Strange bedroom one

Hotman

Since i was 18, i've always had a kinda weird fantasy that really turns me on more than anything of seeing my wife have sex with another man. Noone in particular etc, it's just something that's always done it for me. I've never mentioned it to her at all. I'm just worried if maybe it makes me gay or bisexual maybe?
And is it abnormal or make me a horrible person?

LegacyUser

Many straight men are aroused watching strangers having sex, as in porn. Doesn't make them gay, just because there's a man in the picture.

Straight men are also especially aroused by the women they love. There is an emotional component which enhances the sexual arousal.

Your fantasy could be to do with, sort of, combining those two types of arousal. You get a full view of the woman you love having sex.



It's probably more common than you think, and of course it doesn't mean that you actually want your wife to cheat on you. A boyfriend of mine once told me "If you had done a porn video, I'd be too busy watching it to object"!

LegacyUser

Hotman wrote: »

I've never mentioned it to her at all. I'm just worried if maybe it makes me gay or bisexual maybe?

No, but it does suggest you have no idea what homosexuality or bisexuality are about, as they would relate to your sexual feelings towards members of the same sex. Cuckholding wouldn't be for me and I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be for many people, but it's not unheard of as a fantasy, whether to be kept as a fantasy or acted upon. What matters for you is how you and your partner feel about it as fantasy or act and how the two of you can cope with it afterwards if you decide to carry it out.

LegacyUser

It's perfectly normal;

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold#Cuckoldry_as_a_fetish

Well as "normal" as any fetish Different people have different levels of what they are comfortable with.

There is nothing 'wrong' with anything that turns you on/gets you off, unless it is morally (and in most cases) or legally wrong (I refer to outdated homosexuality and buggery laws that still exist in some places), you're good to go!

As for your current situation, you need to decide, are you happy for this to be a 'passive' fetish and just imagine/fantasise etc. Which is fine.

Or

Do you want it to become active, in which case, you would obviously have to tell your wife (CAREFULLY, I can't advise you on how to do that, sorry), find a partner for her who is in.

But if you did go that route, BE SURE it is what you ACTUALLY want and not just a fantasy, because you could ruin the best thing in your life!!

Either way, this is completely normal, 100% there is nothing wrong with you.

But... Your wife is quite likely not going to feel the same way about it, as like with most fetishes, there are only a small % of people who have them and incorporate them into their sex life.

But Good luck!

MissFlitworth

Google, not at work, cuckolding. The only thing that makes you gay or bisexual is being sexually attracted to men yourself.

Taltos

OP as you've opened another thread I am closing this.

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