Should I just let him go?

LegacyUser

Hey, just looking for some advice please...

Basically, I was seeing a guy for a brief but intense period of time about 3 years ago. I fell head over heels & he said he felt the same. Long story short, he got back with his ex and ended things with me following a bereavement in the family. I was heartbroken, and it took me a long time to get over it. Fast forward to about 3 months ago, and he gets in contact asking me for a drink/ coffee. Eventually I said yes and met for a coffee. He tells me he's seperated now and we get on like a house on fire. I've met up with him a few times sine then, all initiated by him & he texts me every day. We have kissed, but that's as far as its gone.

Last night I invited him over to my house (wanting to move things along I guess).. He was down the country but said that he would call over when he gets back to Dublin. Heard nothing from him for hours until I texted to see what the story was, & he said he was in the pub in Dublin. I said to just leave it, and not bother calling over.

I've been very cool since. Is it weird that he texts me all the time, and when I invite him over he goes drinking instead? Does it sound like he has no interest? I guess I just don't want to fall for him again after getting so hurt the last time.

Tokyo

I don't want to be cruel by saying this OP, but you don't have anything *to* let go. While his behaviour in the past can be somewhat explained away by the shock of a sudden bereavement, his behaviour now can't. You had made arrangements for him to call round to you when he got in - he was in a pub down the road and didn't even extend you the courtesy of a phone call or text message. Those aren't the actions of someone who is remotely sure of their feelings for you, or even cares about you. Move on and find someone who will.

Lou.m

Anon_confused wrote: »

Hey, just looking for some advice please...

Basically, I was seeing a guy for a brief but intense period of time about 3 years ago. I fell head over heels & he said he felt the same. Long story short, he got back with his ex and ended things with me following a bereavement in the family. I was heartbroken, and it took me a long time to get over it. Fast forward to about 3 months ago, and he gets in contact asking me for a drink/ coffee. Eventually I said yes and met for a coffee. He tells me he's seperated now and we get on like a house on fire. I've met up with him a few times sine then, all initiated by him & he texts me every day. We have kissed, but that's as far as its gone.

Last night I invited him over to my house (wanting to move things along I guess).. He was down the country but said that he would call over when he gets back to Dublin. Heard nothing from him for hours until I texted to see what the story was, & he said he was in the pub in Dublin. I said to just leave it, and not bother calling over.

I've been very cool since. Is it weird that he texts me all the time, and when I invite him over he goes drinking instead? Does it sound like he has no interest? I guess I just don't want to fall for him again after getting so hurt the last time.

There is nothing to let go of. Never go for someone who is hot and cot because in reality they are never hot at all for you. He has no interest I agree with the above poster.

Sorry to have to say it op. But now you can date new people

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies..I guess I knew the answer, but thought I may have been overreacting a bit.. I guess I just need to cut ties and move on, but its difficult as he's constantly texting :-(

Stavro Mueller

Don't reply to his texts and he'll soon stop. If you've got a smartphone it's possible to block his number.

Dellnum

It sounds like he was at a loose end and wanted company, so he got in touch with you and it was all innocent but as soon as you tried to move things along he backed off, and this means that he likes your company but doesn't want a relationship with you. Sorry.