Engagement ring size

LauraW7746

Hi All,
Just looking for some advice.
I picked out my ring with my boyfriend when I had decided on the ring the jeweler suggested I get an exact fit rather than taking the ring I had been trying so I would have a brand new ring nobody had tried on and that would be my exact size to avoid resizing as it was too big & it's not good for the setting. I tried a few of the ring size bands and he took note of the 1 that fit and said he would order it.
My boyfriend proposed the following week and when I tried on the ring it was too big but I didn't take much notice I was too excited. I brought it back the next day tried a few ring size bands again and he suggested going a size and a half down.
When I collected the ring it was still slightly big but he said to wear it for a few days. I wore for 2 weeks and found when my hand was cooler the ring could slide off easily.
I brought back again today got sized again and he said it needs to go another size and a half down. 3 sizes in total.

Would this be normal? I don't wear rings this is my 1st proper ring but I'm thinking I couldn't have got the size so wrong the 1st day.
I am worried that instead of giving me a brand new 1 to my size they gave me the 1 I had tried in the shop instead that had been too big initially instead of a brand new ring.... I am just wondering if any other had similar issue with sizing?? Maybe I am just over thinking the issue..

Thanks in advance.

nosietoes

That sounds really peculiar... When we ordered my ring, the jeweller brought out a key ring that had every size ring in black metal hanging from it and checked to see what size I was then took down the letter from the size ring. He went 1/2 size bigger than I thought was necessary but it's comfy and never accidentally slips over my knuckle tho it does sometimes slide to one side.

Milly33

Sounds off also..

I was thinking maybe if you do not wear rings perhaps you would not be used to the feel, but that's just looking for an excuse.

So sorry to hear you have had trouble with it.. I would nearly suggest asking the jeweller for you money back and going elsewhere. I know this sounds harsh and you will have to pick again, but it sounds like the jeweller is not being very honest with you, maybe he knows what will happen with all this re-sizing and he will make more money out it..

Just from my own experience himself had mine picked out and I thought it was a little tight, we called to the jeweller and he said not to rush getting the ring re-sized for now as it is not good to have them re-sized all the time it weakens the band which would cause them to break a lot easier.. To wear it for a while and see how it was.. Now it wasn't glued to my finger just a little tight

I wore it, still a little tight but not overly, he said he would prefer to wait until we are getting the wedding ring made to change it as they will differ in size then again with the two on the same finger.. Now he said fine he would do whatever we wanted but that this is what he would advise.. even said just incase it comes up that when they would make the wedding band that he would need to take the two to make sure they fit properly together and that they are the correct sizes.

I know one thing he said was that if you do not have any knuckle's you are better off wearing the ring just a tighter (not uncomfortable) because you would have no knuckle's nothing will catch it if it gets loose, and also in Irish weather between the heat and the cold that you fingers would always be swelling which makes a difference also as you mentioned when your hand is cooler..

Really sounds like he is being a but dodge, bit sorry

LauraW7746

Thanks for your responses I had tried the keyring with all the different sizes the when I had picked it out initially & then again when they were resizing the 1st time and again yesterday... It was only yesterday when I was thinking about it that it hit me that it's possible the ring they gave me wasn't the exact size or the ring they had promised. I could have got the size wrong by maybe 1 size but I can't see myself making picking a ring 3 sizes too big They have the ring now again I'm meant to get it back Thursday not sure how I should approach with them as I have I can't prove anything really.
By the way they haven't charged me for the resizing.

I have decided to go back to them today try to explain my concern and see what they say.

Milly33

Each of those rings on the sizing guide they give you have a letter on it. So if you did think this time again that it was not resized properly ask or if you can remember what letter it was, take the newly sized ring and pop into any jewellers even argos have them and ask could you see.. best of luck with it

fits

Is it possible you lost some weight in the meantime? My ring is decidedly loose on me and I only have it a few months. Don't feel like I've lost weight but its only explanation... I'd prefer to lose elsewhere.

LauraW7746

fits wrote: »

Is it possible you lost some weight in the meantime? My ring is decidedly loose on me and I only have it a few months. Don't feel like I've lost weight but its only explanation... I'd prefer to lose elsewhere.

I don't think I have, from the 1st time I tried the sizing keyring to now has only been 3 and a half weeks.

Sala

LauraW7746 wrote: »

I don't think I have, from the 1st time I tried the sizing keyring to now has only been 3 and a half weeks.

I think going up or down too many sizes is bad for the setting. It sounds like he ordered the wrong one to be honest. Maybe you could get advice from someone else (a professional) as to whether the setting is still secure and if they don't agree it should have been resized so much go back to the jeweller and ask for a refund or a replacement. I got an antique ring so obviously it wasn't measured for me, and had to get it resized, but only the once. It was a bit tight after that, but my hand goes up and down in the heat and cold so I'm happy as it is.

I really don't think weight loss would make that much of a difference - certainly your ring could be looser after losing weight as the other poster said, but I doubt you lost enough in the period from ordering it to getting it to justify a three size difference?

