Another wedding thread - gift costs

Mr. Manager

I'm travelling back home to Ireland this week for a friends wedding.

It's my first close friend that's getting married and want to be there... just not sure what the standard "gift" is. Went to a Boardsies wedding earlier this year and there was a bit of confusion over how much to give and it seems very dependent on how well you know the person and what arrangements you've made to get there.

I haven't even left Malta and this thing has cost me a grand . Suit €360, flights €250, hotels in Donegal for the wedding and in Dublin for post wedding waiting on the flight back €330, car rental €100.

Another thing, I'm taking a guest but she doesn't know the couple getting married so am I to pony up her portion of the gift? Seems right to me but can't be sure.

I travelled for a friend's wedding once along with a few others and we were told repeatedly that the costs of travel to be there were more than enough and to absolutely not buy them a gift. We did end up getting them something small they wanted but it wasn't as much as you'd hear quoted in cash around here
If I were you I'd buy an actual present if you can think of something they want or are close enough to ask their family, and keep it below 100

Mr. Manager

bluewolf wrote: »

I travelled for a friend's wedding once along with a few others and we were told repeatedly that the costs of travel to be there were more than enough and to absolutely not buy them a gift. We did end up getting them something small they wanted but it wasn't in the 100+ range, that's for sure.
If I were you I'd buy an actual present if you can think of something they want or are close enough to ask their family, and keep it below 100

I like this idea. The thought of just giving cash is crap anyways but I know weddings can be expensive and most people nowadays seem to want to recoup some loss by asking guests for cash.

Should have thought of this sooner... Going to be a bit tough to get a decent, meaningful gift in 3 days.

Cereal Rapist

Cereal Rapist wrote: »

I like this idea. The thought of just giving cash is crap anyways but I know weddings can be expensive and most people nowadays seem to want to recoup some loss by asking guests for cash.

Should have thought of this sooner... Going to be a bit tough to get a decent, meaningful gift in 3 days.

Ring up the family/friends, have something ordered on amazon/online and delivered to their house
Wedding gifts don't have to be on or even before the day, I think etiquette is within a certain number of months after

There's already a big poll here http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2057197788

suicide_circus

If you have spent a grand and crossed borders to attend the wedding, no gift is required. If you happen to be minted fair enough.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I don't think anyone would expect a gift when you're coming from Malta. I think whoever suggested a token gift was spot on. I certainly don't think there's any need for stuffing 50s into a card

biko

Get them some nice souvenirs from Malta instead.

MistyCheese

If you're spending a small fortune to get to someone's wedding then only a prat would expect you to fork out for a gift aswell.

pickarooney

Some maltesers?

Rhyme

pickarooney wrote: »

Some maltesers?

A first-aid course from The Order of Malta?

Sir Arthur Daley

Them flights are very expensive.

anncoates

I'd be happy with a signed affidavit stating that you won't spend the whole night in the corner, sulking like a bitch and writing unkind descriptions of other guests on an internet forum.

Tarzana

If I was getting married, people travelling from abroad would be gift enough. I wouldn't expect gifts from anyone but especially not people going to such expense to spend the day with me. I'd feel honoured that they went to such trouble.

So my choice would be <€50.

Tarzana

bluewolf wrote: »

I travelled for a friend's wedding once along with a few others and we were told repeatedly that the costs of travel to be there were more than enough and to absolutely not buy them a gift.

This is so great. Exactly what I would do.

Buona Fortuna

bluewolf wrote: »

I travelled for a friend's wedding once along with a few others and we were told repeatedly that the costs of travel to be there were more than enough and to absolutely not buy them a gift. We did end up getting them something small they wanted but it wasn't as much as you'd hear quoted in cash around here
If I were you I'd buy an actual present if you can think of something they want or are close enough to ask their family, and keep it below 100

We were invited to a couple of wedings last year.

One was in the States and that was as Bluewolf says above.

The other was way down South. It was obviously a money making caper. They put a note in with the invite to say they didn't wan't actual gifts as they would sooner choose stuff later to fit in with the decor. Fckers got nowt

LizT

A nice, personal gift should be more than enough, I'm sure they just appreciate you making the effort to get back for the wedding!