Tolerance for people plummeted

LegacyUser

Hi all,
Within the last month or so, my tolerance for people has declined rapidly. It's very much the negative aspects of people that flares my temper but it seems I've become quite sensitive to the negative aspects of people. Some general examples would be if someone was getting very bigheaded, or if someone was being unnecessarily angry at someone, or even just some of the girls in college who have taken to wearing excessively revealing nightclub outfits during the day. Then my temper would flair. A more specific example, which is causing me to write this, happened last night. My brother got the results of an IQ test, in which he scored quite high. I listened to him and my mother talk all evening about how great my brother is, from the moment I stepped off the bus nearly. The most of the evening, my temper was just below exploding point.

I was always a strangely patient person who never got angry at anyone. I was often called to deal with stressful situations because my temper was nearly non existent. Now however, I spend most of my time angry and it's exhausting. I lost my temper only last week at a guy who was being mean to the new people in our club. I had to go home and go to bed afterwards because I was too touchy to trust myself not to snap at anyone else. I'm going to end up losing my temper with friends or my boyfriend soon over nothing, and subsequently lose them, if I don't cop on to myself. I'm tired of being angry at the world, I'm tired of being tired, and I'm terrified of losing the people I love because of it, which is making it worse. I've always leaned towards introvertism but the idea of building a small hut in the mountains and living as a recluse has never been more inviting.

IlmoNT4

Can you tell us about whats been going on in your life over the past few months? From the sounds of it, you are in college? How is that going for you.... What are your stress levels like. Relationships with family, friends, partner going ok? Are you worrying about anything? Have you started drinking or taking drugs? How is your self care (eats, showering, sleeping that type of thing)

The anger you are feeling is being triggered by something. That something while the trigger may appear to become from the outside world, anger at people, how they dress, its really anger directed at yourself.

LynnGrace

Worth getting checked out by your GP, in case it is physically caused. I had a colleague some years ago, and she went through similar to what you have described, where she had no tolerance, out of the blue, even for people close to her. It turned out to have a physical cause, I just cannot remember what, but it was something that could be treated, medically.

Rubberchikken

Something has triggered this and to get a better understanding, a chat with your gp would be good.

It's good that you're aware of it and willing to step aside before you bliw but for your own sake and your health's sake you need to follow this up.
Take care

LegacyUser

Any chance you might be pregnant ?

LegacyUser

loulou2009 wrote: »

Can you tell us about whats been going on in your life over the past few months? From the sounds of it, you are in college? How is that going for you.... What are your stress levels like. Relationships with family, friends, partner going ok? Are you worrying about anything? Have you started drinking or taking drugs? How is your self care (eats, showering, sleeping that type of thing)

The anger you are feeling is being triggered by something. That something while the trigger may appear to become from the outside world, anger at people, how they dress, its really anger directed at yourself.

Hi, there's been a fair bit going on but no worse than anything else that has happened in my life. It has actually been quite a good year, compared to some of the others. Yup, I'm going into my final year and I think I'm okay with it. Classes haven't really started yet so nothing to get too stressed over. Relationships are going fine mostly. Fell out with father a couple of months ago and lost him and my sisters on his side over it but again, it's not as bad as other things that happened. Never had a close relationship with him. I'm not worrying about anything on a conscious level, I can't speak for a subconscious worry though. I neither drink nor take drugs and self care is no real different. Although, in saying that, the day during the week when I lost my temper with the guy in my club, I skipped dinner and just went to bed.
It could very well be directed at myself. That's a good point.

LynnGrace wrote: »

Worth getting checked out by your GP, in case it is physically caused. I had a colleague some years ago, and she went through similar to what you have described, where she had no tolerance, out of the blue, even for people close to her. It turned out to have a physical cause, I just cannot remember what, but it was something that could be treated, medically.

I can't really afford to go to the doctor as I can't get to my GP while at college. My only real worry is when I was dealing with the local doctor here before about a different issue, they kept pushing depression on me. I knew I wasn't depressed but they insisted I was and I had to actually get up to leave before they would suggest anything else. I don't think it's depression this time either. I've had depression in the past.

Rubberchikken wrote: »

Something has triggered this and to get a better understanding, a chat with your gp would be good.

It's good that you're aware of it and willing to step aside before you bliw but for your own sake and your health's sake you need to follow this up.
Take care

I will definitely follow it up. I really don't want this affecting people I care about.

Imageverification wrote: »

Any chance you might be pregnant ?

I highly doubt it. I'm on both the injection and use condoms so there's a fairly slim chance.


I should mention, I am aware that my first post is quite short. It was typed out on my phone which delays typing and is a hassle to write out a post. I could only get to a laptop now. After writing it though, it helped a lot. Just writing it out and reading it back to myself was a bit like a weight lifting. I think it just nailed in the fact that this is a problem that I need to sort out because I am not being me right now and it can only have negative consequences being this angry all the time.

LegacyUser

Is the anger coming on the week or so before your period?

Are you taking hormonal contraception?

Both of these things can be and are responsible for big mood changes in women.

LynnGrace

I just can't remember what that colleague was diagnosed with, it's a long time since I worked with her, but it was something physical that caused it and could be treated.
Anyway, I will leave it there. If you can't afford to go, no point in me labouring it.
Hope things improve.

lamegerty

Sometimes it is just a matter of knowing your own body, you could be angry due to skipped meals, a poor diet, lack of sleep, PMS and then on a psychological level the subconscious stress of family issues or heading into your final year and what to do afterwards, it happens many people in final year. If you can recognise it as it is happening it is half the battle as you can choose how you respond, have a think about it at the time and going to bed to sleep it off or going off for some alone time can be a great coping mechanism. Likewise some people find writing a journal/blog, cinema, reading or exercise a great way of getting feelings out, it is always worth seeking out something that relaxes you and making time to do it.

If you can't figure out what is causing it and are still worried then head to a counsellor or student advisor to have a chat, they can often be free in college.