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  • 09-09-2014 4:51pm
    #1
    Bring it on!!!
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32 ✭


    This is a closed thread.


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  • #2
    michael999999
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 7,771 ✭✭✭michael999999


    Might be time to give up the drink!


  • #3
    allym
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,368 ✭✭✭allym


    You absolutely have a right to be angry. You asked him to stop and he didn't. Once you said no that should have been the end of it. It doesn't matter that he pestered you into doing it. He should have taken no for an answer and that's that. Also no one should ever be "rough" with you, unless of course that's something you've mutually consented to.

    You shouldn't feel bad about yourself, you did nothing wrong. You are not a "slut" or anything along those lines. Do NOT feel bad about yourself.

    Also, as it seems the sex was unprotected you should get yourself tested to make sure everything's ok.


  • #4
    Lisha
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,696 ✭✭✭Lisha


    Jesus I'm so sorry you went through that.
    Reading your post is upsetting I can't imagine how upset you are.
    You said a few times that you 'gave in' and 'let him' continue.
    I really don't know if you consented or not . I don't think you should beat yourself up but you do need to process this and take time to recover.
    Do talk to someone, you may even need to talk to a counsellor to work through your feelings.

    For what it's worth I think he was wrong and I am very sorry that you have gone through such an ordeal.
    Look after yourself


  • #5
    Penny Tration
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    It's hard to know what was going through his mind.

    Was he just a horny, drunk guy, so horny that he was begging you, or a nasty, cruel person who refused to accept no? I don't know. Only you will know that.

    I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of. Whether you 'gave in' or not, you said no and he should have accepted that. You say he tried anal and you said no - he must have 'tried' fairly roughly that you bled the next day. :/

    Sounds like a horrible, upsetting, messy encounter, and I don't think you should be beating yourself up about it.

    Practically, go to your GP. You're gonns need STI testing. A horrible thought, but it would certainly do no harm to talk to him or her about what happened to lead to you needing STI screening.

    Take time to process it. Don't beat yourself up.
    If you ccan't deal with it, ask your GP to refer you to a counsellor.

    Lastly, maybe lay off the drink for a while. This, I should make clear, is NOT blaming you in any way, shape or form. But, obviously alcohol lowers your inhibitions a bit, which could be a reason for you 'giving in,' when perhaps a sober you would have walked away.

    Best of luck, OP.


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