bought a house down the country but got very isolated for 7 years. I was in car accident and been suffering with chonic back, neck, and pelvic pain. I strugglee ever day, being in pain. I have 2 lovely girls and am now 22 weeks pregnant. My husband was always trying to keep me happy and trying to make me better. He said i have been miserable for a while, but got worse after my mam died. My husband got a superviser job and he was working alot of extra hours since then.

    About 8 months ago I started getting stupid thoughts in my head, thinking he was doing something else. He was always asking me what was on my mind, cause he new something was bothering me. I kept thinking he was somewhere else, not in work. It was my mind playing games on me. My head is so messed up, I just constantly think this all the time.

    He has been very patient with me, but 2 weeks ago he went out and the next morning he said i gave him a dirty look, and I told him thought he was with someone else. He got so so hurt. He has been crying for last 3 weeks and said I broke this heart and crushed his heart. He said he fell out of love with me over night and that our marraige is over. He said what we had is gone because I caused him to lose his feelings for me. If i broke his hear do you think he would ever forgive me?


Comments

  • #2
    kkcatlou
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 332 ✭✭kkcatlou


    Really sorry to hear that Pinkie. Sounds like you've been going through a terrible time.

    Would it be possible for a mod to edit this as it is almost impossible to read and offer advice?
    The PI forum might also be more suitable place for it?


  • #3
    Toots
    Administrators, Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,957 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Toots


    Moved to Relationship Issues.

    Posters please note that the Relationship Issues charter now applies to this thread.


  • #4
    Buona Fortuna
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,507 ✭✭✭Buona Fortuna


    Hi Pinkie

    Wow you've been having a rough time. I feel your pain.

    So have you seen or heard from your husband since?


  • #5
    Dial Hard
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,235 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard


    I think you'd both benefit from counselling. It doesn't sound like you've ever sought help with your depression and your husband clearly just couldn't cope anymore.

    Whether the marriage is salvageable isn't something anyone here can tell you, but counselling, both jointly and separately, is the place to start.


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