What do I do/say in this situation?

Mental Mickey

Maybe I'm reading too much into this, but here goes:

I've been going out with someone for the past 9 months, and I'm completely nuts about her, and she is about me(or so she says?).

However, an issue has risen its head that I just can't get my head around....

I want her to come visit my Mother's grave, but she says she can't because it's the same cemetery that her ex-boyfriend is buried in(his family live nearby too). She won't come to it because she's afraid that his parents will see her with another guy(I went to school with him).

I feel that she us over-analysing things too much, and is putting their feelings ahead if mine!?

Obviously, I would really like her to be there!! She knows this, but I think she is over-worried about what her ex's family think, instead of being more concerned about our relationship.

Any advice welcome.

CaraMay

I don't see why you are putting pressure on her to visit the grave. I know it's important for you to visit it but not everyone is the same. I don't visit graves and wouldn't expect my other half to even if I did.

I think you need to let it drop.

Tilly

You cannot force someone to visit a grave. She may be using the ex bf family as an excuse. I'd never dream of asking my bf to come to my Dads grave. If he asks to come then ok but putting someone on the spot by asking them to go to someone they don't know grave is not fair.

shalalala

Maybe she would find it hard emotionally going back there? I think I would if put in her shoes. I would leave it OP

Meauldsegosha

You should let it go, don't put pressure on her to go to the cemetery. I think you are reading too much into it.

Mental Mickey

Thanks guys. You're all right. Mods - please close thread.