Dealing with an Aggressive Older Sibling

kerry4sam

What would be the best course of action in dealing with an aggressive sibling? I have this one older brother who is always angry; aggressive; and verbally abusive towards me.
He always had issues with me being protected by Dad for so many years and he never had a close relationship of any kind with Dad before Dad passed away.

Since Dads funeral he turns very nasty toward me, especially so when drunk. Immediately after the funeral he would, as often as he could, give my Mom drink and get her talking all this personal stuff. I had words with him over that as he was taking advantage of her vulnerability.

On his recent visit home, not long ago, I wasn't in the door from work 5mins when he just turned and called me a Gobsh!te! He did, again, have a feed of drink in him. Now, he was looking for a transfer to a public sector job in Tralee, and something tells me he either has it, or is very close to getting it.
I found out before he arrived into our Home the last time he was spent a few days in Tralee with friends, apparently.

How would you deal with this type of aggressive sibling? I used always just ignore him as Dad would have words with him and keep him in his place. But now that Dad has passed away, he is getting more & more angry and abusive toward me and could well end up moving closer to Home where I'd have to see him regularly, as opposed to when he was living & working in Dublin.

Many Thanks in advance,
kerry4sam

Calhoun

What can you do but limit contact? Are you living at home with your mother or out on your own ? If on your own you can control if you see him ect.

freshpopcorn

Siblings don't always get on.All you can do is not visit when he's there and stay out of his way.

Stavro Mueller

As the others have said, keep your distance.

You didn't say what your living circumstances are. If you're living with your mother, then it's going to be more complicated. What sort of relationship does he have with her?