LauraW7746

I went back to them yesterday, explained I was concerned about all the resizing because it weakens the band and the setting & the 3 size difference. I said I couldn't understand if the ring was meant to be made to my size how the size could have been so different. I said I felt I couldn't have gotten it 3 sizes wrong 1st day & asked could it have been a possibility I got the ring I had been trying in the shop that had been too big instead of the 1 made for me.

I spoke to a lady & a man there, the man was sighing when I was trying to explain, the lady was saying it's my fingers fault not their fault they can't feel the ring on my finger only I can do that. She started to get very excited about the whole thing said I wouldn't get the service they provide at other jewellers brought me out showed me their workshop. She told me life was too short to be worrying about a ring & that a family member of hers had died of cancer that I should be happy. She said sometimes it can happen that people can go up or down 6/7 sizes.... Went on & on. Put me on the phone to the manager he was nicer but said the same as the other 2 said if anything happens to the ring because of resizing they will fix.

Afterwards I went to 2 other Jewelers for opinions. 1 said it was strange & how could they not have a part to play when they are meant to advise on ring size when fitting.
The other who told me they resize in their own shop said it actually happened his own brother that they weren't trying to screw me over at because it wouldn't be in their best interest to keep resizing the ring. He checked the ring said they had done a very good job that they obviously knew what they were doing.

I was happy enough with that, I was passing the shop where I bought the ring on the way back to the car the lady was was outside I told her to be sure I checked elsewhere for my own peace of mind and she was right, she said "Right about what?" I said right about the 3 size difference that it can happen so sorry about that and she just said " and if you had been told different we would have been in trouble" she was so rude I just said my mistake and walked away.

They gave me the ring back yesterday and it's perfect now, I'm just going mad over the way I was treated there, the 2 of them were so rude to the point they were nearly giving out to me, then when I tried to apologise she threw it back in my face....

Milly33

She sounds like a nasty piece of work!! I would be highly going back to her to maybe bring a book on customer service... How dare she say to you when she is in the business that life is too short to worry about the ring.. I would be livid with her... Sick of people like this.

Fair deuce for keeping your calm you must have some patience.. I suppose once you are happy now that the ring fits then happy days, I wouldn't be going back to them for the bands though they sound like a nightmare

Sala

LauraW7746 wrote: »

I spoke to a lady & a man there, the man was sighing when I was trying to explain, the lady was saying it's my fingers fault not their fault they can't feel the ring on my finger only I can do that. She started to get very excited about the whole thing said I wouldn't get the service they provide at other jewellers brought me out showed me their workshop. She told me life was too short to be worrying about a ring & that a family member of hers had died of cancer that I should be happy. She said sometimes it can happen that people can go up or down 6/7 sizes....

Wow. I would nearly want to get a refund just so my money doesn't support that type of attitude. I can't believe they blamed your finger!

I feel bad for anyone who lost someone to cancer but it pretty irrelevant here - that's like saying to you yes we're a jeweler, our work may not be great, but there are more important things in life!!

I don't think you go up and down 6/7 sizes in such a short space of time. My wedding ring is also an antique and it can't be resized but I can feel the quarter of a difference in size. In fact I think my engagement ring was only brought down one size and it was nearly falling off my finger, 6-7 sizes up I probably could have fit my big toe in it!!

LauraW7746

Believe me I was absolutely raging on the inside I didn't expect to get such a hostile response still upset over it today but just glad to have my ring back perfect now. I googled them on a few wedding forums, a few people had complained about dealing with a woman in that particular branch 1 said she had the manners of a pig... I'm guessing that must be the same woman I dealt with.
I would still consider getting our bands with them as they really do have lovely rings & designs. I will just go to their other shop & deal with 1 of the owners directly as we did when picking the ring initially, I couldn't fault him. Next time I will take note of the size I pick just in case...

Sala

LauraW7746 wrote: »

Believe me I was absolutely raging on the inside I didn't expect to get such a hostile response still upset over it today but just glad to have my ring back perfect now. I googled them on a few wedding forums, a few people had complained about dealing with a woman in that particular branch 1 said she had the manners of a pig... I'm guessing that must be the same woman I dealt with.
I would still consider getting our bands with them as they really do have lovely rings & designs. I will just go to their other shop & deal with 1 of the owners directly as we did when picking the ring initially, I couldn't fault him. Next time I will take note of the size I pick just in case...

If you are happy with your ring and it is good job on the resizing, I see why you would want to keep it... no point cutting off your nose to spite your face!

I don't think I would return for the bands, but I can see why you would if they have something to match or your think they are good quality. I personally wouldn't. If it was a once off, someone having a bad day kind of thing maybe, but it sounds like they were very rude to you on a couple of occasions, and people bad mouthing them online would put me off. Maybe write them a snotty letter and if they apologise you can consider going back!!

Sherlof3

Fiancee proposed in July with an antique ring - he knew it was to big, and had heard the whole ring needed to be melted down as the size difference was too big and the ring was so old, but he proposed and I wore it for a few weeks, convinced that there must be some way to resize it and went to nearly every jewellers in town. Some offered to resize then and there - others were cautious, but the best jewellers recommended a whole refit. In the end went back to Applebys for the original plan and I just got it back - safe in the knowledge it's perfect so I would totally recommend majorly shopping around.