Does she like me?

zharrycorr1995

I'm very confused about this girl, the more I think about it, the more sad I am getting. There are signs she likes me, but I don't know if I've been friend-zoned. She told her best friend I was very sweet, and told me I'm a gentleman etc. and compliments me fairly often, but I don't know if she acts like this with a lot of people. Her friend told me to ask her out (her friend told me she knows how the girl I fancy feels about me), and if I did she would say yes, but I don't know. I really want to ask her out, but I'm afraid it'll risk our fledgling friendship, I'd rather be friends with her than risk it. The girl knows I fancy her just so you know. This sounds really pathetic because it is, but any help would be appreciated.

Generic Dreadhead

Just do it, the rewards out weigh the losses.

You'll never be able to remain truly friends with her if you don't ask her out and you fancy her

Procasinator

Ah to be young. From what you've said, it appears that everyone is waiting for you to ask her out, including the girl. If her best friend knows, then she knows. She just wants you to step up and ask her.

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Help!!!!

When your with her maybe say in a joking kinda way " what would she think a date with you would be like "
If she says it would be great then happy days for you.....if she says she see's you as only a friend then...you know the answer
Chances are if her mate says she likes you then its probably true

Philo Beddoe

First of all, her saying you're sweet and a gentleman are in no way guarantees that she likes you in that way. However, her friend telling you to ask her out is a good indication that she does. Ask her out. If, as you say, your friendship is just a fledgling one then it could hardly be considered weird or harmful to the relationship. Just make sure that she knows it's fine for her to refuse and on the off chance that she does, that you are not offended or angry.

Mr. Loverman

I don't agree with the other people.

Daniel O'Donnell is sweet, a gentleman.

Tom Hardy is sexy, a gentleman.

I suspect she sees you as a non-threatening, nice guy. This generally isn't a good thing when it comes to dating. Note I said generally.

Girls don't normally use the language "sweet" and "gentleman" when describing a man they're attracted to. They might say "he's sweet, a gentleman... and he's a sexy bastard", that's great, but nothing you have said tells me there is physical attraction.

However, I think you should test the waters. Get tickets to the theatre, you can bull**** and tell her you won them, and have a few drinks with her before and after the performance. You'll know by the end of the night what the story is.

Procasinator

Mr. Loverman wrote: »

However, I think you should test the waters. Get tickets to the theatre, you can bull**** and tell her you won them, and have a few drinks with her before and after the performance. You'll know by the end of the night what the story is.

Judging by his username (1995), his 19 at most. A theatre date might be a bit unusual for his age.

I imagine a casual date would suit best. Hell, a kiss on a night is probably the usual way at that age.

Mr. Loverman

You might be right. The reason I suggested the theatre is because it's a little bit romantic and it will be very unexpected.

I am Mr. Loverman.

keane2097

zharrycorr1995 wrote: »

I'm very confused about this girl, the more I think about it, the more sad I am getting. There are signs she likes me, but I don't know if I've been friend-zoned. She told her best friend I was very sweet, and told me I'm a gentleman etc. and compliments me fairly often, but I don't know if she acts like this with a lot of people. Her friend told me to ask her out (her friend told me she knows how the girl I fancy feels about me), and if I did she would say yes, but I don't know. I really want to ask her out, but I'm afraid it'll risk our fledgling friendship, I'd rather be friends with her than risk it. The girl knows I fancy her just so you know. This sounds really pathetic because it is, but any help would be appreciated.

You don't have a fledgling friendship, you have a love interest. Ask her out.

zharrycorr1995

I'll ask her tonight, heading out with her to a pub with mates. Was told by a lot of people she'd say yes, and mutual friends said I should....surely that's a good sign.

EDIT: For the date, I was planning on a restaurant overlooking a pier. Should be quite nice. Anyway, this will be my first proper date if i go on it, what should I expect? I've no problem talking to her btw.

keane2097

zharrycorr1995 wrote: »

I'll ask her tonight, heading out with her to a pub with mates. Was told by a lot of people she'd say yes, and mutual friends said I should....surely that's a good sign.

