weve had internet shopping/internet dating. now here's internet sw......

newbie2013

We've had the internet shopping and internet dating thread and here's the internet swinging thread.

Have you, would you, have you even thought about it or is it a straight no-no before even thinking about it much.

I know a few married Cpls who 10 year ago wouldn't even cross the door but now their into this scene, their away for wknds away every 2nd week and you want to hear the stories they bring back with them. Mind blown to be honest.

There's swinging clubs opening all over the UK and some here in Ireland which always seem to do well. I jokingly asked the wife last year would she go when were drunk and she said shed think about it but I haven't had the balls to ask her again

So what's your thoughts on it

The One Doctor

Authorised cheating parties? Yeah, that'll really help the ol' relationship stability. The STI clinics will be delighted to see an increase in profits as well.

Mark Tapley

Sounds sleazy and sordid.

Shanotheslayer

The One Doctor wrote: »

Authorised cheating parties? Yeah, that'll really help the ol' relationship stability. The STI clinics will be delighted to see an increase in profits as well.

If only there something to help prevent STI's....

ancapailldorcha

The Internet's a great way to meet like minded people. I don't see what the problem is. Let consenting adults do whatever they please behind closed doors.

kneemos

Never know what sort of cnut you'd end up with.

The Backwards Man

Always preferred the roundabouts meself.

Senna

kneemos wrote: »

Never know what sort of cnut you'd end up with.

If you asked she might send you a picture of it first.

P_1

If a couple want to explore a new aspect to expressing their relationship that harms noone else then what business is it of others to look down their noses at them for it?

Saipanne

Shanotheslayer wrote: »

If only there something to help prevent STI's....

Meet Mr HPV...

the_syco

Shanotheslayer wrote: »

If only there something to help prevent STI's....

Full gimp suit, but what's the fun in that? A condom won't prevent a few of them.

ancapailldorcha

the_syco wrote: »

Full gimp suit, but what's the fun in that? A condom won't prevent a few of them.

A condom will dramatically reduce the risk of HIV transmission if used correctly.

B.A._Baracus

Whatever a couple wants to do in their bedroom is no-one elses business.
But personally speaking, letting another guy shag your girlfriend or wife? ..... Well, to put it in a nice way I will quote Mr T on this one and say "my momma didn't raise no fool"

catallus

This is what happens when people look for alternatives to religion.

Chattastrophe!

catallus wrote: »

This is what happens when people look for alternatives to religion.

Well ... that's a completely random association.

I'm not religious, but to me religion was never about sexual gratification, so I guess it never occurred to me to replace religion with anything sexual.

What religion are you part of, if you don't mind me asking? I really would never have associated swinging with any of the more mainstream religions myself, particularly not to the extent that I'd see one as a replacement for the other. But hey, whatever you're into ...

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

catallus wrote: »

This is what happens when people look for alternatives to religion.

"Church today, Dear?"

"No thanks honey, let's go to that swingers club over at the Higgins's instead."

catallus

Chattastrophe! wrote: »

[...] But hey, whatever you're into ...

That's the type of attitude I'm on about right there. :mad:

Whatever you're into, indeed.

Ihatecuddles

We did a bit of swinging before we got married.

Really enjoyed it, not for everyone obviously but we had fun while we did it.

P_1

catallus wrote: »

This is what happens when people look for alternatives to religion.

So it's not your cup of tea then. Just as well nobody's forcing you to partake in it now isn't it...

As to what in the name of Gordon D'Arcy's beard religion has to do with it now I must admit to being somewhat baffled.

michael999999

catallus wrote: »

This is what happens when people look for alternatives to religion.

Exactly. No sexual deviants in the Church is there

kneemos

mauzo! wrote: »

We did a bit of swinging before we got married.

Really enjoyed it, not for everyone obviously but we had fun while we did it.

Why did you stop?

Ihatecuddles

Mark Tapley wrote: »

Sounds sleazy and sordid.

Some people see it like that. I'll explain a bit about how a typical party would work.

It's mostly couples, and single women are seen as the jackpot. Not many single men, maybe 2.

Everyone is fully dressed, chatting and having drinks and snacks like a normal party. Towards the end of the night the host will flash the lights and then any woman who wants to get into something 'more comfortable' can go upstairs and change. If you don't want to, there's no pressure.

The women who do change come down in corsets, body stockings, completely nude, wearing bondage gear etc.

Then people get back to chatting, clothes come off and the party starts. There's no pressure to 'play' or stay, if you're not attracted to someone then you tell them so and they don't take offence.

Sometimes an orgy will start on one side of the room while people are fully clothed chatting on the other side!

Ihatecuddles

kneemos wrote: »

Why did you stop?

It was just something we both wanted to try, and we did. We had fun while it lasted but we met a lot of couples who grew to need it for their sex life or just for entertainment.

