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Will I have regrets?

  • 22-08-2014 1:40pm
    #1
    Nitenite23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1 ✭


    I'm 26 years old, in a permanent job and a long term relationship. I just recently came back from a months travelling (which I'd never done before) and now my life just seems so unfulfilled. I didn't realise the lack of enjoyment I have in my life with constant worry about work and arguments with my partner. I feel like I was just working to exist. I was constantly attached to phones and tv and material goods, and not really doing much else. I threw out so many things when I returned and can't even watch tv. I feel stuck. Is it just the post holiday blues or what's wrong with me. I feel like I've missed out on so much. I always thought I wanted a settled lifestyle when now the very thought of it makes me what to cry. I've met some amazing people who I would otherwise never have met and experience so much more in my life in that month that I probably ever have. I just don't know if I'm being erratic because once I go then everything I have at home is lost. I just don't want to settle and regret it.


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  • #2
    Eir3
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9 ✭Eir3


    After a holiday or time away it can really open your mind to whats out there. Coming back to a regular job and doing un-fulfiling things in your spare time after having such a good time otherwise will bug you. Its an experience youve went and done. I dont think you should regret. If you didnt go on that trip you would have worked a whole month of your life doing potentially nothing productive. Life is about happiness. I just broke up with my girlfriend because i loved her and wanted her to be happy, you should talk to your partner if theres something you can do to bring back a bit of excitement in your life. Plan a day trip with him/her on your days off or go tally up how much a flight to scotland or wales and go away cheap enough to experience new places. Youve just opened your eyes to whats out there and if you want it bad enough youll get it. Good luck ! :) PM me if you want a chat.


  • #3
    SoFarSoGood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15 ✭SoFarSoGood


    Hi OP!

    I have never experienced what you describe personally, but somebody close to me went through something very similar when they returned home from a months travelling. Like you, they had never been away for such a prolonged period before, and when they returned they found it very hard to settle back into every day life. It's interesting, as I remember them telling me the very same re. Television, laptop, phone usage etc. they had no interest in any of the above anymore. Just to let you know, it took a few weeks but they did finally settle back in and find their feet again.

    There is no doubt about it- the world is a beautiful and fascinating place, and most people would tell you that if the opportunity arises to travel, grasp that opportunity tightly with both hands. Carpe diem! But I just have one or two questions to put to you. Firstly, have you considered asking your partner whether they would be interested in travelling with you- to share the experience together? Is it something you are determined to do alone if you decide to go? I am slightly puzzled as to why you feel that if you do go travelling this means that "everything at home is lost". As you know, many people move away from their home country these days, for one reason or another. Indeed it may be difficult initially to settle back in on your return, but I would by no means say that all would be lost? Do you feel that those close to you would not be pleased if you decided to go? Also, have you considered that there is perhaps a tiny element of "the grass is greener"? I can only assume that you were not working but travelling and living the good life for the month that you were away. To move away on a more permanent basis it is very likely that you would have to work wherever you choose to go. It could be a very different lifestyle to the one you have built up in your head. This may be something you have thought about already but I just wanted to gently point it out to you.

    OP I hope I don't come across as a complete party pooper in my post. We're here for a good time, not a long time! If you feel that travelling is the right thing for you then it absolutely is worth serious thought and planning. I just wanted to point out a few 'practical' issues that struck me when I read your post. I really hope everything works out and I wish you the best of luck!


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