Want to give her oral

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Bit of background, I'm early 20s and in my first ever relationship.

With the girl 2 months and a bit, we've slept together once but only had foreplay and mutual masturbation (no intercourse yet).

I was thinking of giving her oral sex to spice things up more before we have intercourse. Would like to do it as I'm curious about how it feels. How can a guy do down on a woman and be safe? If we shower together beforehand? Any other precautions to take?

Cheers.

Penny Tration

Most people I know wouldn't use protection while giving oral.

However, if you want to be safe, maybe have a look at dental dams?

Technique, I can't help you with. Different women like different things! Just don't be too sloppy :pac:

LegacyUser

Thanks.

Not sure I want to use a dental dam, just wouldn't feel natural.

Probably going to suggest showering together, and if she agrees I'll go for it.

Ambersky

Although you cant say that performing oral sex on a woman is a no risk activity it is considered a low to very low risk activity carrying a much lower risk than performing oral sex on a man. Dental dams or cling wrap are sometimes suggested but research shows that they are rarely used in practice.
Do a bit of research judge for yourself and you will find quite a bit of advice and instruction etc on YouTube.
Here is a fairly good link.

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K_P

is it safe? wrote: »

How can a guy do down on a woman and be safe? If we shower together beforehand? Any other precautions to take?

If you're looking to be safe, a shower won't really protect you from any potential STIs. But as a previous poster pointed out, this would be quite a low risk activity. It'll make sure you're both clean and there are no unfortunate hygiene issues to consider, but not sure it would make anything "safer" as such. Enjoy!

Tokyo

If you are looking for tips and advice as to what to do beforehand and during, why don't you talk to her about it, and what she would like?? I'm sure that you can get the general gist of what to do from the internet, but every person is different, and what is pleasurable for one woman may not be so for another, and if you're in a sexually active relationship with each other then you should be comfortable enough to discuss each others needs with each other.

Regarding showering, precautions, again, discuss it with her first. She may not appreciate being frogmarched off to the shower because of what somebody posted here

strobe

The risk associated with unprotected oral sex is variable based on what STD a woman may or may not have. Herpes would be relatively high risk of infection for instance, from you to her or her to you, 4-10% chance of infection at low risk times (when there are no visible sores, far higher if there are). It's estimated that 10% of men have a HPV infection (which can increase the risk of cervical cancer in women and oropharyngeal (throat and mouth) cancer in men and that unprotected oral sex is responsible for the climbing rate. The best way to be safe would be for both of you to have an STI test done prior to engaging in any form of unprotected sex, and your girlfriend should also have a specific HPV test which may not be covered in a standard STI screening (have her ask).

tSubh Dearg

Top tip regarding dental dams if you decide to use one - you do not put it to your mouth, you put it against your genitals.

Talliesin once wrote a great post about the basics of oral sex on women and (speaking from experience here) he is bang on:
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=52297817&postcount=13