Why won't she text back?

Benjamin Bob

Hi I am a 22 year old student and there has been this girl that I have been admiring around campus quite for a while. To my delight, I got to introduce myself to her on Monday night and it culminated in us spending the night together. I was drunk enough (although not beer-goggle-drunk); tipsy I suppose while she was nearly sober. She left me her number and Facebook yet I did not text back right away.
On Wednesday, I was at a house party that she was also at and I found it fairly awkward. She spent most of the night with her friends at one end of the room, while I was mainly at the other end. I found it too awkward to approach her and talk to her. However, it was clear she was interested in me; she spent most of the night staring at me (I caught her on multiple occasions) and I could tell she was talking to her friends about me.
Hence on Thursday I texted her through Facebook Messenger, just saying hi and asking how she was was. However, there was no reply, and there hasn't been yet; although it came up that she had seen it. I think the reason she did not reply is because she finds things awkward between us or could that that true? Should I have texted her Tuesday? I just want to take things further with her, as I really liked her.
Any advice would be welcome.

DoYouEvenLift

If she saw it and hasn't replied then she's not interested, its as simple as that. If she was she would've made it easier for you to have approached her at the party by separating from her friends or something. Unless she actually thought you were one of the 1% of men with enough balls to approach and single out one girl out of a big group on your own. Advice? Forget about her. Leave it at that. Whatever you do, do not text her again. If she wants to, she can easily initiate conversation with you on FB by just responding but let's not kid ourselves here, we live in the age where any girl that's a 5/10+ gets hit on through FB and in real life multiple times per day so they don't need to initiate contact with guys, and so normally they won't.

Like I said, forget it, but don't make it awkward by bringing up how she didn't respond if you see her again but you should still talk to her and if anything comes of it then great. Just act like you don't give a sh!t at all. Try again with another girl, and guess what? If the same happens with her, you try again and again. It's all a numbers game, and for that reason you need to stop yourself from doing this whole "we spoke for one night while I was drunk, I love her!" nonsense, you need to at least get the shift to start to catch them feelings

One last thing, forget this bull**** of waiting a set # of days before texting a girl you're interested in to try and act like you don't care. If you like someone be clear about it and if they feel the same way you'll know, if they don't just move on.

Benjamin Bob

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Like I said, forget it, but don't make it awkward by bringing up how she didn't respond if you see her again but you should still talk to her and if anything comes of it then great. Just act like you don't give a sh!t at all. Try again with another girl, and guess what? If the same happens with her, you try again and again. It's all a numbers game, and for that reason you need to stop yourself from doing this whole "we spoke for one night while I was drunk, I love her!" nonsense, you need to at least get the shift to start to catch them feelings
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Yes, we did shift, as I said I spent the night at hers. And if she wasn't interested, why did she spent a lot of the party staring at me and talking to her friends about me???

Eeden

Benjamin Bob wrote: »

Yes, we did shift, as I said I spent the night at hers. And if she wasn't interested, why did she spent a lot of the party staring at me and talking to her friends about me???

Wait... you spent the night with her, and then the next time you saw her you didn't even speak to her!?

I would say she thinks you saw her as a one night stand.

DoYouEvenLift

Eeden wrote: »

Wait... you spent the night with her, and then the next time you saw her you didn't even speak to her!?

I would say she thinks you saw her as a one night stand.

Now I'm thinking honestly this. She probably felt really awkward and was talking to her friends and telling them about how you're the guy she fuked and wondering why you wouldn't come talk to her. Haha thinking about that situation myself feels kind of awkward, since you'd already fuked her and she told you to text her why wouldn't you have texted her in the first place? But then to also not even talk to her at a party you were both at...lol

Penny Tration

Gotta agree with the others, op.

If I spent the night with someone, only to be ignored the next time he saw me, I'd assume he wasn't interested and if I got a message from him, I'd think he's just looking for sex.

If you want to clear the air, send her a message and try to be casual in explaining yourself - 'meant to say, sorry about the other night, I was a bit intimidated about coming over to chat because all your mates were there.'

Then leave it at that. If she doesn't reply, she just isn't interested.

MouseTail

I think you behaved very badly OP. I'm sorry, but if you are interested in someone, and you sleep with them, you text them the next day. You certainly do not blank them next time you meet them at a party. She was humiliated in front of her friends by having you ignore her.
I think you have blown this. Learn a lesson and move on

CaraMay

Benjamin Bob wrote: »

Yes, we did shift, as I said I spent the night at hers. And if she wasn't interested, why did she spent a lot of the party staring at me and talking to her friends about me???

It doesn't matter why she did it op, she did it. I wish when I was starting out in my dating life that someone had told me not to entertain / chase the messers. You contacted her, she saw it and she didn't reply. That means she (a) isn't interested or (b) likes playing games so RUN while shouting 'next'..

It doesn't matter if she looks at you for the next 6 months. She didn't reply so let her off and meet someone who won't play games.

Penny Tration

CaraMay wrote: »

It doesn't matter why she did it op, she did it. I wish when I was starting out in my dating life that someone had told me not to entertain / chase the messers. You contacted her, she saw it and she didn't reply. That means she (a) isn't interested or (b) likes playing games so RUN while shouting 'next'..

It doesn't matter if she looks at you for the next 6 months. She didn't reply so let her off and meet someone who won't play games.

Seems to me it's the op playing games, not the girl.

Spends the night with her, doesn't text even though she leaves her number. Ignores her for an entire night at a party then texts to say hi.

OP is the one playing games here.

kippy

green_screen wrote: »

Seems to me it's the op playing games, not the girl.

Spends the night with her, doesn't text even though she leaves her number. Ignores her for an entire night at a party then texts to say hi.

OP is the one playing games here.

Totally agree.
OP if you wamt to redeem the situation you need to call her to explain yourself and possibly try arrange a face to face date with her. Dinner or cinema.

Mr. Incognito

Spent night with her Monday.

Ignore her Wednesday, at a party.

Grow a pair dude. Seriously.

You have her number. Text or Call her. Be honest.

"Look, I am sorry I didnt get to chat with you Wednesday. To be honest I like you and I was a little intimidated. Can we meet for a drink / coffee? "