I'm undecided about what to do

LegacyUser

Hello
I have finished college, and have been offered a job with a company in that specializes in the field I studied in. I've been offered with a 1 year training in period, and the possibility of sponsorship to get me through Chartership.
I'm mad not to go for it, right? I've done my bit of traveling down through the years, (I'm in my 30's) and I really should look to settling down. This job is paying peanuts and rent wise I won't be able to afford a place alone. I hate the thoughts of moving in with unknowns again (been doing it half my life at this stage!) going to a new corner of Ireland and basically starting all over, yet again.

I'm finding myself drawn to looking up shytty Internships that i should get, not entirely related to my field of study but I've enough experience to get me in the door.
The Internships are much closer to my home, my friends would only be a stone throw away and there's just so much more 'pulll' factors than 'push'.
I'm sorry, I don't know if I'm looking for advice or just venting!
Do I put the head down and make the job offer work, or do I look to closer to home and try and make something happen there.
What would you do?
(I'm being a lazy sod, aren't I?)

Stavro Mueller

I'd not worry about whether you should or shouldn't be settling down at your age. Everyone's circumstances are different so there are no hard and fast rules. Having said that, your looking up those internships seems to suggest you've reached a stage in your life where you'd like to settle closer to home. Maybe that's your gut telling you something.

Maybe it'd be helpful to look at this in terms of 12 months/2 years. If you take this job, would you emerge at the end with a qualification and a greater chance of getting a job closer to home? Or will you be pigeonholed and stuck in a geographic region you'd not like to live in long-term? The internships you've been looking at - are these just a short-term solution? Is it likely that at the end of the internship you'll be on the dole twiddling your thumbs?

LegacyUser

That's it, I'm at a stage where I would like to settle closer to home. As I've said, I've done my bit of traveling, done the college thing, don't get me wrong I don't have trouble making new friends or that but at the same time over the years the ones I've remained in contact with are the ones I've known since school, terrific bunch of people.
I've been living at home for a few months now and it's so nice to be able to call round to them, go places with them etc. My only downfall is I haven't found work, and the nearest thing to that is jobbridge Internship.

But you're right, if I do my years' training, my 2 year APC then all going good within 3 years I'm Chartered and as it happened, not too many people chartered in the area I work in, in the area I'm from.

The internships I've looked at I'd imagine there should be a job at the end of them, as I said not exactly what I studied but I'd have enough experience to get me in the door hopefully.

I'm really not looking forward to moving again, I have some friends who might get an apartment with me as they live that side of the country, that would be fantastic as the thoughts of starting all over again and having to meet people again just daunts me at this stage.

sashafierce

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LegacyUser

Hi all.
Op back again.
I last three whole days in the job mentioned. Long story short he was an impossible ass hole to work for.
I came home me, began an internship with a crowd who would probably take me on after the nine months.
I've gone a d shot myself in the foot though. A second one came up, I applied and got offered it. Rang the first crowd this morning and told them I'd probably go with the second crowd. Spent a few hours in with the second crowd in an informal meet n greet, and its not what I expected all. I won't be taking it. I've to work for the first crowd tomorrow until the end of the week.
I've managed to fcuk up massively in the past month.
Worst part is, I've began to realise I'm not myself at all lately. My confidence is shot to shyt, my ambition is just gone. And I'm obviously pishing off everyone around me with my indecisive ways.

I've never felt so fcukin lost in all my life and its completing getting the better of me.

Meathlass

Can you talk to the first internship and ask to stay? I wouldn't be hopeful but it would be worth it.

There does seem to be a deeper problem here though as you've noted yourself. You need to take some time to think about what you actually want to do as you're fliting from job to job.

Good luck with it.

IlmoNT4

Might be time to apply the breaks OP. Take a deep breath.

First things first... call the internship and see you can stay on, they probably will let you as its work for someone internally to get someone else in. I'd suggest that before you resign for positions in future that you wait for contracts or interviews/meet and greets to be completed before you show your hand to anyone.

In terms of feeling lost, what else is going on for you? Everything ok at home, friends? boyfriend, girlfriend? Is money tight? Is anyone sick, has anyone got married?

Are you taking care of yourself...Are you eating and sleeping ok? Are you drinking heavily or taking drugs?

If nothing is wrong, then you need to create some time out space in your life so you can chill out. I'd suggest meditation or a chat with a good friend. A massage if you can afford it, basically anything that allows you to relax and destress.