Met a girl

LegacyUser

So I met a girl a while back.

It started off very well. We got along great and we had similar interests. We talked pretty much non stop everyday.

But here's the problem. We recently slept together and I've barely heard from her since. I send her a message and she replied she was busy. That's all I've heard from in nearly a week. I know that isn't a long time but she was eager to go on a date and she was eager to sleep together. For her to go so quiet all of a sudden is very strange.

I'm not sure what to do.

Tokyo

Being honest, the sudden change from talking nonstop every day to "I'm busy" or nothing at all isn't a good sign. It's possible of course that she is busy, however it's also very possible that she could be having second thoughts, or isn't interested in this developing into a relationship. If it were me I would call her to see when she was free, and if she wanted to grab a drink or something to eat. If she continues giving you the brush off, I'd take that as being my answer and move on...

LegacyUser

mike_ie wrote: »

Being honest, the sudden change from talking nonstop every day to "I'm busy" or nothing at all isn't a good sign. It's possible of course that she is busy, however it's also very possible that she could be having second thoughts, or isn't interested in this developing into a relationship. If it were me I would call her to see when she was free, and if she wanted to grab a drink or something to eat. If she continues giving you the brush off, I'd take that as being my answer and move on...

She's the first girl I've slept with in over a year. The thought that she could just walk away without a word leaves a bad taste in my mouth. It's just so frustrating. If she even let me know she wasn't interested then I'd at least have an answer and could move on.

gigglemuch82

Why don't you just ask her straight away - in the lines of 'Hey, I was just wondering if everything's ok since we haven't been talking much. You can tell me if you're not interested in me and I won't bother you again!' sorta way.

I think honesty is always the best policy. I've always told them if I wasn't interested in them after a couple dates and they've all appreciated it.

LegacyUser

So I decided to bite the bullet and send her a message seeing if she was free the weekend. She replied saying she was away. So I asked her straight out if she was avoiding me. She said she didn't think there was a spark. She didn't tell me because she thought it was obvious and she shouldn't have to tell me.

Ah well. So much for that. Life goes on I suppose. Mods can close this.

LegacyUser

By the way. Thanks for the advice

iusedtoknow

Perhaps she just wanted a ONS. There's nothing wrong with that - may be nice to have said it, but I think you may just have to move on from it.

jimd2

going anon wrote: »

So I decided to bite the bullet and send her a message seeing if she was free the weekend. She replied saying she was away. So I asked her straight out if she was avoiding me. She said she didn't think there was a spark. She didn't tell me because she thought it was obvious and she shouldn't have to tell me.

Ah well. So much for that. Life goes on I suppose. Mods can close this.

sounds like you dodged a bullet tbh

Tokyo

Closed at OP's request.