Sick of being told I'm ugly and being judged

jonsnow1901

I wasn't called ugly pre-puberty. I only started getting called ugly post-puberty (adulthood). People say that I look like a friendly ogre now. If I am indeed a 1/10 (extremely ugly) now, I have to remain indoors and never go outside ever again. People are really brutal and would put down my looks whenever I go out. I think that my life right now is like a living nightmare and I can't move on from my chaotic face.

cookiexx

You can't be that bad and even if you're not blessed with good looks, there are copious amounts of things you can do.
Hit the gym and get as fit and toned as you can. Revamp your wardrobe and sharpen up your dress sense. Get a good hair cut. Eat healthily as possible and don't smoke binge drink. Moisturise.
But most of all, don't walk around thinking you are some kind of Shrek because people can sniff out those kinds of self esteem issues a mile off and it makes you ten times less attractive.

jonsnow1901

cookiexx wrote: »

You can't be that bad and even if you're not blessed with good looks, there are copious amounts of things you can do.
Hit the gym and get as fit and toned as you can. Revamp your wardrobe and sharpen up your dress sense. Get a good hair cut. Eat healthily as possible and don't smoke binge drink. Moisturise.
But most of all, don't walk around thinking you are some kind of Shrek because people can sniff out those kinds of self esteem issues a mile off and it makes you ten times less attractive.

Did you see the picture that i sent you? how do you think i look? can i improve?

jonsnow1901

jonsnow1901 wrote: »

Did you see the picture that i sent you? how do you think i look? can i improve?

OP, unsolicted PMs particularly of this nature are a sitewide no no and users may well report your PMs. In particular we have a policy about PMing users in PI. Please don't do this.
thanks

jonsnow1901

how can i let people see my pic so i can get advice? i am really struggling with my chaotic face. people talk about me behind my back about my looks. i was a very good looking child but got destroyed by puberty. i dont know where to turn. i feel too ugly to try dating as ive been told that im hideous

Tokyo

Hi jonsnow1901,

the reason we don't allow private message exchanges between posters is to protect both the person seeking help and those offering help from inadvertently giving bad advice - the full reasons are listed in the forum charter. In addition, rarely is the solution to 'being judged' as simple as slapping a photo up on the internet and asking people what you should change. I think if you give the thread a chance, you'll find that posters here have valuable advice to offer without ever needing a photo.

However we do take breaches of the charter here seriously for the benefit for all involved, so if you can take a read of the forum charter and confirm that you have done so in your next post, we would appreciate it, as further breaches of the charter (including further PM's) will result in the thread being closed - something we don't want to do unless absolutely necessary.

Regards,
Mike

jonsnow1901

jonsnow1901 wrote: »

how can i let people see my pic so i can get advice? i am really struggling with my chaotic face. people talk about me behind my back about my looks. i was a very good looking child but got destroyed by puberty. i dont know where to turn. i feel too ugly to try dating as ive been told that im hideous

OP, I think the real issue here is not your pic but that you know some unpleasant people who are putting you down. Are they supposed to be friends?

If you were "destroyed by puberty" maybe you mean skin issues - in which case you could see your GP.

I would also suggest seeing a counsellor regarding your self esteem which sounds like it's taken a battering, as anyone's would be, when surrounded by people calling you hideous. Going to see a counsellor will help you cope with them and maybe ultimately confront them or push them out of your life.

jonsnow1901

bluewolf wrote: »

OP, I think the real issue here is not your pic but that you know some unpleasant people who are putting you down. Are they supposed to be friends?

If you were "destroyed by puberty" maybe you mean skin issues - in which case you could see your GP.

I would also suggest seeing a counsellor regarding your self esteem which sounds like it's taken a battering, as anyone's would be, when surrounded by people calling you hideous. Going to see a counsellor will help you cope with them and maybe ultimately confront them or push them out of your life.

maybe you would understand better if you saw a pic? would you like me to send one? i really think puberty destroyed my facial structure as i was a very good looking child and got a lot of compliments. nowadays i really think the effects of puberty were drastic and led to me having a very chaotic face which i think hampers me in daily life. i dont know if i can do outside into society if i looks so chaotic. i need advice on how i look as i am not sure if i am really hideous or its all just people being mean.

dudara

Please do not offer a picture again. Your thread will be closed immediately if you do.

dudara

DoozerT6

I'm not sure what a 'chaotic' face is...OP, you sound very miserable. Is there something you can do in practical terms? I'm talking maybe saving up your money, and using it to help yourself. There is no need to go full Joan Rivers (RIP), but you know what I mean. Is the problem with your teeth? Visit a dentist or orthodontist and see what they suggest, maybe braces, bleaching etc. Do you have scarred skin from acne, or broken veins? These can both be treated successfully, look up a reputable laser clinic near you. Thinning hair? Shave it off!!!! Seriously, it's better to have a buzz cut than be trying to cover thinning locks or a bald patch with strands of hair. Lots of women women like a buzz cut Are you overweight/underweight or not toned? As suggested above, join a gym, get some nutritional advice from one of the trainers there, and motivate yourself to becoming fit, toned and healthy. And also as suggested, a decent wardrobe helps, don't be a fashion victim but looking sharp can only help you Whatever you look like, make the best of what you've got, and most importantly, BE the sort of guy you'd like to be mates with.

None of the above suggestions (apart from the haircut if needed) will give you overnight results, but a start is a start and OP, if you have real self-esteem issues and aren't simply venting here, then some professional counselling might be helpful too. Good luck!

Windorah

OP you need to chill! You sound really panicked and stressed. Did someone make a comment recently that has brought this on?

For what it's worth I have never ever seen someone who was so hideous they needed to stay indoors. Ever!

Look up body dysmorphic, you may be able to relate and as much as its said around here I would urge you to speak to your gp who may refer you to a counsellor.

Best of luck x

Addle

jonsnow1901 wrote: »

people talk about me behind my back about my looks.

How do you know this?

bee06

People generally don't tell ugly people that they are ugly so as someone else said I'd be inclined to think you are surrounded by some nasty people. Counselling for your self esteem would be a good idea I think. Go talk to your GP.