We had fun and that was that. We always said we'd stop once we got married.

Valetta

Thread title disappoints .

Thought it was today's dole thread.

Birneybau

catallus wrote: »

This is what happens when people look for alternatives to religion.

Better way to spend a Saturday evening/Sunday morning anyway.

Buona Fortuna

mauzo! wrote: »

Some people see it like that. I'll explain a bit about how a typical party would work.

It's mostly couples, and single women are seen as the jackpot. Not many single men, maybe 2.

Everyone is fully dressed, chatting and having drinks and snacks like a normal party. Towards the end of the night the host will flash the lights and then any woman who wants to get into something 'more comfortable' can go upstairs and change. If you don't want to, there's no pressure.

The women who do change come down in corsets, body stockings, completely nude, wearing bondage gear etc.

Then people get back to chatting, clothes come off and the party starts. There's no pressure to 'play' or stay, if you're not attracted to someone then you tell them so and they don't take offence.

Sometimes an orgy will start on one side of the room while people are fully clothed chatting on the other side!

In Ireland? With the lovely fields and the lovely cows and the lovely rose of trallee .... surely not

mauzo!

mauzo! wrote: »

Some people see it like that. I'll explain a bit about how a typical party would work.

It's mostly couples, and single women are seen as the jackpot. Not many single men, maybe 2.

Everyone is fully dressed, chatting and having drinks and snacks like a normal party. Towards the end of the night the host will flash the lights and then any woman who wants to get into something 'more comfortable' can go upstairs and change. If you don't want to, there's no pressure.

The women who do change come down in corsets, body stockings, completely nude, wearing bondage gear etc.

Then people get back to chatting, clothes come off and the party starts. There's no pressure to 'play' or stay, if you're not attracted to someone then you tell them so and they don't take offence.

Sometimes an orgy will start on one side of the room while people are fully clothed chatting on the other side!

Why did only the women get naked/sexyed-up? Did the men stand around fully dressed while the women were naked?

To each their own (as long as no one is coerced or cameras are used), but I'm far too selfish and don't like sharing. Rightly or wrongly, I'd be hurt if I was in love with someone and they didn't think I was enough.

seamus

Pretty sure internet swinging was around before internet dating and internet shopping OP. Probably not quite so organised though.

Candie wrote: »

Rightly or wrongly, I'd be hurt if I was in love with someone and they didn't think I was enough.

This sounds condescending as hell, but that's a little...naive.
It's a little like saying that your partner should only ever desire you and never desire anyone else. That you can only find pizza awesome, but not burgers too. But that's not going to happen. We have a biological imperative which makes us lustful and desire after objects of our sexual attraction.
Everyone's partner finds other people attractive and lusts after them, even in the tiniest way.

I guess swinging is the acknowledgement of this from both parties and the understanding that swinging is just the indulgence of those physical desires, as separate from any emotional involvement. The reason it usually involves older couples is because they'd be less self conscious and more sure about the solidness of their own relationships.

Even so, I imagine part of the attraction to it is the fact that it's mutual agreement. Your partner is off shagging someone else and it hurts a little, but it's OK because you are too. Then they come back to you and you go home together.
It's when your wife and Mr O'Leary make a beeline for eachother as soon as they walk in the door and spend time together outside of the swinging group that you're probably in trouble.

seamus

seamus wrote: »

Pretty sure internet swinging was around before internet dating and internet shopping OP. Probably not quite so organised though.
This sounds condescending as hell, but that's a little...naive.
It's a little like saying that your partner should only ever desire you and never desire anyone else. That you can only find pizza awesome, but not burgers too. But that's not going to happen. We have a biological imperative which makes us lustful and desire after objects of our sexual attraction.
Everyone's partner finds other people attractive and lusts after them, even in the tiniest way.

It's condescending alright, because there is a world of difference between being attracted to other people and acting on it. To expect someone to only find me attractive for the rest of their lives would be an expectation doomed to destroy me. It wouldn't be unreasonable to expect a partner not to act on that attraction though, unless I'd agreed to an open relationship, which I wouldn't for the reason I stated.

Attraction is a world away from having sex with another person, and that's what I'd find personally unpalatable.

Ihatecuddles

Candie wrote: »

Why did only the women get naked/sexyed-up? Did the men stand around fully dressed while the women were naked?

To each their own (as long as no one is coerced or cameras are used), but I'm far too selfish and don't like sharing. Rightly or wrongly, I'd be hurt if I was in love with someone and they didn't think I was enough.

Some of the men were naked, some were in boxers, it was whatever they were comfortable with.

Cameras were used, but only in one bedroom upstairs that everyone consented to. At the time myself and my now husband had just started seeing each other and I asked him if he would be interested in doing it with me. He was really into the idea!