If you wanted to wait for any better signals than that you'd never get very far - good luck!

gaynorvader

zharrycorr1995 wrote: »

I'll ask her tonight, heading out with her to a pub with mates. Was told by a lot of people she'd say yes, and mutual friends said I should....surely that's a good sign.

EDIT: For the date, I was planning on a restaurant overlooking a pier. Should be quite nice. Anyway, this will be my first proper date if i go on it, what should I expect? I've no problem talking to her btw.

Sounds good, expect the date to be pretty much like normal. Just act the same around here you always would

HiGlo

You like her.
She knows you like her.
Her friend knows how she feels/thinks about you.
Her friend has indicated that you should ask her out.

You should ask her out.

CollyFlower

Aww young love, ain't it sweet.
☺ have a great time, just relax and enjoy.

zharrycorr1995

She asked me to an event last night. I was talking to her a few hrs ago, I asked who was going and she said just me and her as no one else could afford to go, but she didn't ask anyone else. Anyway, the event was booked up so I asked her to another one ''do you want to go to 'said event'just you and me?'' and she said yes and that it would be good craic. We get on well enough and she knows i fancy her. I even offered to buy her ticket for her but she said she'd pay for hers (she's that kind of person always offering to pay her way) but the fact i offered to buy her ticket should be a sign i wanted a date. Surely it's obvious i wanted a date? What does it sound like from your perspective?

Meauldsegosha

It's a date.

Edited to add: Just seen your other thread. Don't ask her if it is a date. It is very obvious from your post above that it is a date. Women like men who are confident asking if it is a date does not protray confidence.

professore

She's mad into you.

gingernut79

I thought of my husband as my nice sweet friend for a few months before we got together that was 14 years ago - go for it!

zharrycorr1995

Mightn't ask her, all our mates are saying its a date, but they would for a laugh. Is it a bad sign i offered to pay (3 times) but she insisted to buy her own ticket?

Meauldsegosha

zharrycorr1995 wrote: »

Mightn't ask her, all our mates are saying its a date, but they would for a laugh. Is it a bad sign i offered to pay (3 times) but she insisted to buy her own ticket?

No women like to be independent and pay for themselves especially in a first date.

zharrycorr1995

Would just like to say thanks for all the advice, hopefully it goes well just going to try and enjoy myself and see where it goes.

Big Bag of Chips

Stop offering to pay for her ticket. She has told you 3 times now that she will pay for her own.. If you offer again you will start to p1ss her off. She obviously likes you. So just be yourself around her (that's who she likes) and don't be a "try hard".

Good luck.

zharrycorr1995

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Stop offering to pay for her ticket. She has told you 3 times now that she will pay for her own.. If you offer again you will start to p1ss her off. She obviously likes you. So just be yourself around her (that's who she likes) and don't be a "try hard".

Good luck.

Just so you know, i offered to pay as soon as i asked her, then at the end of that convo she said she'd have to take money out for the tickets, i offered again and when i gave her the ticket i said are you sure i don't mind paying. I don't think i'm being too overbearing.

But thanks. I plan to be myself, a false start will lead to problems

HiGlo

zharrycorr1995 wrote: »

She asked me to an event last night. I was talking to her a few hrs ago, I asked who was going and she said just me and her as no one else could afford to go, but she didn't ask anyone else. Anyway, the event was booked up so I asked her to another one ''do you want to go to 'said event'just you and me?'' and she said yes and that it would be good craic. We get on well enough and she knows i fancy her. I even offered to buy her ticket for her but she said she'd pay for hers (she's that kind of person always offering to pay her way) but the fact i offered to buy her ticket should be a sign i wanted a date. Surely it's obvious i wanted a date? What does it sound like from your perspective?

Basically, she gave up waiting for you to ask her so she asked you out... :P
It seems like a date, but I guess it will be the behaviour of both of you that will dictate what it is.
If there's lots of eye contact, smiling, touching face/hair, tactile-ness, and maybe even a kiss then it's a date.... haha

Taltos

Mod Note:
OK OP - per our charter starting multiple threads in quick succession will just get them all closed.
Considering you posted 2 other threads as well as this I am closing this down.

To re-iterate the advice on the other thread from mike_ie, we don't want to see you start another thread here on this topic for a while. If you do we will have no choice but to start banning you as taking the soft approach is not working.

Taltos