Anger issues

Why always me

Hi there, long time reader, iv now taken the plung, my problem is my short fuse, which is exaggerated by drink even more, I'm a male , married happily, with two children, Iv been part of a gaa team for years, I'd consider myself one of the lads, not the loudest in a group not the quietest, my short fuse seems funny to some , but it's really starting to get to me, I'm considering giving up drink, like thousands of more people it just simply does not agree with me, and as I get older its becoming clearer, I find it nearly impossible to admit I'm wrong, very defensive to say the least, even saying all of this is weird because I have a happy marriage and a lovely family, maybe I should go and talk to someone, like a lot of people I'm stressed with life in general, paying bills, worrying constantly that my family has the best, but I don't think that should make me have such a short fuse, I'd be the sort of bloke who would snap at you straight away, and I'd regret it shortly after,writing this even if nobody reads it has made me realise i should try and do something about this, thanks

bp

I think you have taken the first step(s) admitting the drink and anger issues.

You probably should speak to someone and give up the drink. Also tell your wife as you will need the support and she maybe be grateful that you are trying.

There is a non-drinkers forum on boards who have all given up the drink and can give you additional support and show you how they have gotten on without drink.

Good luck going forward

Rubberchikken

Hi
you've taken the first step. if you're able to, cut out the drink for a length of time and see how things go.
you're part of a gaa team so you must be getting some exercise, but if there's a culture of pints after the match maybe you'll have to rethink that one.

it's ok to be stressed about bills etc, most people are so you're not alone, and you want whats best for your family, which is perfectly natural.
if you find that even after you leave the drink out of your life, the anger issues are still a problem, then it maybe time to have a chat with your gp.

best of luck

RedXIV

Learning to admit you are wrong is a horrible process, I hated it but like most things in life, it gets easier with practice. I was very defensive for years and it was starting to affect my relationship so I had to address it.

I still don't like admitting I'm wrong but I can detach long enough to recognise my stubbornness now. Just so you realise it does get better, just takes some time

Why always me

Thanks guys after a good chat last night iv decided to give the drink the boot, it just simply does not agree with me, I'll need to adjust my life to suit , I think I'll move this to the other thread and see how things go, thanks for your words,

Rhino101

Giving up on booze gradually over days or few weeks might be easier for some people due to the ''withdrawal'' effect. I'm not an expert but might be something to consider?